When friends don't appreciate?

theleopardcake

Well-known member
I didn't know if I should put this under "deep thoughts" or here, but here I go.
This is a huge rant, so if you'd rather not mind me...

Tonight, I was talking to a guy friend online (via AIM) whom I have been pretty close/good friends with at school. While chatting with other friends, those friends told me that several teachers at my school were leaving, but I'm not sure why. One of those teachers, happened to be our future sponsor for a film class that my guy friend worked extremely hard to get started at our school. He went through numerous teachers/counselors to try and get their approvals, and he finally got that one teacher's approval.
I will use a dialogue to represent what happened, just because it's easier.

F= friend
M= me
* names are changed for privacy reasons

M= Omg, guess what?
F= what?
M= a bunch of teachers are leaving school, and one of them is Moore*!
F= uhh....i wonder how that works out for us.
M= I know! it really sucks!
F= Who did you hear this from?
M= Jill*
F= Jill's* stupid.
M= haha, oh wait, no Karen* told me.
F= Who told Karen*?
M= Her sister
F= ...her sister's an idiot, right?
M= ??? how does knowing that information make her an idiot?
F= well, i heard that her sister's a conceited little bitch
M= What the heck? why are you being such a jerk?
F= what?
M= ooh okay, so i guess telling her sister something about school makes her a complete idiot, right?
F= what? why are you being so defensive over Karen's* sister?
M= Dude i'm just trying to show you that i was concerned that maybe since Moore's* left the school it would just really suck because you worked so hard to look for a teacher to finally sponsor your class
F= I don't even care about the class anymore. If it doesn't work out...whatever
M= Apparently, you do care, because when i first broke the news out to you, you said that we would be in trouble
F= Um, actually, not a muscle in my body flinched when you told me that
M=...you know what? if that's the way you feel, okay, i have nothing more to say to you
F= Alright
----input my away message-----
F= oh and please, please don't assume things about me
M= Oh I'm sorry for being a friend.
F= haha i don't have a fucking clue what just happened, just that you're angry.
M= What? you said that you didn't care...okay then that's that, right?
F= what's with the biting remarks?
M= BITING?
..............Okay and then I began to explain to him about I was just trying to be compassionate and that I was showing my concern for him. This entire year, he really struggled, dealing with the counselors and teachers who refused to help him out...and it was like he finally landed a teacher and if that teacher really left, it would just SUCK for all of the work we had to do. It would also just SUCK in general beacuse he was really looking forward to this class and i know it because he is one of my really good friends so we've been stoked about this super cool film class and we already had plans/agenda written out to prepare us for the upcoming school year.

He then proceeds to brush off whatever had just happened. I mean, maybe you can't tell by simply reading the conversation, but I was so hurt/upset. I was just trying to be a friend. In all honesty. A friend. These days, he's been really sarcastic and stuck up about so many issues, but I've been patient and understanding with him, since I know that he has things to deal with whatever he has to deal with at home. I was so furious at his attitude and i sat here, shaking with rage/disappointment/sadness all at the same time, with tears in my eyes.

He didn't bother to apologize. He instead began to rant about some girl and how he was "way better at life" than this other guy.

I couldn't deal with it. I mean it was very upsetting/hurt and I already explained to him how i felt, but he totally disregarded it.

sheesh. long story, right? i'm sorry for bringing high school drama into this forum lol, but i just needed someone to listen.
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Beauty Mark

Well-known member
That's probably his way of dealing with it. Some people just deal with things in different or not great ways. If he has issues, he probably doesn't know how to cope well or is overwhelmed and takes it out on random people.

I would personally just let him rant the next time and not say too much, if he's really worth your friendship.
 

Tyester

Well-known member
Good advice as opposed to just writing him off as a friend.

Although he COULD have handled it differently.
 
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