So there's this guy....

[MisStarrlight]

Although we never officially dated, he's my first (and only?) true love. I haven't seen him in about 2 years, haven't spoken to him in 8 months (at which point he told me that he never left me, that he loved me & wished he was with me & not with her). Sometimes I miss him like crazy, sometimes I'm ok.

So anyways...I had a dream last night that he was getting married & he called me to try to stop it. So I beat the crap out of his wife, but he ended up going through with the ceremony...and then he ended up with me on his wedding night.

I woke up crying & now I can't get him out of my mind. He lives up by my parents' (which is why we never dated), but I'd seriously move back for him...well, I'm considering moving back anyways, but this would seal the deal.

So, my issue...I need to see him. I need to talk to him to see where things stand-or at least to say goodbye, but his gf is completely threatened by me (I guess with good reason, but I don't know that she knows who I am). She deleted me off his MySpace & pretty much won't let him talk to me (he parked next to me at the gas station over the summer & didn't even acknowledge me because she was there).
However, I guess my mom saw him a few weeks ago-he's back at his old job...so I can go see him at work without worrying about her.

I need opinons...should I go over there next time I'm home? What should I say to him?

 

[Patricia225]

If you need closure then i would call him tell him you need to talk and set up a time to meet and a place.

Good luck.

 

[Bernadette]

I think no matter what you do in this situation you are going to be the other woman the sneaking around under-handed type. He has a g/f and if he didn't want to be with her, he wouldn't. It sucks but would you want someone doing that to you with your boyfriend? I understand tha tyou feel that you need closure or answers, but I think him ignoring you when he saw you should be a very clear answer.

 

[MisStarrlight]

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Originally Posted by Bernadette I think no matter what you do in this situation you are going to be the other woman the sneaking around under-handed type. He has a g/f and if he didn't want to be with her, he wouldn't. It sucks but would you want someone doing that to you with your boyfriend? I understand tha tyou feel that you need closure or answers, but I think him ignoring you when he saw you should be a very clear answer.

I totally understand what you mean...and if he chose to stay with her I wouldn't do anything-cause as much as I have been a homewrecker in the past, I'm not about to do it anymore.

And as far as the ignoring me thing, that's what I would think too, but then when he didn't mention anything when we spoke (after that incident) he didn't mention it at all & talked like nothing was wrong, so I'm thinking maybe he didn't see me (but my car at that time was very distinctive-purple & had a ton of stickers on the back)...so I dunno.

 

[Bernadette]

Well, maybe for peace of mind, you should go for it and talk to him. I would only pursue it this final time and let that determine the future. If not, you might always be wondering.

 

[Sikfrmthemirror]

oh my i have one of those. and hes someone i measure them all against. hes the poster on my wall that i build my other collection around you know what I mean?

theres already problems in their relationship if shes worried about you and deleting you off his page. well maybe not problems but im sure shes threatned by it.

maybe this is were life sets in and if they break up one day and you find him at the gas station alone haha. then theres your shot.

maybe you should let things fall into place. see what happens.

i know i did and him and i are still friends he called me the other day and i was so shocked after a couple of years. i cant believe he still thinks about me.

 

[xbeatofangelx]

I second Bernadette. If he says that he'd rather be with you, than he should just be with you. Sounds like a bunch of... hehe, or, he could be a great guy who just doesn't have the guts to break up with his current girlfriend.

If I were in your place, I would find someone who is willing to be with you now. This guy may be one in a million, but there are 6 billion people out there.

 

[Beauty Mark]

Well, I think it was awful him to say that to you when he has a girlfriend. He needs to breakup with her if he really feels that way.

If you think you can handle the outcome (any outcome), I'd say go for it. If you think it's going to hurt or mess with you more, do not.

I tried having that talk recently with this girl I messed around with (via email because she's halfway across the world). It didn't go well and she said a bunch of awful things to me, to the point I wondered if she really saw me as this horrible person, why are even friends?

I saw her about 3 weeks ago, and it felt so awkward for me. She acted like nothing happened, the emails and the whole situation that sparked the need for closure. She and I are somewhat friends, but it still breaks my heart, and I'm still not over her I discovered, even though I don't know why. I don't know if I shouldn't have had that talk. If you think you can handle an outcome like that (one of the worst case scenarios), I would say it's better to talk then. I'm sure this guy isn't as crazy as this girl is.