Do some people just not understand? lol...

[Raerae]

So I went out to a pub last sunday for a belated St. Pattys day celebration... Which included my Aunt, a family friend, and myself.

Out of all the girls in my family, I'm the only one who is into makeup. I enjoy using color on my eyes, and trying out new shades, etc... I feel bland with just a little liner and mascara on my face...Which is how everyone else wears their makeup in my family...

Anyways... Apparently my Aunt needed to bring it up to my Mom when the spoke the other day. So my Mom calls my apartment the other day, and apparently needs to explain to me how it's un-necessary to always get all done up, and how when I use color on my eyes, I look all "foo-foo," in what I've started calling, "Mom Vocablulary."

I'm thinking... I barely had any color on at all, if anything just a very pale pink on my eyes which was more sheer than anything... Considerably mild compared to what I've worn other times...

Of course then she has to add in that she thinks my pants are too tight, and how I need to cover my shoulders more, and I need to wear closed toe shoes more. But thats another topic for another board lol (imho I was fairly covered lol)... Not my fault there wearing turtle necks and chunky boots... I'm 24, not 50...

Anyways... Anyone else have peeps who just dont understand the personal enjoyment that I get out of color? And feeling positive about my appearance? Apparently they think that I'm only doing it to attract boys, and "I dont need to do that all the time, especially when I'm out with family and friends." And of course when I try to explain my side, I'm, "getting defensive."

 

[dcmo]

I completely understand. In my case it's my Hubby. I've just recently got into Makeup in general and MAC. I've always wore makeup but pretty low key. Now I like to use diff colours and things too which he likes to constantly mention about. How I don't have to put on makeup for around the house, asking if I have a hot date (this comment was after moisturizer and foundation..no makeup yet). When I asked what he meant his response was, well you are putting on so much stuff. I was shocked and just asked him if he was serious. It has led to quite a few little tiffs lately.

Also my Mom makes comments about how many packages I get and that I won't use up everything before it goes bad which is probably true, but live and learn right?

 

[here_is_gone_88]

Oh you should her my dad I was in the batheroom for three minutes I TIMED IT. He got into a fit he is the most irrational freak out about everything. The bra topic came up he doesnt think I wear a bra...Im seventeen and a 34D okay...
They won't ever learn.

 

[Shawna]

My hubby makes comments about my wearing makeup even when I'm not going anywhere, but I just tell him it's for when he goes to work and my boyfriend comes over

Seriously though, I am not artistic in any way except for my ability to apply my makeup and if other people want to spend their time needlepointing while I do my makeup, that's my choice. It's the only way I can express myself artistically.

 

[mrskloo]

My dad think it's a waste of time and money... it's a good think he lives on another island.

But then again.. that's the same man that said I couldn't wear tampons until I was married. lol

 

[SugarAsh182]

My SO loves my different m/u looks, but he's an artist himself, so he understands. He thinks I'm a little obsessed lol, but he comments on it if he likes the colors.

For me, my mother and my father are like that! My mom will be like "Ashley... isn't that a little too much for daytime?" and she *hates* false eyelashes lol. My dad hates "glitter" meaning he hates shimmer anything. They comment on what kind of m/u I have on pretty much everytime I go home. My mom is kinda getting into MAC now though, so she'll comment positively when I wear something neutral... and then she'll borrow it lol. I would say that their generation isn't used to color but c'mon... the 80's? The 70's? They all wore color at one point in their lives!

 

[MACMuse]

Surprisingly enough I don't hear too many comments from my family about wearing color however my FRIENDS, who call themselves beauty and fashion-forward, allllll ways have something to say. They say they love my technique but don't understand why I can't just be satisfied with throwing on a brown shade instead of a bright green or yellow. And now that I've totally gotten over my fear of color I'm starting to find subtle ways to integrate color into my everyday look and they don't get it and accuse me of the age-old "trying to attract men" story. But I see it as this, I don't play around alot with my hair and color very often, I'm into clothes but my style is very defined and classic and I'm not too big on trendy shit so for me, make up is my way of standing out. and its what i like to play around with. And besides that, I like wearing colors and makeup just to practice new looks or because I'm bored and it's fun. oh and lets not forget that I wear color and makeup alot BECAUSE I CAN, damnit! lol.

 

[asnbrb]

I only used to wear eyeliner when I first started to date my boyfriend, so he's not used to the kazillion things that I have in my bathroom. When he comments, I just point out his crapload of DVDs/games/flatscreen/othergames etc. etc. All my MAC doesn't even come CLOSE to his TV or the motorcycle that he just bought.

 

[giz2000]

Luckily I don't get flak from anyone...the only DH complains about is lipgloss (he doesn't like the sticky feeling when he kisses me)...other than that, either no one seems to mind, or no one really cares!

 

[asnbrb]

oh, and a little OT, but when my aunt from California (who's known as a mean b*tch) decided that it was her place to comment on my looks, all "respect for my elders" went out the door. She had been saying other innuendos to me all night long and finally said that I had gotten "fat" (I'm 5'1" and at the heaviest that I've EVER been - 106 lbs) and I told her calmly to her face that one more rude comment WOULD get her thrown off of my second story balcony and the only part that I'd get upset over is if she hit my car on the way down. She's never said a rude word to me since.

I'm totally not saying you should do that, BTW.

