Resolution "LOW-BUY" 2014! Who wants to play?

[veronikawithak]

sure thing dear.

I would join in, but as you've seen these kind of comments get me into too much trouble! Have fun ladies.

 

[DarylandCarole]

so how bout those rangers?

They beat my home team (the Pens) so I hate them!!! JK! I've stopped paying attention since the Pens lost, did the Rangers win the Stanley cup?

 

[mel33t]

They beat my home team (the Pens) so I hate them!!!  JK!  I've stopped paying attention since the Pens lost, did the Rangers win the Stanley cup?

Not yet, we have a few more games I think. I'm not too much of a hockey fan but the fans are getting crazy by me (Jersey girl working in the city).

 

[SassyWonder]

[quote name="burghchick" url="/t/185789/resolution-low-buy-2014-who-wants-to-play/7200#post_2666910"]I don't drink often, I just take my muscle relaxers and morphine.  It pretty much has the same calming effect but there's no hangover, and they also get rid of my actual physical pain.  And then, God willing, I can sleep! [/quote] I'll have one for you!

 

[DarylandCarole]

They beat my home team (the Pens) so I hate them!!! JK! I've stopped paying attention since the Pens lost, did the Rangers win the Stanley cup?

Not yet, we have a few more games I think. I'm not too much of a hockey fan but the fans are getting crazy by me (Jersey girl working in the city).

I understand. I used to live in Atlanta and was not into hockey at all. I moved to Pittsburgh right when the Pens won in 90/91 and EVERYONE was so into it that I had to get interested. It feels weird to say "I don't care" when the whole city is celebrating.

 

[Dominique33]

sure thing dear.

Well don't forget I reside very close to 600 Châteaux Elegant, besides red wine is highly recommanded by scientists to prevent heart conditions.

one glass of high end red wine per day.

 

[kait0]

I think it's common that when people decide to make a change whether it's a low-buy, going vegetarian, quitting smoking - people get defensive. They feel like you making this change means that they now will get looked down upon by you for these behaviours. So they then go on the offensive. We're trying to make a change that is best for us, at this point in our lives. We all still love make-up and will purchase it. The goal is to gain some control and meet our personal goals. So let the non-judge mental low-buy continue!

For anyone that gets the urge to buy something whenever you are feeling badly - you might want to look into DBT therapy. There's good workbooks out there, and it talks about learning to tolerate negative emotions, distracting yourself till the urge passes and mindfulness! I think it could definitely be helpful for some!

 

[DarylandCarole]

So my battery is about to die and I really need to get some sleep. I hope when I check back in that Pixie is here and has restored the thread to it's positive, supportive mode.

 

[kerry-jane88]

Expressing a need to distance myself from high energy threads isn't me judging those having a party in them! I read a nice affirmation today: All is well in my world

 

[DarylandCarole]

I think it's common that when people decide to make a change whether it's a low-buy, going vegetarian, quitting smoking - people get defensive. They feel like you making this change means that they now will get looked down upon by you for these behaviours. So they then go on the offensive. We're trying to make a change that is best for us, at this point in our lives. We all still love make-up and will purchase it. The goal is to gain some control and meet our personal goals. So let the non-judge mental low-buy continue!

For anyone that gets the urge to buy something whenever you are feeling badly - you might want to look into DBT therapy. There's good workbooks out there, and it talks about learning to tolerate negative emotions, distracting yourself till the urge passes and mindfulness! I think it could definitely be helpful for some!

It sounds like a great idea. Because of this thread I've paid attention to my triggers, and when I think of something that really upsets me (not your every day annoyances), I distract myself by shopping online. I think most everyone has these kinds of "avoidance behaviors", it's just some are good and some cause problems. Thanks for the suggestion, Kait0.

 

[DarylandCarole]

All is well in my world

Louise Hay?

 

[kerry-jane88]

Louise Hay?

Yes treasure yourself by Miranda Kerr has a nice selection of affirmations

 

[veronikawithak]

Yes

treasure yourself by Miranda Kerr has a nice selection of affirmations

Thanks for sharing that.

I'll have to look into it too.

 

[Dominique33]

I think it's common that when people decide to make a change whether it's a low-buy, going vegetarian, quitting smoking - people get defensive. They feel like you making this change means that they now will get looked down upon by you for these behaviours. So they then go on the offensive. We're trying to make a change that is best for us, at this point in our lives. We all still love make-up and will purchase it. The goal is to gain some control and meet our personal goals. So let the non-judge mental low-buy continue!

For anyone that gets the urge to buy something whenever you are feeling badly - you might want to look into DBT therapy. There's good workbooks out there, and it talks about learning to tolerate negative emotions, distracting yourself till the urge passes and mindfulness! I think it could definitely be helpful for some!

DBT is for BPD so far I know, I do think makeup can be a way to escape ( illness, loneliness, fears of death and so on ), it is a therapy in itself. Some people will find other ways to escape, religion, nature, environmental causes, helping homeless, shopping, exercise whatever. Makeup is full of colours, textures, scents it means feeling alive when the world around you collapses, when you are ill, experience losses etc... DBT won't help such people they are not abnormal they just escape through beauty products and makeup. Only 2 % are diagnosed with a BPD. I mean not everyone needs Marsha Linehan in their lives, IMO.

 

[kerry-jane88]

Thanks for sharing that.  I'll have to look into it too.

