Resolution "LOW-BUY" 2014! Who wants to play?

User38

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I agree also. I am probably ahead of my time though. I made this decision in college. And I have had first hand experience in what it's like to have a child, educating them and teaching them about life -- my niece is a disaster on feet. And my sister, rest her soul did do her best to no avail. If you read the book "Freakonomics" , the insanity of breeding takes on a different aspect too.
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Disney fund. TF lipsticks are quite dupey. You will get a better bang for your buck if you place it into your trip.
I so agree with the Disney fund taking priority. but I do not agree that TF lippies are that dupeable -- I say this because I have tried to dupe. Futile. But honestly, if you have to make a decision as to whether to enjoy life and it's memories or buying a lippie, you might need to rethink priorities.

@Glitteryvegas @veronikawithak @Kaori @Audrey C
@Naynadine
and anyone else I may have left out..

So so wonderful to read some of the many ideas which are so necessary for us to become full fledged women.. not little girls who have to preen and be "pretty" all the time. Pretty is a choice not an obligation - but, we all love to look our best or at least try to.

The real obligations are what you ladies have mentioned: priorities, home, family, children (if any), life and good times. The rest are just frivolities which we enjoy and should -- but with a modicum of constraint. And yes, our economic societies are so melded together that entire global systems are askew with consumerism. Case examples abound.

it's also great that you are keeping track of your expenses.. it really helps. I do not keep track of my expenses per se. I keep a certain amount of disposable cash for whatever I want and use from that -- it's a system I have developed for myself due to my work and it's needs (not wants).

I also agree that docs and lawyers are easy prey who don't know how to handle money. They make so much of it and don't know how to manage it. I have first hand experience with this issue and do my best to warn my doc/legal pals to invest wisely.

you kids are great.. you keep surprising me!

xoxox


*back from long weekend on an island
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with Bert
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Kaori

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For those who plan to visit Disneyland in CA or FL, here is free DVD: https://www.disneyvacations.com/dv/en_US/VacationPlanningDVD/index
 

keishapooh

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Hi When you returned it did they give u all the money back?
I decided to get rid of all my drugstore stuff I do have, besides mascara, as it's really the only thing I use and I haven't purchased any drugstore in the past year. I am donating it all to a 'half way house' with young girls that had troubled pasts. Excited for them to get it. Little update: I also tested my returns to macys and they took back viva glam gaga 2 and a perfect day lipsticks with a smile. They were so nice and didn't care that they were purchased a long time ago. They did think I was crazy and asked why I wouldn't put them on eBay but I explained that I just find eBay frustrating. Plus I wasn't looking to make money. One MA artist wanted to buy them off of me but said it was against MAC policy so she couldn't. I'm sure she will find a way as she was gripping tight of them as they were gold lol. Next trip I'm going to return: Supernova Blush Lavish Living Blush Reel Sexy lipstick So if any takers, last chance :) The tracking the spending is a great idea!! I started yesterday since it was the first of the month. Now to see where to cut corners of useless spending. Off to 'mother and son day' at my sons school. The boys get to take mommy out on a date and to a special show. I'm so excited. $75 for me and him so better be somewhere good! LOL (he's 5) :)
 

PixieDancer

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WOW!! You girls are on FIRE!!!! I love all this to pieces!

I think I'm having as much fun getting rid of things as I have been taking them in... I just need to do a LOT more of it! I'm seriously debating skipping Playland and the PS Collections altogether! I'm just trying to figure out if I'm actually strong enough to do that! Those blush ombres have been tempting me from day 1, but I'm sure I can dupe every shade in those with stuff I already have... I'm going to give myself a few more days to decide. But after I post the pics of my stash this week... you will all tell me to go to the doctor and get my head examined!