 

[Shawna]

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Originally Posted by asnbrb oh, and a little OT, but when my aunt from California (who's known as a mean b*tch) decided that it was her place to comment on my looks, all "respect for my elders" went out the door. She had been saying other innuendos to me all night long and finally said that I had gotten "fat" (I'm 5'1" and at the heaviest that I've EVER been - 106 lbs) and I told her calmly to her face that one more rude comment WOULD get her thrown off of my second story balcony and the only part that I'd get upset over is if she hit my car on the way down. She's never said a rude word to me since. I'm totally not saying you should do that, BTW.

 

[Colorqueen]

I completely understand.

My mum was a lot like that most of my life. She has backed off, but I had to tell her to back off a few times before she started to ease up.

I mean - too fat, too ugly, too much makeup, too bright colors, even my hair never looked right.

It was quite frustrating.

It is much easier when people can just let you be you and enjoy you the way you are.

Why do people try to change each other all of the time?

Hang in there, I know just how you feel.

 

[cletus2894]

My strategy is to slowly suck them into our world. I've converted my sister and one of my friends thus far...

 

[bebs]

I'm pretty lucky, my husband is fine with whatever colors I use or how much I put on as long as I dont get glitter everywhere or make us majorly late when going out.

my mother on the other hand -lives 3 mintues away- whenever she comes over its a comment about how its not natural looking, or to dramitc (I've even had her say in the past to go upstairs and tone it down for when I go out of the house!) my dad doesn't care, and my brothers are scared that I'm gonna take a jar of refelects glitter and dump it on them.

 

[BlahWah]

My friends are starting to somewhat understand - I'm no longer a freak, just an addict (yay! *sarcasm*). Of course, spending tons of free time hunting for the next japanese soap or movie, or downloading as much anime as you can is not in the same arena as me buying a few items from a new collection (dang those collections, stops me from getting regular stuff!) and putting on makeup everyday. lt's part of my getting ready routine, it's part of their chill time or whatever. Yeesh, if it's something they wouldn't do, someone who does must have a problem...argh!

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Originally Posted by cletus2894 My strategy is to slowly suck them into our world. I've converted my sister and one of my friends thus far...

*lol* I'm trying that on my sis. I think if she had more $$ and time, she'd have turned by now. =P

 

[Jaim]

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Originally Posted by asnbrb When he comments, I just point out his crapload of DVDs/games/flatscreen/othergames etc. etc.

Hahaha, exactly! My boyfriend bugs me and says I shouldn't buy more makeup, but I just point out his dvd's that are laying around without a home. I tell him if he wants me to stop buying makeup, he has to stop buying dvd's and games.

 

[here_is_gone_88]

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Originally Posted by asnbrb oh, and a little OT, but when my aunt from California (who's known as a mean b*tch) decided that it was her place to comment on my looks, all "respect for my elders" went out the door. She had been saying other innuendos to me all night long and finally said that I had gotten "fat" (I'm 5'1" and at the heaviest that I've EVER been - 106 lbs) and I told her calmly to her face that one more rude comment WOULD get her thrown off of my second story balcony and the only part that I'd get upset over is if she hit my car on the way down. She's never said a rude word to me since. I'm totally not saying you should do that, BTW.

Thats amazing! I have relatives like that haha GO YOU.

 

[V2LUCKY]

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Originally Posted by asnbrb When he comments, I just point out his crapload of DVDs/games/flatscreen/othergames etc. etc.

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Originally Posted by Jaim Hahaha, exactly! My boyfriend bugs me and says I shouldn't buy more makeup, but I just point out his dvd's that are laying around without a home. I tell him if he wants me to stop buying makeup, he has to stop buying dvd's and games.

My SO hates me buying mu too, I NEVER tell him anything about his obsession with shoes (he has over 250pairs) and maybe I should next time he complains. He tells me that I'm never gonna finish all my mu, well at least I could wear more than one item at a time on my face and he could only wear one pair of shoes at a time. UGH!!! It's so frustrating...BUT.. the thing I hate the most is that he hates that I wear color (I am not a neutral girl AT ALL) he says "it's hooker makeup". The other day he made me cry cause he said something about my mu and I couldn't take it and cried and told him that it really bothered me that he never compliments me on my mu, and the days that I do a neutral face for him he never says anything, and I feel so uncomfortable like that (I feel like my face looks dirty). So now I just say FUCK IT! He doesn't compliment me on my mu when I wear color or neutrals, I'll just do whatever makes me feel comfortable.

 

[lovejam]

I get that sometimes, but not really from my family. I don't really care, because I'm having fun, and it's not like I'm spending *their* money.

 

[Raerae]

OMG yah, I so know the feeling that my family thinks I'm wearing, "hooker makeup" lol... Especially with the, "you dont have to make it so over the top to look pretty."

AKA, wear brown...

I hate all brown looks... Anytime I've done them I feel so plain...

Not that brown is bad, it goes with a lot of colors to make earthy looks, but all brown? Blah...

I also like how dramatic black liner on my water line looks... And I often shade underneath my eye, blending black into whatever color i'm using... I just LIKE how it looks... And of course I get accused of going, "over the top."

I dont critique them on how blah they look... Not my fault I stand out when I'm with them, because there all so bleh looking...

I like doing my mu... I get up an extra hour b4 i'd normally have too so I have enough time to apply and blend my colors... Never understand why it's such an issue for some people. Color is not just for special occasions!

Ever get the, "stop wearing night makeup during the day!" accusation?