Yes definitely white/gold colors and soft pinks, how about playing down fushia or pink pearl pigment? How about swish or pink freeze... although they may be a little similar to pink venus... if you look good in dark pinks/fushia, I would actually suggest just playing down fushia piggie or even sushi flower... or what about pink couture shadestick? If thats too light maybe you could try gracious me with maybe a bit of pink opal overtop of it...
Pink Couture/gracious me as a base, pink opal/white gold as a highlighter, fushia to line prehaps? That way it isn't going to stand out but you still get a little bit of brightness... just an idea I threw around... no idea if it looks good LOL...
And while I was at MAC last night, pinkarat sorta appealed to me as a lustreglass... it seems bright but more of a stain with glitter, that might be quite nice... again just throwing ideas around... hope that helps a lil' bit... If you need more help, do ask, I'm more than happy to help... also, if you decide what to go with, post some pics, I'd love to see them, your dress sounds AMAZING!