I had fun last week when my son's little girl friend (not actual "GIRLFRIEND" thank gawd! I'm not ready for that!) came over... I dumped out my makeup swap bag and told her to have at it! My sister happened to be over and she started peeking too, so I told her the same. I was blown away at how reserved this young lady was! She picked 2-3 things and sat quiet, but eyes all sparkly! I looked at her and said... if you don't pick some more stuff, I'll pick it for you! She giggled and took a few more things... by "force" of course! LOL (It was kinda like seeing how a kid "really" is by holding out your Halloween bucket and letting them take what they want! The "good" "polite" ones will take 1-2 things... the greedy poops will reach in with full fists! Good to discover my son has good friend-picking skills!)
My sister took 3 things too. When they were both gone, I was so happy to go cross those things off my list! It felt good! Now if I can just do that 1 million more times and NOT take tons more in.... I MIGHT start making some REAL progress!
 

kerry-jane88

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WOW!! You girls are on FIRE!!!! I love all this to pieces! I think I'm having as much fun getting rid of things as I have been taking them in... I just need to do a LOT more of it! I'm seriously debating skipping Playland and the PS Collections altogether! I'm just trying to figure out if I'm actually strong enough to do that! Those blush ombres have been tempting me from day 1, but I'm sure I can dupe every shade in those with stuff I already have... I'm going to give myself a few more days to decide. But after I post the pics of my stash this week... you will all tell me to go to the doctor and get my head examined! I had fun last week when my son's little girl friend (not actual "GIRLFRIEND" thank gawd! I'm not ready for that!) came over... I dumped out my makeup swap bag and told her to have at it! My sister happened to be over and she started peeking too, so I told her the same. I was blown away at how reserved this young lady was! She picked 2-3 things and sat quiet, but eyes all sparkly! I looked at her and said... if you don't pick some more stuff, I'll pick it for you! She giggled and took a few more things... by "force" of course! LOL (It was kinda like seeing how a kid "really" is by holding out your Halloween bucket and letting them take what they want! The "good" "polite" ones will take 1-2 things... the greedy poops will reach in with full fists! Good to discover my son has good friend-picking skills!)  My sister took 3 things too. When they were both gone, I was so happy to go cross those things off my list! It felt good! Now if I can just do that 1 million more times and NOT take tons more in.... I MIGHT start making some REAL progress!
Aww that sounds so sweet :) The skipping gets infectious! I've passed on FOF now I've decided I'll do the same for playland!
 

Starlight77

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Hi When you returned it did they give u all the money back?
Yes. Exactly what I paid. One was too old so had to be store credit and the other I just took as store credit because I used a debit card I no longer had. They were super nice about it to so I feel comfortable bringing some more back. I am only bringing back things swatched once or not at all. Nothing is used although they said they'd take it.
 

Beautybuyer

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That always drives me up the wall. I know for as long as I can think that I don't want to have children, but I feel like always having to defend myself for it. Not to mention trying to meet a guy who accepts that. How awesome that you've found a partner who has the same life plans :)
I feel you ladies!! I have TWO boys. 2 and a half and one. In school full time for my nursing degree. I am sooooo done with kids!!! But everyone and I mean EVERYONE tells me I'll have a girl or at least try for one. From family, to the cashier, to the person in line. Everyone tells me I'll change my mind. Yes once I'm done with school and my kids are big I want to leave my hopeful career and start ALL over to have a daughter?! No thanks I want to put my kids through college and travel not have another one lol
 

Naynadine

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Audrey, well said!! I feel exactly the same way. LOL @ uterine life support.. So frighteningly true. It's amazing how much gender inequality there still is in the developed world but it's glossed over by this pretty picture of "choices". My fiance and I argued about me not wanting to take his last name for quite a while.. When I had a long list of reasons and his was "that's just what happens when you get married..", it was obvious that reason would eventually prevail (and people say women are the irrational ones..). Fortunately he's a pretty reasonable and progressive person aside from a few little random ideas left over from his traditional upbringing. His brother and sister-in-law just had a baby, so we're fine being the "cool" aunt and uncle.


