jenii
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Roommates have to share expenses. It's a fact of life. It sounds like she can afford more, which is WHY she has the biggest room. Which means it sounds like she already pays slightly more than everyone else.
If you can have a dialogue with this girl without getting confrontational, and just asking that she turn her heating off when she's not home, I'm sure the problem will be solved. You can't make her turn off lights whenever she leaves a room. The most you can ask her to do is turn off her heating if she's not gonna be home. That's a reasonable request.
Asking her to pay a larger chunk than she already does, however, is unreasonable. You all live in the same house, you all share expenses. If you can't move past only wanting to pay YOUR EXACT SHARE, then maybe you aren't ready to have roommates.
This sounded a lot meaner than I intended it to, but it's a harsh truth. Some people just can't do the sharing-a-house thing. It's cheaper, but it's obviously not something you can comfortably live with if it's only been two months and you're already having drama in the house.
I wouldn't suggest a "house meeting," either, because then it's the rest of you ganging up on this one girl, and that's never cool. It'll only make the drama worse, and it won't actually solve anything.
You might think it's her fault, but I've lived in a house with multiple roommates, and the group does tend to choose one roommate to "pick on" (often the one with the biggest room-- the complaint is usually that it's "unfair"). The problem probably isn't even as bad as everyone's convinced themselves it is. This is just what happens when a bunch of incompatible people (or ones who aren't ready to be in this situation) decide to share a house.
If you can have a dialogue with this girl without getting confrontational, and just asking that she turn her heating off when she's not home, I'm sure the problem will be solved. You can't make her turn off lights whenever she leaves a room. The most you can ask her to do is turn off her heating if she's not gonna be home. That's a reasonable request.
Asking her to pay a larger chunk than she already does, however, is unreasonable. You all live in the same house, you all share expenses. If you can't move past only wanting to pay YOUR EXACT SHARE, then maybe you aren't ready to have roommates.
This sounded a lot meaner than I intended it to, but it's a harsh truth. Some people just can't do the sharing-a-house thing. It's cheaper, but it's obviously not something you can comfortably live with if it's only been two months and you're already having drama in the house.
I wouldn't suggest a "house meeting," either, because then it's the rest of you ganging up on this one girl, and that's never cool. It'll only make the drama worse, and it won't actually solve anything.
You might think it's her fault, but I've lived in a house with multiple roommates, and the group does tend to choose one roommate to "pick on" (often the one with the biggest room-- the complaint is usually that it's "unfair"). The problem probably isn't even as bad as everyone's convinced themselves it is. This is just what happens when a bunch of incompatible people (or ones who aren't ready to be in this situation) decide to share a house.