There are some places your children just should NOT be...

[MissResha]

kids will be kids. they will fuss. scream. cry. kick.

the parents who ignore this, pretend it's not happening. the ones who shit there and don't correct it. or the ones who are too busy to get off the phone and stop gossiping and actually PAY ATTENTION to their kids needs..."oh my kids crying but im on the phone with my homegirl...here's a toy Billy go play with that mommy's busy"...wtf

i have a huge problem with that.

again, i looove kids. cant wait to pop out a few lol. but hey, not everyone with a vagina should breed. i think the general vibe of the original comment was a vent/rant about parents who let their kids run amok and don't do a single damn thing about it. kids runnin around breakin shit. screaming in the movie theater. while they just sit there. thats...unacceptable imo. do your job as a parent and the world will continue to spin the way it should.

(not directing this to ANYONE here because frankly, i dont know any of you yet lol. just making a very very general statement

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[MissResha]

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Originally Posted by AngelBunny I am a mom with two toddlers ... both boys ... one four and the other two. I will be the first to admit they are handfuls, but they are also incredibly sweet children and I am not just saying that because they are mine. They have the same issues every other toddler does ... short attention span, neediness, inquisitive mind, etc. They are not habitually loud or rude. I leave them with a sitter that I trust sometimes because I know that the outing would be easier on the whole world if they stay at home, but sometimes I just want to be with my kids and the social environment is good for them. I am not about to leave my kids at home so that I can go to the mall just because some MA wants to be a bitch to me and the kids when they aren't doing anything wrong. I WILL spank them if they act up and leave if they are being too much for the people around them. This reminds me of my experiences with the MAC stores here. I have a pro store and a free standing ... and both of them completely ignore me if I go in with my kids. Even if the kids are being quiet and in strollers (which they always are) they act like I am not even standing there for twenty minutes waiting for them. I actually got upset (I mean literally in tears upset) with the manager of one store because I went in with them on a Tuesday afternoon ... was one of three customers in the store ... and they still ignored my presence. However ... if I go in by myself I get swamped by sales people because they know that I spend serious cash on MAC. As a mom it hurts and upsets me that people wouldn't want my kids around in a public place. I of course would not take them to an adult store or somewhere they would be an obvious distraction (adult movies, etc.) ... but if I want to go eat at Pappadeaux's (semi-expensive and usually upscale) and take my kids with me people can kiss my rear that my kids are there. They deserve a good meal just like everyone else ... and I would rather spend my money on a nice dinner for them than a babysitter. I am a mom ... not a damn corpse ... and if you have a problem with my kids being somewhere feel free to tell me. If they are really being rude I will make them apologize to you and I will apologize as well and do my best to rectify the situation. If they are just being normal kids then I will promptly thank you for your input and ignore your unfounded complaints.

yea i totally agree and completely understand your viewpoints. and i'm just glad to know that you would do something about it, because sooooo many parents wouldn't. i used to work retail. most of the horror stories i have involve ignored kids while mom is in the dressing room lol. so kudos to you!

 

[iio]

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Originally Posted by Professor Fate the recent outbreak in misbehaved infants and kids in general is the pussification/glorification of this country. parents worship their damn kids and let them do whatever they want because they are scared of CPS,what their neighbors will think,or maybe their kid will have "issues" when they grow up..i remember when i was younger and i got spankings and punishment for doing/saying the wrong thing.i have no issues and now i am told by my parents that i was a great kid. now, i rarely see any of that with parents and their kids these days. if it isn't the rampant scare of child abuse, then it's the glorification of the kids.parents are spoiling kids more than ever,it's sickening.children are our future,no child left behind,save the children...blah blah blah. there is a fine line between good parenting and poor parenting.there are parents out there that treat their child like they are the god damn savior of the human race. yes, i am totally sick of dealing with people bringing their 2(or younger) year old to an action/thriller movie and having to listen to the god damn kid cry and talk during the movie.the same goes with the other places that mac_pixie04 has listed.

EXACTLY! I was a nanny for these kids and their neighbor thought I was abusing them when really I was giving them naps and time outs. They would go out of their way to get out of it and that is screaming! and crying! and whenever thier mom comes home and I tell her that they were bad she would just talk to them in the sweetest voice ever and just kiss them all over. Im like what!? they need a spankin thats what.

