Do you think a guy and a girl can just be friends?
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Well with my experience, I believe they can be just friends. However, the idea of those 2 friends being more then friends, ALWAYS comes up. I don't know what it is, it might be the fact that the 2 people have such an amazing friendship that they believe a romantic relationship would be amazing too.
When I was in college I had a male friend that I developed a crush for but when I found out he had a gf, obviously that crush vanished. After a couple of months, him and his gf broke up and somehow, he found out about my crush on him. Then we became closer friends and he asked me out on a date which I agreed to but it was just so weird. That day was the day that I realized, we would just be friends. Afterwards, we would hang out and do fun things together but he would always joke about us dating, going out together and being intimate that it just became annoying. We're not close now, which is sad but it is what it is.
Also while I was in college, I was completely gaga over this one guy. He's probably one of my greatest loves. Anyways, his best friend who I was friends with, tried to flirt with me so many times. When I wasn't speaking to the guy I was gaga over, he started talking to me more and more and tried sending me pictures of himself. It was so funny (now that I look at it) because I never was attracted to him and all I ever was going to him was a friend. He just completely showed his true colours which made me not like him even more. I don't talk to him anymore. I do see him here and there and I am friendly with him but I think he got the message when I started being a complete bitch towards him, haha!
One of my closes male friends today, has never made a pass at me which I really respect. We confide in each other a lot and our friendship is great. I talk to him about guys and he talks to me about girls. One time he was dating a girl, who was completely crazy! She mistook our friendship for something more and created a lot of problems. It's funny because me and him are not attracted to one another at all, so I don't understand what she saw. She would complain when he would drive me home, she also complained to him that we were to close and that he would pay more attention to me then to her. They're not together anymore, they're just friends now. But I absolutely can't stand her and she knows it. She won't say a word to me because she knows that I have nothing to say to her.
When I was in college I had a male friend that I developed a crush for but when I found out he had a gf, obviously that crush vanished. After a couple of months, him and his gf broke up and somehow, he found out about my crush on him. Then we became closer friends and he asked me out on a date which I agreed to but it was just so weird. That day was the day that I realized, we would just be friends. Afterwards, we would hang out and do fun things together but he would always joke about us dating, going out together and being intimate that it just became annoying. We're not close now, which is sad but it is what it is.
Also while I was in college, I was completely gaga over this one guy. He's probably one of my greatest loves. Anyways, his best friend who I was friends with, tried to flirt with me so many times. When I wasn't speaking to the guy I was gaga over, he started talking to me more and more and tried sending me pictures of himself. It was so funny (now that I look at it) because I never was attracted to him and all I ever was going to him was a friend. He just completely showed his true colours which made me not like him even more. I don't talk to him anymore. I do see him here and there and I am friendly with him but I think he got the message when I started being a complete bitch towards him, haha!
One of my closes male friends today, has never made a pass at me which I really respect. We confide in each other a lot and our friendship is great. I talk to him about guys and he talks to me about girls. One time he was dating a girl, who was completely crazy! She mistook our friendship for something more and created a lot of problems. It's funny because me and him are not attracted to one another at all, so I don't understand what she saw. She would complain when he would drive me home, she also complained to him that we were to close and that he would pay more attention to me then to her. They're not together anymore, they're just friends now. But I absolutely can't stand her and she knows it. She won't say a word to me because she knows that I have nothing to say to her.
carvedwords
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As long as everyone has the mindset of "friends", then yes guys and girls can be just friends.
missmeghan
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I honestly think that while guys and girls can be friends, at some point, at least one of you if not both, will *consider* wanting more, whether they make it known or not. Just my opinion (and experience) of course 
mirando
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It would be interesting to hear an honest male opinion on this, but I think it's possible. I have some male friends that I simply see as brothers; there's no physical attraction. It's interesting to me how this happens. Why can you get along with someone so well, but have no attraction, but be very strongly attracted to someone you don't get along well with? We may never know. haha.
JulieDiva
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In my experience, it seems like No, everyone thinks if a male and female are freinds, there has to be something more. My husband does not like me to have any male friends, which is sad, since i adore males.
I had a close male friend last year, we bonded over our dogs and love of walking but i had to end it since my husband hates it, my girls did too and it became too stressful. I miss him and his dog a lot though.
I had a close male friend last year, we bonded over our dogs and love of walking but i had to end it since my husband hates it, my girls did too and it became too stressful. I miss him and his dog a lot though.
allthingsglam
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When I was growing up my best friend was a guy all the girls loved him I really never paided him any attention like that well fast forward to high school he still one of the most popular guys had a new girl friend every week and all his gf liked to be close to me because they knew me and him was cool like that oneday out the blue he like I can buy u this and I can buy u that he had money too I'm looking at him all cray cray like my boyfriend can buy me that to make a long story short he like I want to be your bf dump him I'm like what I don't like u like that he chased me for years we finally drifted apart because my kids fathers was not having that but I really don't think a man and a women can really just be friends not best friends anyway most men at some point will want more at some point
Sexy Sadie
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Nope, not so long there is chemistry there.
throwitawaynow
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No.
oliviajames
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I think no. Because when a boy and girl will be alone a natural feeling will generate and they will do something you know which friends cannot do.
suciarubia
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I can definitely be just friends with guys, however I did find that mostly all of my guy friends ended up "catching feelings" for me. We were able to maintain our friendships even after I turned them down, though.
GoddessLyric
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Yes I do believe that guys and girls can be "just" friends. But it has to be a certain kind of girl and a certain kind of guy.
