Ewwww....I feel gross...

[YvetteJeannine]

So, I've got this male patient that I see. He's almost 91 years old. He's always telling me I have great...ahem...knockers...Headlights, he calls them. "Does your hubby ever tell ya you've got a great pair of headlights..? 'Cause if he doesn't, I just wanted to let ya know."...He tells me, with a huge grin on his face. Now, that I don't mind so much. I figure, hell...he's 90 years old...He's earned the right to tell a chick she's got nice cha cha's.

Well...I go in the the other day...I'm doing his vitals and sorting his medication. So he looks at me with this huge, crooked grin on his face..."I had a nice dream last night." He tells me. "That's nice." I say...Figuring the dream was about his wife (she's in a convalescent home after breaking her hip...he told me he made up a prayer about her the previous night, so I thought the dream would be about her).

"Yeah" he continues..."It was a really nice dream. A wet dream about you."

I stare in shock. Mouth hanging open. "It was nice. You were really tight." STILL GRINNING! He's saying this to me like he's telling me it's going to rain tomorrow! Then, he says "Ya know those tissues you threw out?"...I gulp. I know what he's going to say (there were a bunch of dirty tissues in his walker cart that I threw out when I got there)..."Those were from the wet dream."

He's all nonchalant about it. So I point my finger and say "Bucky, that's innapropriate...that's WAY TOO PERSONAL, and I don't want to hear about it!" I don't think he got it..'cause he says "Well, I can't help it. I can't help what I dream about..it's only natural." AAAARRRRRRGGGGGGG!!!!

So I just continued on with my work and didn't say anything more...I didn't want to draw extra attention to it. I must say, though..this realllly bothered me. I've taken the "headlights" comments pretty well so far; but this?! Gah....I'm SOO grossed out! I don't know if I did the right thing or not. I only hope this never comes up again...'cause I don't know what to do if it does...

Thanx for letting me get this off my....umm....chest.

 

[battipatti]

hun, that is awfulllll, you're a better person than I am though, I'd have slapped him, old or not that was really uncalled for. People know about boundaries and know how to cross them, he should have known to respect yours, he had no business telling you things that he knew would make you uncomfortable and should have apologized. Try to get someone else to take care of him?

 

[samila18]

oh geez, I wouldn't have been able to deal with that! you're way better than I ever could be! =\ I hope it doesn't go any further.. although, how much further can it go?!

good luck!

 

[Jacq-i]

That is horrible.

I would tell your boss that you're having personal issues with him and would no longer like to work with that man.

 

[Beauty Mark]

Old age does not excuse repulsive behavior. I would've cussed the old ass out for the breast ocmments alone, but you probably handled it better.

Tell your boss you cannot work with this man any longer. The next thing you know this guy will start groping you and think you'll bed him. Don't let it get to that point.

 

[Uchina]

Some dogs just need to be fixed.

 

[caffn8me]

I'm really sorry to hear about your bad experience. If it happens again you should definitely report his behaviour to your supervisor (or perhaps to his wife!)

It seems that age is no obstacle to such behaviour. Read this story from the BBC today about a 95 year old arrested for picking up a prostitute

 

[Lalli]

95 and picking up prosititues uhh

they're meant to be sweet old grandpas not pervs!!!

yevette so sorry about u having to put up with that are u a doctor? mayb someone else could treat him?

 

[Shimmer]

Seriously, you need to file that with your boss, and have it noted either in his records or somewhere else.
If this behaviour is out of the norm for him, (I hope it is, and he's not just a pervy lech) it maybe a symptom of something else.

That said, yeah, that's pretty grosssss.

 

[Dawn]

Eeeeeewwwww!!! I do agree, that was quite inappropriate.

 

[Beauty Mark]

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It seems that age is no obstacle to such behaviour. Read this story from the BBC today about a 95 year old arrested for picking up a prostitute

Hey, at least it was consentual!

 

[Makeuplovingal]

That is awful! I would definitely be talking to my boss about his comments and asking to switch with someone else when it comes to his care!! Good luck!

 

[a914butterfly]

i would have slapped him the face (and that's being nice cause of his age, cause he deserves a knee into his groin) and walk out and quit. thats sexual harrasment

 

[Ms. Z]

That old pervert!

Some of those old people are out of control. I've heard some funny and outrageous stories about some old and disabled people from people in the medical field.

I agree withthe others, I would ask for a re-assignment.

 

[Bianca]

OMG! I wouldn't know what to do, I think you did the right thing but I can image that you feel gross, I would too!!! What a weirdo...

 

[Raerae]

Yeh i would totally pawn him off on another person in your office. Preferably a guy, and a big hairy one, just to make it extra special.

Old men are pervs. I've been grabbed by them before in grochery stores and stuff. They cop a feel on my butt. Like just age alone give them the escuse to ignore the normal constraints of society. They probably figure what do they have to lose.

What a sicko.

 

[caffn8me]

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Originally Posted by Raerae Like just age alone give them the escuse to ignore the normal constraints of society. They probably figure what do they have to lose.

Teeth and testicles spring immediately to mind

 

[YvetteJeannine]

Well, I did tell my office about it. They put it in the computer file. They couldn't believe what I was telling them!!! I also spoke to his great-niece....apparently he's told HER she's got great "headlights" too....So, he's got a lil' history there of inappropriate behave. The g. niece was HORRIFIED when I told her what he did. She didn't know what to say...she apologized, and I told her she had nothing to be sorry about....SHE didn't do anything!!!! She told me that theres some history of that sort of behavior with the men in the family...apparently there's been more than a few of them down his family line that behave like that toward women.

As far as anyone knows, all the comments (besides the comment under discussion) he's made so far (to me, and the niece) have been about boobs...nothing about the naughty dreams..until he sprung it on me the other day. I've been told by the family that he likes me A LOT (as a person...and I guess as an object, too)...I wonder if he actually THINKS he's giving me some kind of compliment; but I suspect he knows full well what he's doing. He doesn't want *any other* nurses but me, the family tells me....Raerae....LOL @ sending a big, hairy guy in for him....I think I've got juuuuuuuust the guy!

I know he likes me as a nurse, and that's great. I'm glad...but he's gotta r-e-s-p-e-c-t me as a human being too. I told my sister 'bout the incident, and she was gobsmacked. She couldn't believe it. She was like "Eww...old man. Ewww...don't tell me anymore, I'm gonna barf!"

As of now, though...I have to stay w/ the case....I will be monitoring him carefully, and I'm not afraid to put him in his place now. I think initially I was too shocked to say anything more than what I did. Believe me...he won't be getting away w/ this again!!!!!

Thanks for all your feedback, ladies. Ya'll rock!

 

[Beauty Mark]

Good for you for reporting him! Quick question: would the office object to having another person (male) in the room while you work with this man? Like a male nurse? I have a feeling another person may temporarily stop this problem.

I'm surprised the men in the family are able to find women if that's their attitude towards them!

 

[Pei]

My goodness.I'm curious about what he is suffering from.