But I hate it when parents bring a BABY to the movie theater. It annoys the heck out of me. Of course the baby is going to fuss or cry when it hears loud noises. Like go find a babysitter!

 

[lovekrumpet]

I think I'm a bit more....shall we say open-minded?
I think spanking a child is definitely something I would never ever do to my child. They are people too, and they don't deserve to be humilated and disrespected in such an awful way. Yes, they may be younger than us and less experienced, but I don't see that as an excuse to go around hitting them when they "misbehave". I'm part of a radical unschooling community, however, so my opinion is most certainly biased by my beliefs.

I think that sitting down and talking with a child, trying to have them understand the concept you are trying to get across is a much better way of attempting to stop them from "misbehaving". I also think that a lot of people (especially those without children) feel that when a child is acting like a child it's "misbehaving", which is unfair. They aren't as developed as adults and I don't think it is fair to expect them to behave like an adult =)

That being said, I don't think a screaming child is acceptable in a movie theatre environment (or many other environments), though at no fault of the child. I don't think there are many places where a child should not be, as some children develop differently and more quickly than others and will therefore be able to handle more "adult" situations faster. I think it's a matter parents should be deciding on a case by case basis with their own children, not something the general public should decide for them ^_^

 

[M.A.C. head.]

I'm a mom, and my daughter is very well behaved when we go out, even at the age of nearly 2. This thread is VERY offensive, even as an active parent who has a great child.

We (parents) don't have to stop living just because we have kids. Our children are a part of our lives, so they're going to be there with us while we live them. And everyone has different circumstances, which others are guaranteed not be aware of. I would write out a whole rant of my own, but I'll keep it short and just say "I agree with Shimmer".

 

[Korms]

This thread reminded me of something I witnessed recently at work. I am currently working on a very busy, acute medical ward. Obviously, relatives visit regularly and often bring small children and babies with them. I often have debates with myself as to the appropriateness of bringing babies/toddlers onto wards as visitors. On the one hand it's nice for the patient to be visited by the child, in some cases I'm sure it is the highlight of their day. Additionally, if the patient is the Mother of the child then of course some contact is needed between the two. However, I have witnessed children who are independantly mobile being brought into the ward as visitors and pretty much being allowed to run free. On more than one occasion I have had to ask parents to please keep their children in check because I have caught them disconnecting oxygen tubes from their supply and messing about with the emergency alarms.

 

[nursee81]

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Originally Posted by AngelBunny I am a mom with two toddlers ... both boys ... one four and the other two. I will be the first to admit they are handfuls, but they are also incredibly sweet children and I am not just saying that because they are mine. They have the same issues every other toddler does ... short attention span, neediness, inquisitive mind, etc. They are not habitually loud or rude. I leave them with a sitter that I trust sometimes because I know that the outing would be easier on the whole world if they stay at home, but sometimes I just want to be with my kids and the social environment is good for them. I am not about to leave my kids at home so that I can go to the mall just because some MA wants to be a bitch to me and the kids when they aren't doing anything wrong. I WILL spank them if they act up and leave if they are being too much for the people around them. This reminds me of my experiences with the MAC stores here. I have a pro store and a free standing ... and both of them completely ignore me if I go in with my kids. Even if the kids are being quiet and in strollers (which they always are) they act like I am not even standing there for twenty minutes waiting for them. I actually got upset (I mean literally in tears upset) with the manager of one store because I went in with them on a Tuesday afternoon ... was one of three customers in the store ... and they still ignored my presence. However ... if I go in by myself I get swamped by sales people because they know that I spend serious cash on MAC. As a mom it hurts and upsets me that people wouldn't want my kids around in a public place. I of course would not take them to an adult store or somewhere they would be an obvious distraction (adult movies, etc.) ... but if I want to go eat at Pappadeaux's (semi-expensive and usually upscale) and take my kids with me people can kiss my rear that my kids are there. They deserve a good meal just like everyone else ... and I would rather spend my money on a nice dinner for them than a babysitter. I am a mom ... not a damn corpse ... and if you have a problem with my kids being somewhere feel free to tell me. If they are really being rude I will make them apologize to you and I will apologize as well and do my best to rectify the situation. If they are just being normal kids then I will promptly thank you for your input and ignore your unfounded complaints.

I completely agree with you.