Meeee tooooo. When I was a teenager I knew it wasn't for me and I get more and more averse to it every year. Even my own mother was asking me about kids this year.. after 10-15 years of assuring her I don't want them.. She thought I was teasing her! I was just baffled after that conversation.. One of my best guy friends who I've known for years assumes it's just because I haven't met the right guy yet.. But I have, and I'm so grateful that we're on the same page about what we want our lives to be like. It's surprising how many guys are set on having kids, but I guess we're kind of conditioned to think women are supposed to want kids and have to "trap" a guy or force it on him. The world is so convoluted I just can't even deal sometimes lol. Watching Mad Men has forever scarred me about what we really want vs. what we're conditioned to want.

I'm not against children in theory of course, and I understand the economic and social need for reproduction, and obviously the reward in itself. But, I only have one life and I'm going to live it for myself and not towards some greater good. I won't ask someone to justify their choice to have a baby because the benefits are obvious and it's also considered inappropriate, but I have no problem turning the question around on them when they do it to me. Try it sometime, I bet you'll get asked a lot less! Lol.
Kind of sad that sometimes we might feel we have to justify our decision, as if we would be horrible people or less loving or caring and don't like children just because we don't want to have any of our own :/ Totally agree with the rest of your post as well, very well said :)
 

charlotte366

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Sephora is now shipping to the UK, so many lemming! I have created an account and a loves list, now going to try sitting on my hands to prevent me ordering! Following my full investory of my stash at the weekend, I have been doing a lot of thinking, I am a long way off my ideal stash sizes and I recognise I can't get there overnight, equally I don't want to ban myself from buying anything as I suspect that could be counter productive. Instead I am making March a consolidation month, so here is what I plan 13 (6) primers
- concentrat on using up the minis and sample sizes 23 foundations
Already doing quite well here, a large proportion are half used, I am concentrating on using up by having 2-3 different formulas in rotation. 15 (6) concealer
only 11 are opened, I am going to try to use up those that have less than 50% left first. 11 bronzers
Umm I never wear bronzer so why do I have so many! I think I could get away with 3-4 so I am going to test them out over the next 2 months and work out which ones I like best. maybe I will get rid of surplus drugstore ones too/ 14 powders
I can't believe I had so many!, I want to keep the hourglass ones and the guerlain ones, the drugstores are on there way out I suspect and the mac ones I will try to use up 7 highlighters
Umm like bronzer I don't where these a lot! I think I need 3-4 a gold, champagne and a pink one and maybe a cream ? Like bronzers I will look to get rid of the drugstore ones. 2 setting sprays
Fix + is nearly finished so I will be down to one in the next month or so, no real action required here! 57 blushes
My biggest weakness I wear it everyday, not sure how to tackle this one for now so I am going to leave these as is for now and concentrate on tackling ares where I think I can make progress. 58 mac shadows
I reorganised these to put my favourites in a 15 pan palette and a Quad, I think if i purchased another quad I might be close to the right number, I know there is at leasts 7 shadows I never wear so maybe I will try to get this to 30 shadows then condense down from there. I also know that I don't like my chunky double palette so I am going to sell this and get another 15 pan palette for now until I condense down to 15 shadows. 35 single shadows
Umm not sure how to attack this so I am going to leave this for now. 18 duos/trios/quads
I think I can do quite alot of stash reducing her I prob only use around 8 of them so I may get rid of the drugstore ones then I can think more about the higher end ones. 21 palettes
Tempted to do a seriously bit of clearing out. I am definitely keeping my yaby palette as I love the mini sizes of the colours and use the pearl paint formula as eyeliner a lot. I am also going to keep my naked basics and laura mercier artist palettes. Drugstore palettes that never get touched will prob go. The hardest descision will be what to do with my Naked 1,2, & 3 palette, they don't get used much ? I might make these my april challenge to use these as my only shadows and see if I fall in love with them, if not it might be time to say goodbye ? 37 cream shadows
oh dear, this was the biggest shock I think, I can't believe I have soo many! This area needs some significant work in my opinion as cream shadows don't last forever. i want to keep my Laura Mercier Cavier sticks and the estee lauder cream shadows. The bobbi brown ones are BNIB still so maybe I should sell those. The maybelline ones are not far off drying out so they should go out in the next couple of months. The biggest culprit thought is my sue devitt chunky cream shadow pencils, I got them cheap in tk maxx before christmas and bought every shade, now I need to decide which to keep and which should go. 7 brow products
Not too fussed by this, its one pencil, 2 powders, one of which I can already see a lot of pan on and 3 brow gels, 2 open and 2 BNIB. I think I can get this to my ideal this year without a lot of effort. 14 (11) mascaras
Again only 3 opened a sample a full size and my bottom lash mascara. I get through mascara quickly and a lot of these are sample sized so I think I will be close to target by the end of the year. 49 high end lipsticks
i just need to work through them slowly and identify the formulas and colours that don't work for me and slim this down gradually. 41 drugstore lipsticks
I just need to slowly work through them and see which ones I don't like the colour or formula and get this down gradually 30 (15) lip glosses
At least 15 are BNIB right ? I might sell those that are not opened that are not drugstore, I might gift some to give and make up and then I need to check those that are open are still usable. 23 lip crayons
I know that some of the colours/formulas don't work too well on me, so again I need to go through them slowly and test to get this down. 7 lip pencils
This is okay, some are close to finishing, not too worried about this. 7 gel liners
3 are BNIB and of the other 4 I think 3 are past there best. As the 3 BNIB are all black ones I will only open one at a time. 55 pencil liners
Not sure where to start! 11 liquid liners
7 of these are unopened, so I am going to concentrate on the opened ones for now! 7 cream blushes
i am going to try to use these up this year and just keep one, I seem to go to powder versions before I go for a cream. 38 loose shadows
5 of these are my MAC FS pigments which don't get enough love, 8 are bare minerals shadows which i need to slim down to just 2-3 that i use. The rest are fyrinnae and mac pigment samples. I might put these in the swap thread as I don't think they will get enough use given the volume of single shadows and palettes above! On the whole I feel slightly down about it, but I now just want to attack each category in a calm manor, I think by taking out the stuff that doesn't work for me and those which might be past its best I should be able to get closer to my ideal. I plan to re-do the inventory at the end of June to see where I am getting too!
 

