Ex-friend returns :(

[Eoraptor]

Hi girls. Tonight I was chatting on AIM when my ex-friend Alicia suddenly contacts me on it. I thought I had blocked her, but apparently not?

For a brief history... I met Alicia online a couple years ago. She lived only a half hour away from me, but never wanted to see me, though she would chat with me for a long time every night. At first she was nice, but over time she became weird. She insisted that I date guys, and forced our chats to be embarrassingly personal. She would get upset if we didn't talk about her in chats, but she could never start any conversational topics about herself. So she expected me to. As if I know what's happening in her life. She would say "You better have ten questions to ask me about myself when we chat tomorrow". It was so frustrating to chat with her! She eventually got so upset at me for it that she stopped chatting with me. Her boyfriend hated me and would always insult me for my girliness. She would never stand up for me. Anyway, I blocked her after she was really mean to me months ago, before I found Specktra.

Then today a message from her pops up-
"i saw your makeup pics on your photobucket, you look like a whore"
I was so shocked! She knew how much I worried about looking slutty. And I finally actually felt good about looking sexy in my latest FOTD. But now I feel all self-conscious about it again!

But I didn't want her to know she hurt me. So I replied-
"I have many REAL friends now who support and appreciate me. I don't need your negativity."
Then she said "sure you do, it builds character. did the village people have an opening?"
And I was sick of her, so I just said "Goodbye Alicia. Don't contact me again." and blocked her.

I know her words shouldn't matter anymore, but they still hurt and worry me. Hope this didn't come off as too whiny. I really needed to vent.

 

[quandolak]

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[little teaser]

you do not look like a whore and whats wrong with looking like a whore makeup wise that is who dont like the porn stars/whore looks at times i know i do that girl really must be misarble if she has nothing better to do than to f*** with you i hope you block her for good and you look beautiful i saw your fotd

 

[Iridescence]

Your FOTDs have improved and its always nice to see you posting. Its courageous and you should be proud. Don't let some jealous girl bring you down. Look at it this way...how many people on specktra thought your fotd was great?!!!! Alot!!! and I bet you even more than you think. I for myself sometimes don't get the opportunity to post in reply to FOTDs I find fantastic...so now that I do have the opportunity, now you know that there are even more people in the same situation I am. They probably think the same

. Don't be worried or self conscience, you have friends here supporting you and as long as you let us, we will stand behind you.

keep your head up and keep on smilin'.

 

[Ms. Z]

I am very proud about the way you handled that; it shows maturity and class.

I understand that words can hurt; people are always going to say mean things because that way they can feel better about themselves; you have to try to dismiss and ignore those morons. I know that it’s hard to not respond to incoming messages, but please try hard not to respond to the stupidity.

You don’t look slutty and it’s really no ones business what you choose to wear.

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[Hawkeye]

I'm so proud of you.
You don't need that shit in your life!

Euro-we dont talk that much but you do know me well enough to know that I will tell you point blank if I think you look bad and I will tell you that I think you look beautiful

Everyone is gorgeous in their own way and you know she's just jeolous that she can never be as beautiful as you are. You are so beautiful on the inside and outside- and she seriously sounds like an empty casket.

*HUGS*

Keep up the good work. I am SO PROUD of you for standing up for yourself and if she does contact you again somehow-all ya gotta do is ignore her.

Don't let her hurt you *HUGS*

 

[xmrsvindieselx]

DONT let some jealous self-absorbed bitch get to you! You getting very upset about it is just making her happy..you did the right thing by not fighting and acting mature and if shes going to be a little bitch on aim then let her have fun with that and do it to someone else. Shes one of those people who need to make fun of other people so she feels better about herself...its allllllll jealously!! and its not your fault you are a prettier girly girl than her!!!!!!!!

 

[MxAxC-_ATTACK]

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Originally Posted by Eoraptor Then today a message from her pops up- "i saw your makeup pics on your photobucket, you look like a whore" I was so shocked! She knew how much I worried about looking slutty. And I finally actually felt good about looking sexy in my latest FOTD. But now I feel all self-conscious about it again! But I didn't want her to know she hurt me. So I replied- "I have many REAL friends now who support and appreciate me. I don't need your negativity." Then she said "sure you do, it builds character. did the village people have an opening?" And I was sick of her, so I just said "Goodbye Alicia. Don't contact me again." and blocked her. I know her words shouldn't matter anymore, but they still hurt and worry me. Hope this didn't come off as too whiny. I really needed to vent.

what the F**k!!! she messaged you JUST to be mean. what a stupid whore. Im soo glad you handled it so well.. You didnt stoop to her 10 year old level , and THAT is amazing.. and the best part is the fact that you didnt get upset.. Is probably the best slap in the face she could get!! She wanted to stir you up, but did you get huffy about it? No. so HA.. in her face.
I've noticed when people insult you, and you dont get upset... It pisses them off even more.

just block her. and if she IMs you again.. X it out. you dont need that crap.. you are better than her. (and that was proven) .. ENd of story!


