A guy as a roomate?

[duckduck]

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Originally Posted by oracle1 I have been to the apt. many times over the years (about 5 times in the last two weeks)and it is very clean. The apt was his mothers, but she died 3 yrs ago . He has a beautiful brand new livingroom set, the bathroom is super clean and the kitchen is clean as well. The room that I will be staying in is the larger of the two and the only thing it really needs is a new carpet. He doesnt have a lot of stuff and thats great, because i have a ton. I do believe he is a reliable person and trustworthy person.

Hot damn! Sounds like good times

Get the ground rules down, make sure his gf is cool with things, and I think you will have a great living situation!

 

[S.S.BlackOrchid]

Roommates don't have to be close to me, whether they are guys or girls. As long as they pay rent, clean up after themselves and don't do anything illegal, I don't care. They don't have to be my best friends, I'd rather have them not get into my business.

I've also dated a guy with a female roommate and she pretty much worked, went out and kept to herself, so I didn't find it awkward at all.

 

[ratmist]

No matter how nice and trustworthy he is, sort out the business side of things first. Get everything to do with money in writing and signed. Make sure that any bills that have to be paid together are agreed about in writing - this isn't always in rental agreements.

I was 17 when I moved into an apartment with a guy friend. He was great and we had no problems. Same with a pair of german blokes when I was 18. I've always tried to live with guys to be honest. Living with women is harder to me. Almost all the problems I ever had with roommates/flatmates were with women, not with men.

My best friend is a guy I met when I moved in with him (this is common enough in the UK, to put out ads for new flatmates and agree to live together even if you don't know each other). I never expected to become best friends with him, but five years later, he's been the best man at my wedding and is my dearest friend.

 

[user79]

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Originally Posted by M.A.C. head. Well sorry to break it to you but not every person would be okay with that, regardless of how YOU feel.

That's true, and I didn't mean to come off so harsh. But, don't you think people should do what they feel is right for themselves, not make decisions based on what potential suitors might think, or not? If she is ok with it, then I personally think she shouldn't be swayed from doing so just because of someone else's opinion outside of the situation. I mean, it is she who will have to live with the roomie, not someone else. And if some people aren't ok with it, then they should live with someone from the same sex.

Whatever works! Oh and I do agree with your point about setting boundaries, like your bedroom is off limits to him for example. But any good roomate will understand that, regardless of gender.

Actually come to think of it, I lived with a second straight male before too, just him and me in a flat, it was fine too.

 

[lara]

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Originally Posted by M.A.C. head. Well sorry to break it to you but not every person would be okay with that, regardless of how YOU feel.

And the same applies straight back. No personal experience is universal.

I say go for it. A flatmate is a flatmate, regardless of sex and/or gender, sexual orientation, etc etc etc. Some are good, some are bad. If you think he'll be a good housemate, then roll the dice and go for it.

 

[stacylynne]

I don't think it's a big deal having a male roomate. Your b/f doesn't pay your bills, so he really doesn't have a say in what you do.
You have to do what's right for you. You have knows him for 20+ years. He's just a good friend of yours. Tell your b/f to watch three's company re-runs LOL.

 

[Beauty Mark]

You need to apply standard roommate common sense. Is he reliable? Is he trustworthy (will he not steal your stuff or have sketchy people over)? If you're worried about the cleanliness factor, it's about as much of a crapshot with women as it is men.

I have not shared an apartment with a male. I hate to say it, but it may kill off some potential relationships. However, do you really want to be with someone who doesn't trust you? It sounds like, by not being affected by your boyfriend leaving, that you do not. This sounds like a great deal. $900 savings is a lot.

Ultimately, you have to do what's right for you. Some people may be turned off by that, but rest assured, your love life won't be over if you choose this arrangement

 

[iluffyew769769]

It's great until he dates your friends. then it is wierd to hear them in the next room.