geeko
Well-known member
Hi everyone...I need some opinion from you on a relationship issue i am having
I currently like a guy named A (to make things simple) whom i Knew through a friend's boyfriend. A was supposed to get married
last yr, but unfortunately his fiance suddenly passed away. From my conversations with him, I could see that he loved his
fiance a lot. And he mentioned that after his fiance's passing, he fell into depression for half a year. Anyway, somehow, he
managed to get out of depression and got back to his normal life.
A and I went out together and constantly teased each other on our outings. Both of us felt very comfortable in each other's
company. There was one time that i felt very depressed and mentioned to him that i just felt like jumping onto the road and
ending my life. He immediately call my cell phone to talk to me and made me promise not to do anything stupid and that I have
to live on at least for another 50years. LOL.
When i went out late, he would check whether i was home safely. And there was one time, he drove down to the place to pick me up
to make sure that i went home cause i told him before i didn't want to go home too early as i had a disagreement with my
mum. Sometimes when i'm sad, he would hold my chin and look at me in the eyes and gave me words of encouragement.
So one day, I plucked up my courage and admitted to him that i like him. He told me he was sad and happy at the same time. Happy
because i liked him, sad because he cannot commit as he cannot forget his fiance as he loved her very deeply. He said he would
not be fair to the me and he didn't want to hurt me.
Jus recently, i fell into one of my mood swings again, he drove down @ 1plus am in the morning to look for me and talked to me
above life and all. I admitted i was very "hard up" for love from guys. He told me he didn't want me to hurt myself by entering
into a relationship with a guy who was only out for a free ride. He told me that i must learn to protect and cherish myself.
He said he would buy me a bear to hug before he went away overseas so that i won't feel so lonely. He admitted that he liked
me but he was sorry that we couldn't be an item because he really couldn't get over his fiance. He also said that he didn't
want to get into a relationship with me because if things didn't work out, the friendship would be lost and that he didn't want
to lose me and wanted me to be a part of his life. Jus before he went home, i gave him a kiss on his cheeks and he gave me
a kiss on my cheeks which i didn't expect. He later texted me on my cell phone that he was sorry about the kiss he give, he
said he felt like he was takin advantage of me.... but he also texted me that he cherished me....and when i asked him cherished
me as a friend? He said more than a friend.
So i am very confused now....what is his feelings towards me? Should i jus try to numb my feelings for him and jus be normal
friends with him since he cannot get over his fiance? I am going nuts thinking of him each day.
I currently like a guy named A (to make things simple) whom i Knew through a friend's boyfriend. A was supposed to get married
last yr, but unfortunately his fiance suddenly passed away. From my conversations with him, I could see that he loved his
fiance a lot. And he mentioned that after his fiance's passing, he fell into depression for half a year. Anyway, somehow, he
managed to get out of depression and got back to his normal life.
A and I went out together and constantly teased each other on our outings. Both of us felt very comfortable in each other's
company. There was one time that i felt very depressed and mentioned to him that i just felt like jumping onto the road and
ending my life. He immediately call my cell phone to talk to me and made me promise not to do anything stupid and that I have
to live on at least for another 50years. LOL.
When i went out late, he would check whether i was home safely. And there was one time, he drove down to the place to pick me up
to make sure that i went home cause i told him before i didn't want to go home too early as i had a disagreement with my
mum. Sometimes when i'm sad, he would hold my chin and look at me in the eyes and gave me words of encouragement.
So one day, I plucked up my courage and admitted to him that i like him. He told me he was sad and happy at the same time. Happy
because i liked him, sad because he cannot commit as he cannot forget his fiance as he loved her very deeply. He said he would
not be fair to the me and he didn't want to hurt me.
Jus recently, i fell into one of my mood swings again, he drove down @ 1plus am in the morning to look for me and talked to me
above life and all. I admitted i was very "hard up" for love from guys. He told me he didn't want me to hurt myself by entering
into a relationship with a guy who was only out for a free ride. He told me that i must learn to protect and cherish myself.
He said he would buy me a bear to hug before he went away overseas so that i won't feel so lonely. He admitted that he liked
me but he was sorry that we couldn't be an item because he really couldn't get over his fiance. He also said that he didn't
want to get into a relationship with me because if things didn't work out, the friendship would be lost and that he didn't want
to lose me and wanted me to be a part of his life. Jus before he went home, i gave him a kiss on his cheeks and he gave me
a kiss on my cheeks which i didn't expect. He later texted me on my cell phone that he was sorry about the kiss he give, he
said he felt like he was takin advantage of me.... but he also texted me that he cherished me....and when i asked him cherished
me as a friend? He said more than a friend.
So i am very confused now....what is his feelings towards me? Should i jus try to numb my feelings for him and jus be normal
friends with him since he cannot get over his fiance? I am going nuts thinking of him each day.
