Eyeshadows: Brule or Vanilla (more matte), Retrospeck or Honesty (more shimmery) for highlight colours, Mulch, Satin Taupe, Sable, or Tempting for darker colours
Although Shroom and Naked Lunch also kick *ss
(Geez its hard to just pick a few isn't it!)
Blushes: Cubic or Buff (warmer) and Coygirl or Dame (cooler)
Bronzer: I personally use the So Ceylon skinfinish as a bronzer (I'm also a NW 20) or the disc. Colouring sticks because I find those products are sheer enough for lighter skin, so maybe the new colouring sticks coming with Belle Azure would be a good alternative.
Brushes: Ooh tough one to only pick a few... I absolutely couldn't live without 217, 252, 224, and 219. 213 is a great all around starter brush. Those are just eye brushes of course. Face I would pick 129, 116, 190, and 187.
I have #4 lashes which are pretty natural looking, although individual lashes are the most natural looking.
Okay well everything I've listed is like hundreds of dollars so I'm sure I haven't helped at all!!!