melozburngr
Well-known member
Ok. I need to figure something out, and any advice is very greatly appreciated.
Here goes.
About a year and a half ago I was dating a man that is the first man that I ever gave my heart to, I loved him (and still do). Anyway, everything was great, we were happy, we were talking about marriage and our future. Well, one day without warning, he informed me that he met someone else... needless to say, this was devastating enough on its own, but there is more. He had been hanging out with a 'friend' from work, and I thought nothing of it, because I've never really been the type to be jealous or suspicious, because I've always had more guy friends than girl friends. Anyway, this 'friend' was just at the place he worked for training, she was actually from New York (i lived in Michigan at the time), so I really didn't think that it was a big deal- just thought he was being a nice guy. Well, he flew to NY to visit his sister (or so he said) on OUR ANNIVERSARY...and when he got back, he admitted to me that he went there to see her. Because of this, I now have complete trust issues, and haven't been able to #1- get over him. #2 have a lasting relationship, #3 trust anyone, let alone a guy I'm dating.
Here is where is especially comes into my now. Shortly after moving to Vegas, I met this really cool guy. I feel like I have known him forever, and we have a great time together... We aren't/weren't exclusive, but both have said that we were developing strong feelings for the other. Recently, a female friend of his that just went through a divorce asked him to dinner as friends, since she has a daughter, and wanted some adult conversation...I cringe every time I hear her name, and ever since that night he has been pulling away and acting somewhat aloof. He says nothing has changed, but my gut tells me otherwise.
Am I overreacting? Am I being oversensitive? How can I get over my issues with trust? I ALWAYS imagine the worst possible scenario, and it is eating me away inside. I just keep trying to figure out what is wrong with me that men become interested in other women. (I've had two serious BFs do it) I've always been told that I'm a great girlfriend, so I just don't get it.
How do I fix this?!
Here goes.
About a year and a half ago I was dating a man that is the first man that I ever gave my heart to, I loved him (and still do). Anyway, everything was great, we were happy, we were talking about marriage and our future. Well, one day without warning, he informed me that he met someone else... needless to say, this was devastating enough on its own, but there is more. He had been hanging out with a 'friend' from work, and I thought nothing of it, because I've never really been the type to be jealous or suspicious, because I've always had more guy friends than girl friends. Anyway, this 'friend' was just at the place he worked for training, she was actually from New York (i lived in Michigan at the time), so I really didn't think that it was a big deal- just thought he was being a nice guy. Well, he flew to NY to visit his sister (or so he said) on OUR ANNIVERSARY...and when he got back, he admitted to me that he went there to see her. Because of this, I now have complete trust issues, and haven't been able to #1- get over him. #2 have a lasting relationship, #3 trust anyone, let alone a guy I'm dating.
Here is where is especially comes into my now. Shortly after moving to Vegas, I met this really cool guy. I feel like I have known him forever, and we have a great time together... We aren't/weren't exclusive, but both have said that we were developing strong feelings for the other. Recently, a female friend of his that just went through a divorce asked him to dinner as friends, since she has a daughter, and wanted some adult conversation...I cringe every time I hear her name, and ever since that night he has been pulling away and acting somewhat aloof. He says nothing has changed, but my gut tells me otherwise.
Am I overreacting? Am I being oversensitive? How can I get over my issues with trust? I ALWAYS imagine the worst possible scenario, and it is eating me away inside. I just keep trying to figure out what is wrong with me that men become interested in other women. (I've had two serious BFs do it) I've always been told that I'm a great girlfriend, so I just don't get it.
How do I fix this?!
