Bootyliciousx
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I think you should talk to him about how you feel. In his eyes you are beautiful. He loves you.
am i a freak?
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stacylynne
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Talk to your husband. He loves you for who you are. He doesn't even know why you're upset. He pob. thinks he did something wrong.
Listen, I gained weight since I was hanging out with this guy from years ago. He's now back in my life but I put him off for 2 months b/c of my weight gain. (I use to be a size 2, now i'm a size 10)
Guess what, I saw him & he still wanted me, for me. I lost 15 lbs since I saw him & he told me as long as i'm happy with it.
We are all different shapes, colors & sizes. don't compare yourself to models, actresses, media, etc. b/c that's not real.
You & your husband are real & he loves you unconditionally. Talk to him & let him know the changes you are going through & you're unhappy with yourself.
It's not going to change the way he feels about you sweetie.
Listen, I gained weight since I was hanging out with this guy from years ago. He's now back in my life but I put him off for 2 months b/c of my weight gain. (I use to be a size 2, now i'm a size 10)
Guess what, I saw him & he still wanted me, for me. I lost 15 lbs since I saw him & he told me as long as i'm happy with it.
We are all different shapes, colors & sizes. don't compare yourself to models, actresses, media, etc. b/c that's not real.
You & your husband are real & he loves you unconditionally. Talk to him & let him know the changes you are going through & you're unhappy with yourself.
It's not going to change the way he feels about you sweetie.
hey guys, seriously i'm so pleased that i posted this because you are all so lovely and have said some really inspiring things. plus it's great to know that i'm not the only one who feels like this.
you'll be pleased to know the other night we had a big long chat and i kinda poured everything out. he was pleased it wasn't him i was upset with/not turned on by and he was so sad that i felt this way. but we're trying to work at changing my way of thinking. and it's kinda working. rather than saying oh i'm so fat i need to loose weight. i'm now thinking 'i've lost however many punds this week which is great!'
plus because things are out in the open i feel more relaxed. we haven't had full sex still hower have done other 'stuff' so at least i know i can get turned on. so yeah things are improving just by talking.
thanks again guys!
you'll be pleased to know the other night we had a big long chat and i kinda poured everything out. he was pleased it wasn't him i was upset with/not turned on by and he was so sad that i felt this way. but we're trying to work at changing my way of thinking. and it's kinda working. rather than saying oh i'm so fat i need to loose weight. i'm now thinking 'i've lost however many punds this week which is great!'
plus because things are out in the open i feel more relaxed. we haven't had full sex still hower have done other 'stuff' so at least i know i can get turned on. so yeah things are improving just by talking.
thanks again guys!
lafemmenoir
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I am so happy things are improving. Self image is usually so distorted than what we perceive. As women, our bodies change for many reasons, stress, hormones, diet, metabolism, and we are our own worst critic. Tell yourself things you like about yourself everyday, in no time, your confidence will begin to improve.
TUPRNUT
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I'm so glad you spoke with him about this! It's so important for him to know where you're coming from and for him to know how he can help you!
I would just encourage you to continue to speak openly about this with him. Let him keep you accountable (in a loving way) about your eating, exercise and "control" issues. I've dealt with very similar things, without going into much detail, and it's so important for my husband to know where I am at with some of my eating/control issues, so that he can enourage me to take care of myself.
Hugs!
I would just encourage you to continue to speak openly about this with him. Let him keep you accountable (in a loving way) about your eating, exercise and "control" issues. I've dealt with very similar things, without going into much detail, and it's so important for my husband to know where I am at with some of my eating/control issues, so that he can enourage me to take care of myself.
Hugs!
couturesista
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I'm glad you talked to your husband, but I also think you should talk to someone professionally too. Now that your husband knows the issue, I'm sure he would be willing to help you any way that he can. Good Luck Beautiful.
aimee
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talk to him tell him what you told us
i totally understand you....im thin im skinny and you know what i had no sexual urges i hated the touch of a man because i hated my body
(i got a disorted body image due to anorexia und bulimia)
if everything fails (talkint etc.) you might need to talk to a therapist
im sorry youre going through that and i send you a virtual hug
i totally understand you....im thin im skinny and you know what i had no sexual urges i hated the touch of a man because i hated my body
(i got a disorted body image due to anorexia und bulimia)
if everything fails (talkint etc.) you might need to talk to a therapist
im sorry youre going through that and i send you a virtual hug
mona lisa
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Four quick points:
--At least it is not a matter of height or some trait you cannot change. (And one that women unlike men emphasize.)
--Weight can be lost. (Take your time and if you have any questions about how to proceed, feel free to IM me as I have a lot of knowledge about efficient weight loss and muscle building.)
--Sometimes it helps to talk it out even with men. (Notice that your husband thought it was something he did and you talking with him about it cleared that otherwise potential minefield up.)
--You have a husband who loves you and is on your side with this. (His sadness at your feelings is very touching.)
Good job and keep us posted
--At least it is not a matter of height or some trait you cannot change. (And one that women unlike men emphasize.)
--Weight can be lost. (Take your time and if you have any questions about how to proceed, feel free to IM me as I have a lot of knowledge about efficient weight loss and muscle building.)
--Sometimes it helps to talk it out even with men. (Notice that your husband thought it was something he did and you talking with him about it cleared that otherwise potential minefield up.)
--You have a husband who loves you and is on your side with this. (His sadness at your feelings is very touching.)
Good job and keep us posted
