stockham
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Well i know i'm new around here but i need some advice from someone, anyone really and i know what a nice bunch of people there are on here. Just to give you some backround info, i'm a 19 year old girl from England who's at university.
About 4 weeks ago (and 2 weeks before the end of term) i met this guy who a lot of my friends already knew but hadn't introduced me to him. We ended up exchanging numbers at the end of the night and over the few weeks left at uni we chatted a lot. It transpired that during this time, our mutual friends had told him to stay away from me because i wasn't interested. I didn't actually get to see him again till the last day, upon which, being st patrick's day, we headed to the student union and had a good night out. Then we ended up back at my flat and sat in the kitchen all night chatting and kissing and just getting to know each other a lot more. We went our separate ways in the morning after i had told him that i did want to see him and that i had no idea why my friends had said such things to him previously.
While at home we kept talking and i eventually was persuaded to go and visit him for a few days in addition to a few other friends from uni that live near him. It's safe to say that we got rather a lot closer than we had previously been. Returning home, some 300 miles away, he said that he missed me and that next term, things would be different at uni. That was on wednesday.
This weekend he went back to uni to pick some stuff up and to say hi to a girl that he will be living with next year in addition to another guy. I saw nothing wrong with it as we aren't really in a relationship but we are "seeing" each other. However today he text me to tell me that they both got very drunk last night and he had to drag her back to his house, and ended the message with "but shhh!" Now am i being paranoid or does that suggest that something happened between them? If it does then it makes me feel cheap and used. I don't quite know how to approach him now and ask him because i don't want to seem like an obsessive psycho. Am i just being paranoid?
I don't know what kind of help i'm asking for, maybe i just wanted a place to vent where i know that no one who actually knows us will read it? Any views or advice will be greatly appreciated....
Thanks in advance.
ETA: Things have kind of gone a bit strange, and he admitted to kissing his ex girlfriend today. I ignored him all day but then text him saying how i felt and asking if things were actually going anywhere with us and if not then he better let me know now. He's text me back, but i'm too scared to read it....Have i made a terrible mistake by getting involved?
About 4 weeks ago (and 2 weeks before the end of term) i met this guy who a lot of my friends already knew but hadn't introduced me to him. We ended up exchanging numbers at the end of the night and over the few weeks left at uni we chatted a lot. It transpired that during this time, our mutual friends had told him to stay away from me because i wasn't interested. I didn't actually get to see him again till the last day, upon which, being st patrick's day, we headed to the student union and had a good night out. Then we ended up back at my flat and sat in the kitchen all night chatting and kissing and just getting to know each other a lot more. We went our separate ways in the morning after i had told him that i did want to see him and that i had no idea why my friends had said such things to him previously.
While at home we kept talking and i eventually was persuaded to go and visit him for a few days in addition to a few other friends from uni that live near him. It's safe to say that we got rather a lot closer than we had previously been. Returning home, some 300 miles away, he said that he missed me and that next term, things would be different at uni. That was on wednesday.
This weekend he went back to uni to pick some stuff up and to say hi to a girl that he will be living with next year in addition to another guy. I saw nothing wrong with it as we aren't really in a relationship but we are "seeing" each other. However today he text me to tell me that they both got very drunk last night and he had to drag her back to his house, and ended the message with "but shhh!" Now am i being paranoid or does that suggest that something happened between them? If it does then it makes me feel cheap and used. I don't quite know how to approach him now and ask him because i don't want to seem like an obsessive psycho. Am i just being paranoid?
I don't know what kind of help i'm asking for, maybe i just wanted a place to vent where i know that no one who actually knows us will read it? Any views or advice will be greatly appreciated....
Thanks in advance.
ETA: Things have kind of gone a bit strange, and he admitted to kissing his ex girlfriend today. I ignored him all day but then text him saying how i felt and asking if things were actually going anywhere with us and if not then he better let me know now. He's text me back, but i'm too scared to read it....Have i made a terrible mistake by getting involved?