Got Divorced- What to do with the ring?

[abbyquack]

Hey all! I've been inactive in this community for a while now, but some of you may remember a while ago a thread about my husband acting all suspicious and turned out he was cheating, blah blah blah. Well, I ended up getting divorced (was finalized a couple of months ago), and I'm glad to say it turned out for the best. I am still really good friends with him but we have no intentions of ever being together again.

But now, I'm thinking about this beautiful wedding ring that's just sitting in my drawer, and wondering what to do with it. I have no intentions of returning it to him (hell no, not after everything I went through, haha!). I know it's a bit too soon to really make a rational decision about what to do with it, but like I say, it's been something I want to start consider. I would feel weird converting it into another piece of jewelry, because really, I'm not interested in being reminded of what it used to be. So, I'm wondering, should I sell it? Maybe go on a nice trip with the money? Or should I hold on to it? For reference, we were married 3 years, no kids, etc. The ring is very beautiful but no reason to keep it for sentimentality.

So, those of you that have been divorced, what did you do with yours?

 

[ElvenEyes]

I have never been divorced but I know a lot of people would definitely sell it or trade it for a ring that you have picked out for yourself that is no connection to any other person. Diamonds and gold are at a very high price right now and if you go to a nice jeweler you can get paid a nice price. At that point you can decide what to do with it. A trip to a highly desired location, jewelry, a couple of nice handbags, a piece of furniture, etc. The choices are endless and yours. It might help to make up a wishlist before selling. Even if you did ever get back together the vows and ties that united you at that time are now broken, and the ring no longer represents what it once stood for. As for converting it into something else, that is also up to you personally. While you may think the ring will remind you of something you don't want to think about, it isn't the fault of the gorgeous stone. A ring does not make the relationship. It was the vows and the life together. The ring is an innocent bystander. I am looking at my engagement ring, which I love, and realizing I would probably reset it if I could, with two sapphires or rubies on each side and wear it on my middle finger, if we ever divorced. The stone is gorgeous and deserves to be loved still!

Of course, if my man cheated I would have to kill him and then I would be in prison with no ring at all. (just kidding!)

 

[commandolando]

funny thing, i was just talking to my boyfriend last night about this! i told him that if we ever split up, i would keep the ring! he said that he would want it back..but i would never be able to part with a diamond

 

[LMD84]

i remember you sweetie! i have to say i am so pleased that you got divorced because it wasn't nice how he treated you at all. and congrats on being so positive too! i am so proud of you! personally i would sell the ring and then go on holiday with the money. have an amazing time somewhere and while you are away you can let loose and have no worries at all.

 

[Goat Goat Etc.]

Pawn it. I would never want to keep a physical item reviving the memory of a cheating jerk.

 

[banana1234]

funny thing, i was just talking to my boyfriend last night about this! i told him that if we ever split up, i would keep the ring! he said that he would want it back..but i would never be able to part with a diamond

if a bloke told me he would want it back i would slap him! lol

i think you should, when the time is right, either buy yourself something to spoil yourself, jewellery, etc or go on a trip or something

 

[iadoremac]

oh yes I remember you! I hope all is well? I'll sell it if it were me and buy myself a nice outfit

 

[HoneyMilk]

Do you have papers for it? Like a GIA appraisal for the diamond? Depending on the diamond specs you have many options. I would NOT pawn it. They rip you off. You might be able to consign it, sell the diamond(s?) on their own and scrap the metal or find a jeweler that will do a trade on it and get something else (pendant? earrings?)

Metal and diamond prices have hit the damn roof so you are in luck for selling... not so much for buying.

 

[HoneyMilk]

Around most places, if the marriage fails due to the guy, usually the woman gets to keep it- and vice versa. I would say if it's heirloom it should ALWAYS, no matter what go back to the original owner (even if they have to pay the other person cash for it). If the engagement is called off, it's usually the same reason as the breaking up of the marriage too.

If it's amicable, a lot of couples opt to sell it and split the money if paid for together. If they have children, usually the rings are kept for the kids.

funny thing, i was just talking to my boyfriend last night about this! i told him that if we ever split up, i would keep the ring! he said that he would want it back..but i would never be able to part with a diamond

 

[Duvessa]

I thought I kept my ring but apparently I haven't. I can't find it anywhere but I do have my engagement ring still stacked up somewhere. We never even discussed about the ring, I have no idea if he even has his engagement ring anywhere. Then again my diamond was so small it didn't have that big monetal value