jennyap

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Quote:Originally Posted by charlotte366

Sephora is now shipping to the UK, so many lemming!
I have created an account and a loves list, now going to try sitting on my hands to prevent me ordering!
Following my full investory of my stash at the weekend, I have been doing a lot of thinking, I am a long way off my ideal stash sizes and I recognise I can't get there overnight, equally I don't want to ban myself from buying anything as I suspect that could be counter productive.
Instead I am making March a consolidation month, so here is what I plan
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On the whole I feel slightly down about it, but I now just want to attack each category in a calm manor, I think by taking out the stuff that doesn't work for me and those which might be past its best I should be able to get closer to my ideal.
I plan to re-do the inventory at the end of June to see where I am getting too!


I know, right! I'm not even going on the site at the moment, it would be far too dangerous for me. I love the approach you are taking. My stash is nearer the size of yours than some of these already pretty well edited collections (you know who you are :p ). I think I could benefit from doing the same - coming up with an ideal stash size and then seeing how far off from that I am. My biggest problem is that the vast majority of my make-up has been accumulated in the last 18 months or thereabouts, so I am nowhere near finishing any of it. I think the only thing I've even used 50% of is my usual foundation.
 

veronikawithak

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Kind of sad that sometimes we might feel we have to justify our decision, as if we would be horrible people or less loving or caring and don't like children just because we don't want to have any of our own :/ Totally agree with the rest of your post as well, very well said :)
I know! That disclaimer is kind of an automatic response for me now. People just assume you must be defective and that you don't like children. Of course I *like* children. I *like* panda bears but I don't want one in my house for 25 years.
 