I've only begun my journey towards positivity this year, and it's a simple but nice book for beginners like me. I thought it was apt for here as well All is well in my world My world, my choices, no need for anyone to take offense at anyone elses, as were all on our own journeys respectively

 

[Sandy072]

My current low buy struggle is KYY. I own something that is probably similar from the drugstore (Maybelline fuschia flash), so do I need KYY? No, probably not, but every time I see a swatch I die over it. The reality is I need to put my big girl pants on and just decide to not get it if it really is like something I already have. Considering bringing the Maybelline ls with me to store and swatching it next to KYY myself. Most comparison pics online are with other Mac staples like cyy, pink pigeon... I did look at T site but the lighting is different in the two swatches. The struggle is real!!

 

[mosha010]

and i meant deluding. not deleting. typing from phone sucs

 

[Mac-Guy]

Quote: Originally Posted by mosha010

Okay. I wanted to stay away from the drama 1. Because I wasn't present or even caught glimpse on the initial comments. And I don't appreciate when people butt into things that do not concern them or weren't even present to see things to down. @HerGreyness and @elegant-one are two ladies I not only consider a great person and asset to the site but that I respect. And I think we forget that the kidding around can borderline in disrespect. And disrespect is never on the eye of the person saying it but how the disrespected feels about it. Friendships aside, there is no excuse for saying things to one another and make someone feel bad about whatever the hell they want to do.
2. I drink too, I live in New York and whoever isn't drinking here almost every day is deleting themselves. Nothing can make you grab a bottle of wine or a beer like a 1 and a half drive on the LiE or subway ride to work in the morning. So yes I log on while I'm having wine. And I don't care if it's considered too much or too less. I really don't care. But when my friends are being called out on it, I take offense like a hyena.
3. Yes I believe that maybe it wasn't a big comment. And I have nothing against you veronika only thing I'm saying is that sometimes when a person says things to people, You might think that you didn't say something to hurt or demean someone. But it's th other persons to feel good or bad about it. So if that person is offended. They're offended. Period. You can't take that away from a person. So let's not undermine someone's opinion on what is offensive or not to them. Call me a drunk, I won't care a single piece of cheese. But if someone says they were offended. They were. No beef with you, and again I know I wasn't there nor involved in the combo. Now why am I getting involved ?
3. When a post of someone publicly posting their opinion or defending himself is posted like what @Mac-Guy did just now, yes as a moderator you have every right to flag it if it's disrespectful, demeaning, prohibited, illegal, or detriment to the forum life. But if a mod (and I hate to put people on the spot) @Naynadine flags it but does not flag or edit her own response. I don't think that's fair. I don't think these matters should be dealt publicly as to incite more drama but if someone feels the need to say something and you answered back, you either flag both or none at all. That said? Yes I have mod capabilities. Yes I validated it. Should I have? Maybe not, maybe I shoulve deleted both comments. Either both of you get a say In the matter. Or none of you. Nobody gets to flag someone else but leave their own comment and opinion there. It's not fair. It's not freedom of speech.

I have nothing against none of you. I have very good opinion of everyone in this post. Even people that have done or not done stupid postings lol! None has done to me or under my watch. I post racoons half the time for god sakes lol. Now: I think the PM thing is everyone's private matter whoever they want to be friends in a dif level is everyone's business. Whoever feels excluded maybe should have their own friends to send pms to. I PM with very few just like on real life I have few friends, when someone's job is to create relationships and network, it becomes a job to do it on real life.. Whoever anyone decides to be friend or not is their business.


Now. With a bitter taste In my mouth let's leave the snarky comments or references aside, the egos and the pretenses. We all like makeup, that's why we're here. The buying or the non buying of it is each other's personal problem.

That said. Dodgy girl is the ish, I love it. And I'm proud of myself for not going freaky over this coll cause honestly going to the store and swatching used to be half the fun. The online frenzy has made me lazy and high buying. No more online release if I don't see the ish first.

Done.



Thanks for being fair. This is much appreciated.

I will keep my mouth shut to put an end (from my perspective) on this unpleasant topic. Done and dusted.

 

[Mac-Guy]

and i meant deluding. not deleting. typing from phone sucs

Tell me about. Especially when you are typing English on a French ipad.

 

[kait0]

DBT is for BPD so far I know, I do think makeup can be a way to escape ( illness, loneliness, fears of death and so on ), it is a therapy in itself. Some people will find other ways to escape, religion, nature, environmental causes, helping homeless, shopping, exercise whatever. Makeup is full of colours, textures, scents it means feeling alive when the world around you collapses, when you are ill, experience losses etc... DBT won't help such people they are not abnormal they just escape through beauty products and makeup. Only 2 % are diagnosed with a BPD. I mean not everyone needs Marsha Linehan in their lives, IMO.

Sorry, but you are simply incorrect. It was designed for BPD, but is used in the treatment of self-harm, eating disorders and many other mental health issues, especially when there is an impulsive component. If make-up is a healthy escape for you, then keep on doing that, this obviously doesn't apply to you. I'm talking to the people that use shopping for beauty products as a coping mechanism, and it is having a detrimental impact on their live. It doesn't matter whether someone has a diagnosis. Just because shopping/make-up isn't an unhealthy/detrimental coping mechanism for you, doesn't mean you have to shit on the idea all together.