Time taken until you're 'official' question

[ncsugrl09]

Hii! So I'm curious what people's experiences are regarding how long it took you to become official with a guy *or gal. As in how many dates did you take before you knew you wanted to be officially together? Did you even discuss it, or was it just mutual that you knew you were together?

I don't want to take things too fast but I also think I am pretty sure I am ready with my guy right now. It hasn't been terribly long weeks wise, but we do talk and see each other much more than once a week or something. But I just wanted to see what other people had experienced before thinking more about it. Thanks guys!

 

[ashleydawn]

Well with my bf and I it was about 3 months in that one of our mutual friends finally said well are you guys bf/gf or what? and he said "yeah I guess" haha real romantic huh? But we're probably not the best example cause before me he hadn't really dated anyone in a long time so he was slightly relationship retarded, and I didn't want to push it and scare him away cause that's why I let it go that long! We had been acting like bf/gf for quite a bit before that though, just didn't discuss it.

 

[TISH1124]

It has varied for me...depends on the situation....With my current husband we were commited to one another in about 6 months...But in past relationships it has been as early as a month or so

 

[kdemers1221]

i met my boyfriend my freshman year of college he lived down the hall from me. we had a serious back and forth for about 4 months. i couldn't decide if i wanted a relationship but after a weekend apart i realized i really wanted to be with him and pretty much told him he was gonna be my boyfriend. haha. and its almost 2 years later. i guess you'll just feel it when the time is right. there won't be any doubt.

 

[3jane]

xkcd - A Webcomic - Boyfriend

 

[NutMeg]

My bf and I made eyes at each other for a couple of months before we became official. It was in high school, so everyone thought we were dating long before we actually were. It actually gives me tingles to think about, so I think I'll go reminisce for a bit.

 

[xxManBeaterxx]

From the very first time i met my husband until we made it official took about 3 months, I was 16. Hmm how did we know it was "official"?? It just sort of happened, one night after a very long conversation about life we both just kind of knew we wanted to be together for a very long time. I remember we used to spend countless hours on the phone. OMG i even remember we started talking on the phone when the sunset and we were still talking by the time the sunrised...

I think couples can become exclusive within a few weeks or even days of knowing one another. All it means is you arent free to date anyone else anymore, it doesnt mean you guys have to get married. "Fast" to me is if you move in within one month of dating, get married by 6 months, and have a baby soon after.

 

[Willa]

We both knew we wanted a serious relationship, we took our time on everything... maybe 1 ½ month after, we started talking about being serious when we were watching tv. There was a show that talked about being truthfull to one person... I looked at him and directly asked if we were ready to comit to each other. He said yes instantly.

 

[ncsugrl09]

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Originally Posted by 3jane xkcd - A Webcomic - Boyfriend

Hahahahahaaa.....I must share this with my math-loving brother in law.

 

[kittykit]

It took us 3 months to be 'official'. Nobody except our very close friends knew we were dating.

 

[MissResha]

it took me and my bf about a month before we started using "titles". and we aren't big on titles but one time he was on the phone with his brother and was like "Man, leave me alone. stop calling me. i'm with my girl, go away" so i shot a look at him and he blushed. and he's been my lil ogre ever since.

 

[M.A.C. head.]

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Originally Posted by MissResha it took me and my bf about a month before we started using "titles". and we aren't big on titles but one time he was on the phone with his brother and was like "Man, leave me alone. stop calling me. i'm with my girl, go away" so i shot a look at him and he blushed. and he's been my lil ogre ever since.

Now that's just CUTE!

 

[MissResha]

LOL thx. his brother is a major cockblocker though. i mean, he has a woman, correction - he has a fiance! but everytime my sweety and i try to get close, his spidey-sense goes off and he ends up calling and ruining the mood. grrrrr.

 

[LMD84]

i think thaat the whole dating thing and being exclusive is very american. in the uk we don't tend to 'date'. i went out once with my now hubby before we became boyfriend and girlfriend. i can see why some people want to wait but i think if you both want it then make it official as soon as you can!

 

[FiestyFemme]

I think it was maybe a month and a half before the BF and I were "official". We'd both been thinking about it, but neither of us had said anything. This crazy kiosk lady at the mall was giving us the 3rd degree one night ("Is this your husband?" "Boyfriend?" "Friend?" "OMG, how do you not know what you are?" Yeeeeah LOL), and that kind of got the ball rolling for us to talk about it. I think neither one of us wanted to bring it up and risk rejection, but it turned out we were both thinking the same things.

 

[x0besoz]

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Originally Posted by MissResha LOL thx. his brother is a major cockblocker though. i mean, he has a woman, correction - he has a fiance! but everytime my sweety and i try to get close, his spidey-sense goes off and he ends up calling and ruining the mood. grrrrr.

LMFAO! that used to happen all the time with me and my bf but when we hang out we have a no cell fone use rule that i always break lol

neways i think it depends on the people involved and the situation what works for some doesnt work for other =]

 

[jetplanesex]

My boyfriend and I had been 'courting' as he calls it for about a month, maybe almost two. I think we were hanging out on my bed and he was like 'Soo... are you my girlfriend?' and I kind of squealed and asked 'Did you just ask me to be your girlfriend?!' and that was that... two years later, here we are!

 

[rockin26]

I think if you're spending more than 4 days/nights a week together over a few weeks then it would be safe you say your on the 'official' level.

My instinct is to just go with my gut, if it feels right it's probably there. Currently I'm single and all my gut keeps saying is 'where is he?!?'

 

[Septemba]

I don't even remember how it happened, I just pursued him until he weakened.

 

[blindpassion]

With my current bf we met on Canada day ( July 1st ) and we started dating July 20th

We spent almost everyday together after we met. We did talk about it - and he formally asked me to be his gf.