I stay away from manual exfoliators. If you insist on using them, try to find one that has very small grains in it to gently exfoliate your face (like EL So Polished) instead of the cheaper alternatives with large grains that can tear your skin (like St Ive's apricot scrub).
I personally use (and suggest) chemical exfoliation. I mainly use Paula's Choice products for exfoliation immediately after cleansing at night, like the 2% BHA liquid (but you'll want to start with 1% probably if you do not use BHA currently, and then transition to 2%). I have combo skin but really tend to me oily in my t zone and this truly combats any unwanted oilies! I follow that up with the 8%AHA gel (also from PC). Wait 30 min before applying any other products like moisturizer.
My skin has never looked better and I'm so glad I've figured this out. I have been exfoliating this way for 8 months and my skin texture is amazing and the BHA and AHA have solved problems with inconsistency, texture issues, clogged pores, oily areas, etc. I would never go back to manual exfoliation again because there is no need for me to do so.
Maybe this isn't what you are looking for but I hope it can help in some way.