 

[concertina]

I got a holiday job at B&BW to help pay for a cruise my husband and I are going on in March.

I have yet to see a parent in that store keep their child: with them/out of the testers/from running and knocking things over/paying attention to their behavior and whereabouts, etc. It has been awful.

Today, about an hour after the mall opened, I was on the cash register, completing a sale for a man and his young 3 or 4 year old daughter started whining for a lip gloss. He said something like 'not today, honey' and she went into melt down. Started *hitting* him! He did nothing, the mom said 'stop, honey, stop'; she continued. And then the screaming. And the going limp so the mom couldn't pick her up. And the kicking. And the screaming. The ear-shattering screaming. And then they didn't leave for another 5 minutes or so; the mom saw something else she wanted. So the father held the screaming/kicking daughter and followed his wife around while she continued to shop.

So yeah. I have no issues with children in child-appropriate places; like, the mall. But for the love of all things holy and in consideration of the people around you, PARENT YOUR CHILD!!

 

[AdlersMommy22]

^Holy God, no freaking shit..

At my work, I had these parents that had 3 kids that were probably between 4-6 years of age... they were RUNNING into our kitchen, (we have an opened viewing kitchen.. the whole thing is glass enclosed so you can see pretty much everything that's happening which is really cool)... but on MORE than one occasion, I was walking out of the kitchen with 2-3 plates of STEAMING hot food, and these stupid ass little kids were running in and out of my legs....

Another time I was back there getting drinks and the kid ran INTO the kitchen and picked up a bunch of croutons and threw them at my expo. I thought he was going to flip shits. My manager finally went and politely asked them to keep their children in line.

As this was happening one of the little girls ran into me as I was carrying a steak out to run it to a table, (still IN the kitchen) and I dropped it all over the floor. I was PISSED at this point. The kid starts SCREAMING and CRYING and pointing at me....

I might mention that I was about 6 months very pregnant at this time. I looked at the parents and said "Can you just keep your children OUT of the kitchen please???"

The mom lookedat me and said "well they're kids, kids will be kids. What do you want me to do?"

I just lookedat her and said "If my child was acting like that in a resteraunt, I would BEAT HIS ASS."

I got written up for it but when I got back in the kitchen a handfull of my co-workers were clapping for me lol.

Kids WILL be kids, but parents MUST be parents.

 

[ticki]

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Originally Posted by AdlersMommy22 The mom lookedat me and said "well they're kids, kids will be kids. What do you want me to do?"

whenever i hear somebody use that excuse, it annoys the ever living piss out of me. be a freaking parent. learn to control your child or don't let them be seen in public. my 2 cousins have been coddled and babied from birth. one is now in high school and the other is due to start middle school. both are worthless. they don't listen to authority, can't do anything for themselves. i just want to smack them upside the head most days.

 

[hawaii02]

I've taken my daughter to my salon-but it's very casual.

Otherwise, I do wholeheartedly agree with your list. It's a reason I haven't been to Pier 1 in months

 

[vocaltest]

I work in a hairdressers and one thing I've never understood is why a client comes in and brings practically their whole family with them? Some people will bring their mum, boyfriend, best friend with them... something I've never understood but thats a different point.

Anyway, most of the time, if they bring their children they're well behaved, they sit and they colour in, and there's even one girl who's sooo sweet and she'll get the broom and sweep up hair bless her lol. But, there's one woman, who I'm not even sure if she still comes to our salon (she used to come in every 8 weeks on a Friday evening, but I no longer work Friday nights), who would come in with her two kids, one probably aged 3-4, the other in a pushchair, and they both would NOT STOP screaming. The toddler would be running around everywhere, and do you know what? She would sit there reading her magazine and not do anything about it. Not only is it annoying to the employees, its annoying to other clients. They come here to relax, not to gain a headache. When she was in, every client I served would all say 'why doesn't she shut them up?' It wasn't as if she was just in for a cut and blow dry so she would be there max 45 mins, she was there for a full head of foils and a cut and blow dry, so well over two hours! I understand that childcare can be an issue, but she didn't even begin to calm them down or entertain them... ugh. Not quite sure where I'm going with this.. but yeah, my point in here!

 

[frankenstain]

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Originally Posted by MAC_Pixie04 I wouldn't swear up a storm at a Toy Store full of kids.

I do...