(that and shes probably jealous that you look better in pink pants than she does..hehe)

 

[Beauty Mark]

She doesn't mean it; people who dislike you will say anything in an attempt to hurt you (I had 'friend' who told me that I looked slutty when I was wearing a baggy sweater and jeans.) You always look fine to me.

 

[Bre]

Who the f*** does she think she is???

I feel very insulted on your behalf, what a mean, mean person she is

Sounds like she is a very insecure person and attempting to force her insecurities on to someone else so she can feel better about herself

Don't listen to her I personally think your make-up looked hot! A lot of people did based on their responses

Just gotta get a radar for those cyber freaks I guess

 

[..kels*]

grr what a bitch!

i agree with everyone else 100%. first of all, you do NOT look like a whore in any of your FOTD's. your makeup is sexy, but still tasteful. you've improved so much since you started posting here & if anything, alicia's horribly jealous because she will never be anywhere near as talented as you. props to you for handling the situation so well. don't let her get you down! there are TONS of people that support you here.

:loveya:

 

[n_c]

I think you look great...*hugs*

 

[Deirdre]

I've been enjoying your FOTDs, and you look great! I think she's a person who lashes out, in an attempt to validate herself, in some way. I know people who do that are angry and filled with self loathing. You, on the other hand display a lot of confidence (in my opinion, from what I've seen on this forum), and are proud of yourself. People respond to that in you. I'm glad you stayed classy, it just confirms my opinions! *heart*

 

[mzreyes]

thats hella messed up for her to say.. but the way i see it is: if ppl are talkin shit for no reason, then you know you're doing something right

keep ya head up!

 

[giz2000]

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Originally Posted by Eoraptor So I replied- "I have many REAL friends now who support and appreciate me. I don't need your negativity." Then she said "sure you do, it builds character. did the village people have an opening?" And I was sick of her, so I just said "Goodbye Alicia. Don't contact me again." and blocked her.

...you did the right thing...you didn't stoop down to her level (which, IMHO, is that she needs to belittle others to feel good about herself...she's an ass) and just blocked her. You don't need toxic people around you...and you DO NOT look like a whore in your pictures.....even if you did, that's YOUR business, not hers. Good for you for standing up to her, love...you look fabulous in your FOTD's...hugs!!

 

[Shawna]

I can honestly say that we here at Specktra would be the first ones to tell you if you looked bad in your pictures. You have improved so much in such a little time and you do not need negative people like that to bring you down. Just remember that when people are nasty like that, it is usually to try to cover up their insecurities. She sounds like a jealous person to begin with and you just don't need her in your life. You have a great family here that appreciates you for the wonderful person you are

 

[Eoraptor]

Thanks so much everyone! Alicia's definitely blocked now. When I told her I had many REAL friends now, I was talking about all of you! You're the best friends I could ask for! You're always so supportive and make me feel loved and wanted even though I'm self-conscious so often. After reading what you said, I feel proud of myself for how I behaved.

I'm also happily surprised that I come off as confidant and courageous. One of my goals is to be more confidant about my girliness, so if that's happening I'm very pleased. I wish I could thank and hug you all personally!!

*BIG HUGS*

 

[Shawna]

Completely OT, but I just had to say how much I love your M/U in your avatar. That is hot!

 

[giz2000]

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Originally Posted by Eoraptor Thanks so much everyone! Alicia's definitely blocked now. When I told her I had many REAL friends now, I was talking about all of you! You're the best friends I could ask for! You're always so supportive and make me feel loved and wanted even though I'm self-conscious so often. After reading what you said, I feel proud of myself for how I behaved. I'm also happily surprised that I come off as confidant and courageous. One of my goals is to be more confidant about my girliness, so if that's happening I'm very pleased. I wish I could thank and hug you all personally!! *BIG HUGS*

You just keep rocking your look and to hell with what the haters say... You are such a genuine person...

 

[TangoMango]

Hi Eoraptor!

I've read your previous post and I just want to say that you are an extremely nice person. You don't deserve ANY of the drama people cause you. You deserve so much better in life.

I really hope all the negativity leaves your life. You are one of the nicest person on this board and you have such a nice spirit. I really commend you for doing what you're doing. As long as you are comfortable with yourself, don't worry about what others think.