Chikky
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Here's the short story:
All this last semester, when I was in school, every Tuesday my guy and I would meet at his house, he'd either buy my or make me dinner, and we'd watch House, The Mentalist, and The Shield. Thursdays were the same: I'd get off work, we'd get dinner, and watch CSI. Every Monday night and Wednesday night he'd say 'You're coming over, right?' or 'Do you want to come over?'. Well, pretty soon it just sort of seemed implied, but I'd still ask, just in case.
Then I'd feel like a burden for continuing to ASK every couple nights, like I felt like a bother.
I guess alot of it hearkens back to elementary and high school (yes, about 13 years past that...) when I had zero friends. No one wanted me around. They'd LIE to me so I wouldn't show up at places. Even now, at my workplace, I feel the same way. Every girl but ME is in a huge clique that hang out almost every night. I'm just older than all of them, and we don't like doing the same things... Maybe it's me.
Anyhow, that's another story. This story is that I think it's my issue. I really do not know how to deal with the fact that someone might want to hang out with me. I constantly feel like a burden, or like he thinks I'm a loser or that he feels bad for me so he'll let me come over alot.
So last night I said nothing. I didn't ask if he wanted to hang out, and he didn't either. I do realize that it's Christmas time and he's really busy right now... So that always made me feel worse about ASKING to hang out.
But I feel completely awful; like crying. I feel unwanted again, and I KNOW it's not really his fault. I'm socially awkward because of my school and work experiences.
But was I right in not asking him about tonight? What should I say when I talk to him later tonight??
I feel awful that I wasted this night. Maybe he'll think *I* don't want to hang out with him, since I didn't ask.
I'm really sad... in more than one way.
All this last semester, when I was in school, every Tuesday my guy and I would meet at his house, he'd either buy my or make me dinner, and we'd watch House, The Mentalist, and The Shield. Thursdays were the same: I'd get off work, we'd get dinner, and watch CSI. Every Monday night and Wednesday night he'd say 'You're coming over, right?' or 'Do you want to come over?'. Well, pretty soon it just sort of seemed implied, but I'd still ask, just in case.
Then I'd feel like a burden for continuing to ASK every couple nights, like I felt like a bother.
I guess alot of it hearkens back to elementary and high school (yes, about 13 years past that...) when I had zero friends. No one wanted me around. They'd LIE to me so I wouldn't show up at places. Even now, at my workplace, I feel the same way. Every girl but ME is in a huge clique that hang out almost every night. I'm just older than all of them, and we don't like doing the same things... Maybe it's me.
Anyhow, that's another story. This story is that I think it's my issue. I really do not know how to deal with the fact that someone might want to hang out with me. I constantly feel like a burden, or like he thinks I'm a loser or that he feels bad for me so he'll let me come over alot.
So last night I said nothing. I didn't ask if he wanted to hang out, and he didn't either. I do realize that it's Christmas time and he's really busy right now... So that always made me feel worse about ASKING to hang out.
But I feel completely awful; like crying. I feel unwanted again, and I KNOW it's not really his fault. I'm socially awkward because of my school and work experiences.
But was I right in not asking him about tonight? What should I say when I talk to him later tonight??
I feel awful that I wasted this night. Maybe he'll think *I* don't want to hang out with him, since I didn't ask.
I'm really sad... in more than one way.