Naynadine

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I know! That disclaimer is kind of an automatic response for me now. People just assume you must be defective and that you don't like children. Of course I *like* children. I *like* panda bears but I don't want one in my house for 25 years.
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Alysse011

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21 palettes
Tempted to do a seriously bit of clearing out. I am definitely keeping my yaby palette as I love the mini sizes of the colours and use the pearl paint formula as eyeliner a lot. I am also going to keep my naked basics and laura mercier artist palettes. Drugstore palettes that never get touched will prob go. The hardest descision will be what to do with my Naked 1,2, & 3 palette, they don't get used much ? I might make these my april challenge to use these as my only shadows and see if I fall in love with them, if not it might be time to say goodbye ?
I feel the same way about my Naked palette. It was my first palette I had/makeup product I really liked a lot. And now I have a lot of other palettes I really enjoy and haven't reached for Naked in possibly a year. I recently put it on my countertop - I'm going to try to use it for a while and see if the magic comes back haha. The other palette I feel kind of guilty for getting rid of is the Lorac Pro palette. Everyone loves this thing and I bought into the hype, but I am just not a fan. It needs to go; no reason to keep something just because everyone else loves it.
 

veronikawithak

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I feel the same way about my Naked palette. It was my first palette I had/makeup product I really liked a lot. And now I have a lot of other palettes I really enjoy and haven't reached for Naked in possibly a year. I recently put it on my countertop - I'm going to try to use it for a while and see if the magic comes back haha. The other palette I feel kind of guilty for getting rid of is the Lorac Pro palette. Everyone loves this thing and I bought into the hype, but I am just not a fan. It needs to go; no reason to keep something just because everyone else loves it.
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Alysse011

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I know! That disclaimer is kind of an automatic response for me now. People just assume you must be defective and that you don't like children. Of course I *like* children. I *like* panda bears but I don't want one in my house for 25 years.
I'm going to have to jump in on this with y'all. I don't want kids either - I have a lot of various reasons. But the looks I receive when I'm asked are just ridiculous-like they are horrified. People look like I just kicked their own child or something. And then, like y'all have already said, people start arguing with me about how I'm going to change my mind etc. When I was in college someone told me I was selfish for not wanting children. That really made me angry. It's quite obnoxious to be honest. I once told someone "I'm more of a dog person." The look on her face was too funny. I also want to add in that telling a significant other you don't want kids is always do awkward for me. Honestly, I probably spit that out too early in the relationship, but I don't want to get attached if he has different views. What's the point?
 

veronikawithak

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I also want to add in that telling a significant other you don't want kids is always do awkward for me. Honestly, I probably spit that out too early in the relationship, but I don't want to get attached if he has different views. What's the point?
Toooooo funny!!
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I'm going to use that response! There's this book out called "I Can Barely Take Care of Myself: Tales from a Happy Life Without Kids" and I'm on hold for it at the library. I'll let you know if there's some other great phrases to use to end the conversation.

The thing is, people who are horrified are the ones who need you to make the same choices as them to validate their existence. IMO those are the truly selfish people.

Totally agreed on the significant other thing.. My man and I talked about it quite early as well and no regrets about it! If he really wanted kids and didn't want to budge, it wouldn't have worked out. You're going to disagree on enough things without having something so fundamental to your lives divide you. No matter what you choose, one of you is going to be resentful and nobody's a winner.
 

Naynadine

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A guy I know from when I was younger asked me out on a date, but we had this conversation that went awkward when it came to the topic and I said I don't want kids. It was more like he was interrogating me and I had to come up with good points why I don't want any. He wouldn't take me seriously either. Because ''it's the best thing in the world'' and ''aren't you curious what your child would look like?''... Needless to say I'm waaaaay too busy now to go out with him, lol.
I tried online dating for a while, and despite having a lonnng profile with lots of info, the thing a lot of men would use as a conversation starter was the ''doesn't want kids'' remark. It's like they were baffled that a ''woman in her best years'' doesn't want to put her uterus to any use, lol.
Aaaand we're way off topic...

I think I'm in for a new blow drier this year, my super old one is starting to get a little wonky. I've always had cheap ones, but I was wondering if pricier ones are any better? Is it worth it to invest in an expensive one? Any recommendations?

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At least you wouldn't have to worry about its moral development? Or buying it an iPhone. But bamboo costs could get excessive..



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