"Toddlers and Tiaras"?
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TISH1124
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Just so glad I have a boy....Not sure how I could handle all that with my daughter...Probably wouldn't and she would hate me...My dh has two daughters and you would have to slit his throat before he allowed it with them at that young of an age...But men are more protective I think of their girls.
Did I mention I am glad I have aboy?
Did I mention I am glad I have aboy?
kdemers1221
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That show kind of makes me sick. For me its teaching those girls unhealthy habits and standards of beauty. I mean spray tans at 6, fake teeth because their baby ones fell out and they're adult ones haven't come in yet. When they grow up I can't imagine the pressure they're gonna feel to be perfect. Plus it seems they're missing out on a childhood. Not to mention it seems like a lot of the time its mothers dream not the child's.
panda0410
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Pageants = parents living vicariously.....
I cant stand them and like you Tish my hubby would slit MY throat if I ever entered our daughter into one of them. I dont like what they represent and some of the "looks" created for such little girls is frightening in my mind.
If you want a well groomed daughter then a deportment school is a much better way of achieving that; at least we wont see 6 year olds with heavy makeup and innapropriate dress looks parading a stage!!!
I cant stand them and like you Tish my hubby would slit MY throat if I ever entered our daughter into one of them. I dont like what they represent and some of the "looks" created for such little girls is frightening in my mind.
If you want a well groomed daughter then a deportment school is a much better way of achieving that; at least we wont see 6 year olds with heavy makeup and innapropriate dress looks parading a stage!!!
TISH1124
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^^ I know it reminds me of that Jon Benet Ramsey little girl that was murdered...every pricture they showed of her she looked like a 25 y/o midget....She has so much makeup on ...the clothes were so adult like...It was just heart breaking to say the least. We want our kids to act like kids yet we throw them into adult attire and make them act like they are 25 when they are 7 years old and should be playing with crayons and barbie dolls ...not lipstick and pantyhose
M.A.C. head.
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I just want my kid to be a damn kid. I think little girls acting really girlie is cute, but this stuff takes it a bit far. I think I'd love the pageants if they featured the girls being EXACTLY how they are, and showcasing them dancing or singing or performing in an age appropriate way, and talking about their favorite things to do at school or with their families, etc. I know, I'm dreaming. But even then, what use is a pageant? IDK
IMO this pageant stuff is no different than parents who push their kids to play a sport, instrument, or be perfect with their academics. It's all sick to me.
IMO this pageant stuff is no different than parents who push their kids to play a sport, instrument, or be perfect with their academics. It's all sick to me.
TISH1124
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^^ Damnit...I pushed my son into Basketball because he was sitting around getting chubby...He so sucks at it...but he has fun sucking up and down the court so I just let him go every week and embaress me to the fullest ...He will be 6'7 when he is a grown I bet and have no b-ball skills whatsoever ...there goes my dreams of being a NBA Mom...so disheartening
But hell....it's his life he can suck at B-Ball if he desires!
MissResha
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^^see, i feel that. if your kid is gettin plump, any form of exercise so that they dont get health problems later, is fine. absolutely fine, and a mothers job. if my kid was sittin around eatin cheetos and playing wii all day, i'd send his ass outside to do a jumping jack or two. then i'd regulate his diet.
but this kinda crap...these moms...woo buddy...lemme not get started..
but this kinda crap...these moms...woo buddy...lemme not get started..
jenntoz
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The worst part of this show is onthe TLC website you can rate the little girls...people are actually only giving these little girls 3's as a score. Now, I don't approve of this show, but it is so sad to see a pic of a little toddler & see a rating of 2.5 under her little face
M.A.C. head.
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The key HERE is "but he has fun". And I don't think that's pushing him into it, it's just something that you gave him the opportunity to do, and you're trying to keep him healthy.
If the kids are enjoying it and they LIKE it, that's great! But when a parent pushes their child into something that they don't want to do that's just messed up. And when they put a sport before academics, or make them practice 4 or 5 hours a day, at the age of 8...that's what I'm talking about. Just like another poster said about pageants, that's called living vicariously through your kids LOL
Originally Posted by TISH1127
^^ Damnit...I pushed my son into Basketball because he was sitting around getting chubby...He so sucks at it...but he has fun sucking up and down the court so I just let him go every week and embaress me to the fullest ...He will be 6'7 when he is a grown I bet and have no b-ball skills whatsoever ...there goes my dreams of being a NBA Mom...so disheartening
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The key HERE is "but he has fun". And I don't think that's pushing him into it, it's just something that you gave him the opportunity to do, and you're trying to keep him healthy.
