I'm sorry that someone made you feel that way - it's both unkind and unhelpful. Sometimes people speak unthinkingly and don't intend to or even realize that they're caused hurt. Unfortunately, some others can only make themselves feel big by making others feel small.
Honestly, she sounds toxic and envious of you. Life can be hard enough without so called friends bringing you down. When peoples issues start to infringe on the way they treat me...it's time for me to cut my losses and move on. Good luck to you. We're here for you.
Ditto. My boyfriend would just shrug and say he doesn't know about "makeup stuff." I'd probably get better feedback asking my cats. I'll try both on tomorrow and try to be as objective as possible!Usually it's the cream products that go bad faster, even faster if it contains water. If they look and smell fine they are still good though. Powder products last much much longer, but if they get old they develop the hard surface on top that needs to be scraped down(or just tossed if its hassle). And stuff lasts longer if you don't touch it but not thaaat much longer. I had two 3yr old lip balms, opened one developed white film all around it and looked kinda off, but the unopened llip balm was still smelling and looking fine. Depends how many preservatives they put in it, 'natural' stuff last shorter. Try them tomorrow each on different cheek and spot the differenceAnd ask somebody else to judge which side they like better ^^ (I know my hubby would be no help to me cos to him it all looks the same heh)
REASON: JealousyNo, sorry but there is a shelf life especially on lip products including glosses. The pigmented products are usually fine for a long time although it depends on storage and climate too. But generally ok. If a lipstick/gloss smells off, it's bad and should be thrown out. If it was never touched, it does not mean it will not go bad .. it can and it will. Nailpolish can be rehydrated with solvents but it's life is almost gone by then too.
sorry, but the shelf life on unopened products is the same as if they were used. I have had to throw out lipsticks which were BNIB and never touched which turned in about 2 years. This happens more with MAC and BB products vs. EL, Chanel or other HE lines
yes, that is a good reason not to buy too many bu's of a product which can easily turn.
Yep.... This has become the year of NO MORE BACKUPS for me! This just reconfirmed it!! I will more than likely purge most of the ones I already have as well...
@Debbs did it and she's still with us, so she's my ROCK!!!
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How do you guys handle being greeted by so called friends with " What have you bought lately? ". I left HS so long ago that some toxic behaviors are foreign to me. When I respond with I messed up but working on buying low I am met with " So you have bought a lot then! "
This is from the same person you gifted and sold your beloved backups to who is looking for the same things you have and/ or actively trying to get. How much help can you offer me when you want it for yourself? Then finding the nerve to tell me that some people have low self esteem and hide behind makeup and that beauty comes from within ( have you looked in the mirror lately and do you like what you see) and labelling others as just plain hoarders. Do I ask what have you been doing with all the stuff I sent you? Or do I tell you that some people are just of a competitive nature. There is no beauty in such ugly behaviors. Imagine me directing you to every sale thread, every store that has the last one, every item I have that you will love? Items I barely could obtain that others are dying to get for the very first time I am letting you have the back up of at a loss to me. I have ignored several innuendos and catty comments but some things you just have to say enough is enough. I shouldn't have to explain myself to someone who obviously is either flattered by me or want to be me. For the record, I haven't been buying a lot but some items just cost a bit more. I am working on quality rather than quantity. How do you justify having a clean pure heart without vindictiveness and maliciousness when some just want to capitalize off you and use you ? I am beyond baffled and outraged!!! I don't want to put everyone in the same category as everyone is different. I am getting out a situation dealing with users to find out that you are one too? Thanks for being able to vent here. I don't understand how people with the same passion, love, and addiction can so harshly judge , brutally criticize and try to put down another person who only look out for you and try to help you achieve my I mean your make up goals. That's just plain insensitive, cruel and undeserving , totally uncalled for . With friends like these who needs enemies?
Shopping your own stash is a great idea---sometimes a real gem turns up! Kinda Sexy was my go to lipstick for a good year or so--glad you are giving it some love again!
We are in the same boat. ..the amount of MU I had was giving me anxiety, like how or when will I ever use these things up. I wear lipstick everywhere I go. ..EVERYWHERE & rotate them..like this month February is Red Lip Feb month & every lipstick I wear outside my house is Red
In all honesty, I bought 5. Yes, 5 Force of Love. The funny thing is, I was recently wearing it and turned to my friend and said "I love this lipstick so much! Thank goodness I have 5 of them!" We both burst out laughing hysterically. Just wanted to let you know that I am with you!
"Friends" like this sound toxic for sure. I agree with @PixieDancer about the need to purge toxic things from your life! Hang in there, girl!
Reading all of your ladies' wise words really does make me feel stronger. Thank you as well, Debbs.sorry to read this Debb.... honestly and brutally: whoever treats you this way is not your friend. They are your enemy,
get rid of them no matter how much it may hurt you or how lonely you may be for awhile.
like bad makeup.. throw it away.
stay strong
Love this.
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Trying to catch up reading backwards
@ Nay-Nay, you will be just fine. Anyone knows hurt, depression, anger and pain it is me . You will be stronger and wiser in the end. What does not cost life does not cause death. Something to bring a smile to you. My mail-lady thinks I am ordering stuff off the television and trying to counsel me about my packages and depression. I am like lady stop being nosey and give me my stuff. Now she have my family paranoid worrying that she may think I am rich and we are going to have a break-in or I am dealing in some illegal activities. I am worried next week or so when my swaps start coming in, lol.
@ HerGreyness, you crack me up! I was drinking a alcoholic egg nog drink reading FoF thread about all that wine etc. 400 BP? Is that systolic or diastolic? At least your love life is better than mine and I bet you are in better shape too, lol. Your posts are off the chain even the ones filled with wisdom
