Ughh!

[Verient]

Kinda annoyed right now. I went for a bath and came back and my boyfriend had been through my phone. He told me to fuck off and got really pissy with me because I'd said to a guy 'You were in my dream! I'm stuck in traffic

x' and someone called me babe and I was asked to go out in the evening with a couple of guy mates. I'm really angry he went through my phone and also kinda annoyed he thinks what I said is bad?

 

[Skin*Deep]

I don't know if I would like my husband telling some girl he dreamed about her....he may not know the whole story behind it all, but you have to put yourself in his place and what it would be like to see all that without knowing the backstory. as for going through the phone.....if there was ever a day I told my hubby he could not look at my phone or look at my email....he would know there is a problem! But.....I have been married for 8 years so it is very different, I think when you're dating he should be respecting your privacy a little more. (privacy goes out the window with kids and husbands, haha)
good luck, hon, I'm sure you guys will work through the misunderstanding.

 

[User35]

always make sure there is no evidence !

 

[LMD84]

i don't mean to be rude but in your other post that i replied to you mentioned how tom could be controlling and such. this is yet another form of that. if there was trust (and there should always be trust in a relationship) he wouldn't need to look at your phone. and who care if you dreamed about a friend? you could have dreamed you murdered him for all Tom knows!

plus you mentioned that he doesn't liek you seieng your friends beceause most of them are guys. honestly i would be thinking really hard if this is the person you want to be with. you're 16 and have so much to look forward to. you don't need to be dragged down by this.

 

[gildedangel]

What an invasion of privacy! That is ridiculous, just let him cool off. If he doesn't, move on girl, you don't need a guy who does crap like that.

 

[Boasorte]

Your man is just plain nosy, and nasty....sorry but that's what I'm getting from after reading your post.

As to if what u said was bad, no it's not. Can you control your dreams? I don't think so, and it's not like you were being sexual in any way

 

[kiss]

I know I am in the minority but I don't see anything wrong with him looking at your phone. If a person has nothing to hide why should they care. Would you be ok with your bf saying to a another girl "I had a dream about you! I am stuck in traffic" ? .

 

[JULIA]

"I had a dream about you! I am stuck in traffic"

I think that by itself is completely innocent. You didn't text, "I had a dream about you and loved it." You simply said you had a dream about him. If your boyfriend had a problem with what you said, he should have talked to you about it. Had your friend been a girl, I'm sure he would not have flown off the handle in the way that he did, but because your friend's a guy, he automatically assumed the worse.

I mean, it seems like this guy's got a real issue with who you're friends with. It's almost as if he doesn't want any other guys in your life. If he was genuinely looking for something on your phone he should have simply asked you to find it for him. If he was simply snooping then...He obviously doesn't trust you, which, to me, is the foundation of any relationship.

Good luck, girlie.

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Originally Posted by kiss I know I am in the minority but I don't see anything wrong with him looking at your phone. If a person has nothing to hide why should they care. Would you be ok with your bf saying to a another girl "I had a dream about you! I am stuck in traffic" ? .

You may not care about your privacy, but a lot of us do. Just because someone's a private person, that doesn't necessarily mean they have anything to hide. Some just love to keep their personal details personal.

 

[Verient]

Thank you all very much

 

[kaliraksha]

There is a line of flirting that I don't cross and that's "if-my-bf-read-it-would-he-be-mad" line. I know if I can't say it in front of him I probably shouldn't say it.

I feel like he should give you the benefit of the doubt and not be angry about it.

Maybe you guys need to define your parameters. I mean some couples are swingers while others don't even speak to anyone of the opposite sex. Whatever works for you guys, as long as you're both aware of where that line is and what crossing that line means to each other.

 

[Redz24]

If he's gone snooping then there's a trust issue.

In my case, even though 90% of my mate's are guy's, there also my OH mate's.

Then if he's telling you you can't see your mate's, then you need to get rid imo. He doesn't own you, he has no control over you. It's your choice who your friends are and who you hang out with.