If the kids are enjoying it and they LIKE it, that's great! But when a parent pushes their child into something that they don't want to do that's just messed up. And when they put a sport before academics, or make them practice 4 or 5 hours a day, at the age of 8...that's what I'm talking about. Just like another poster said about pageants, that's called living vicariously through your kids LOL
X4biddenxLustX
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There is a new showing that is coming up on the WE Channel exactly like this called Little Miss Perfect I think? I haven't watched any episodes of it and I don't think I will. I just kind of find this whole thing kind of disturbing to be honest. Like the whole completely dolling up your 5 year old daughter and presenting her to a group of people to be judged. Not only would I be worried about sick pervs but the effect that this would have on my daughter's self esteem. And I feel that the little girls are giving this pressure to be PERFECT at all times and in everything that they do. It's just a very unrealistic way to look at things, cause no one is perfect or even close.
chocolategoddes
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i'd rather encourage and motivate my child to play a sport or activity that builds character.
in my eyes, there's something very superficial about pagaents, even with the talent and question parts of the competition. The skills that these girls should DEVELOP and LEARN is just fed to them.
"say this" and "smile like that."
some may argue that toddlers shouldn't be exposed to competition at that age and i disagree some what. unhealthy competition for who's the cutest is wrong.
i don't think the parents who put their girls in pagaents are bad. and when you think about it, its the stage mom's who are really competing with eachother, not the girls.
in my eyes, there's something very superficial about pagaents, even with the talent and question parts of the competition. The skills that these girls should DEVELOP and LEARN is just fed to them.
"say this" and "smile like that."
some may argue that toddlers shouldn't be exposed to competition at that age and i disagree some what. unhealthy competition for who's the cutest is wrong.
i don't think the parents who put their girls in pagaents are bad. and when you think about it, its the stage mom's who are really competing with eachother, not the girls.
X4biddenxLustX
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Yes, its the whole "I never got to do this or that when I was younger"-itis with the parents especially the mothers. They feel like something in their childhood wasn't fulfilling enough that they need to fill that void somehow by living through there kids. I mean its normal to want to give your kids the things that you didn't have growing up, we all want the best for them. But this whole beauty pageant thing def goes under trying to live through your kids.
| Originally Posted by chocolategoddes
i'd rather encourage and motivate my child to play a sport or activity that builds character. in my eyes, there's something very superficial about pagaents, even with the talent and question parts of the competition. The skills that these girls should DEVELOP and LEARN is just fed to them. "say this" and "smile like that." some may argue that toddlers shouldn't be exposed to competition at that age and i disagree some what. unhealthy competition for who's the cutest is wrong. i don't think the parents who put their girls in pagaents are bad. and when you think about it, its the stage mom's who are really competing with eachother, not the girls. |
Yes, its the whole "I never got to do this or that when I was younger"-itis with the parents especially the mothers. They feel like something in their childhood wasn't fulfilling enough that they need to fill that void somehow by living through there kids. I mean its normal to want to give your kids the things that you didn't have growing up, we all want the best for them. But this whole beauty pageant thing def goes under trying to live through your kids.
chocolategoddes
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Exactly.
I remember watching an episode of Tyra (i know, i know), and she was talking to a little pageant girl's mother and she admitted to living out her dreams through her daughter because growing up she didn't have the confidence or courage to do it herself.
My dad is kind of doing that with my brother. He's pushing him into playing football in high school. My brother is physically built to play football, but his heart isn't in it and my dad continues to force it on him because he never had the oppurtunity when he was younger.
| Originally Posted by X4biddenxLustX
Yes, its the whole "I never got to do this or that when I was younger"-itis with the parents especially the mothers. They feel like something in their childhood wasn't fulfilling enough that they need to fill that void somehow by living through there kids. I mean its normal to want to give your kids the things that you didn't have growing up, we all want the best for them. But this whole beauty pageant thing def goes under trying to live through your kids. |
Exactly.
I remember watching an episode of Tyra (i know, i know), and she was talking to a little pageant girl's mother and she admitted to living out her dreams through her daughter because growing up she didn't have the confidence or courage to do it herself.
My dad is kind of doing that with my brother. He's pushing him into playing football in high school. My brother is physically built to play football, but his heart isn't in it and my dad continues to force it on him because he never had the oppurtunity when he was younger.
