Grrr! I am not a hun or a dear or a sweetie!

[user3]

I hate when I call someone on the phone and they don't know me and they call me hun or dear or sweetie!
Chatting online it's fine and I myself call people hun online.

Everytime I call my son's school this one lady that subs in the office from time to time always calls me hun. She even calls me hun after I have told her my name.
Usually it is ladies older than me. It makes me feel like I am being talked down to.

I have been told several times that I sound very young over the phone but either way I'd like to be called by my name.

I have caught myself calling a few young ladies hun or sweetie and I had to stop myself! I don't even know why I did it. It just slipped right out of my mouth.

Like I said, online you can call me hun, dear, sweetie, sexy

whatever you like. It doesn't even bother me. For some reason the over the phone or in person really bothers me.

So I am wondering....Does anyone else not like to be called hun, dear or sweetie? (in person or even online)
Does anyone here actually call other people hun, dear or sweetie?

 

[Juneplum]

what i HATE with the intenstity of 1000 hot suns is when a teenager (read: movie theater cashier, grocery store cashier, insert whatever job young'uns have) call me sweetie! SWEETIE?? i'm like DOOOD! i am so not your sweetie! i mean like u said, it's one thing to do it online, but when u r talking to someone older than you it bugs the crap out of me!

 

[jeanna]

not from strangers - it just feels weird. there are the exceptions where you come across people that are just so genuinely sweet, that even though they're strangers, you don't mind them calling you hun or sweetie, but for the most part, it feels weird from strangers. there's this perv who works at this place where i pick up lunch from time to time and he calls me honey/dear/sweetheart every single time. it's gross and i shudder every time (but he really is a perv though! ick.)

 

[maianne]

Hey sexy (heehee, j/k)...
I get that a lot, too... I'm small, so people tend to call me cutesy names and talk to me in that annoying sing-songy voice. It bugs the hell out of me, but I generally let it go since people drop that s*it once they get to know me a little better and find out that it's just not me. I've even had to make a concerted effort to make my voice sound "bigger" that it really is so that I don't get that "Yes, dearie, what can I do for you?" on the phone. Usually, a saccharin-sweet "Please, call me Melissa," clears that right up.

One of my coworkers (who's 23-24 y.o., tops) at the hospital where I work as a nurse had this habit of calling her patients 'Honey' or 'Sweetie' until one day this 85-year-old lady finally said, "OK, so good night, slut." When my coworker obviously reacted, shocked, the lady replied, "Oh, you don't like being called that? Listen, kid, I'm old enough to be your grandmother. Don't call me Sweetie because I'm clearly not. It's degrading." And that was the end of that. Eh, to each his own.

 

[lah_knee]

my manager at my last job used to call all us girls sweetie, baby, hun, etc etc
that kind of stuff really doesnt bother me though. his actions and mannerisms didnt make him out to be some dirty perv picking up on girls so it wasnt a big deal. but i know a lot of people dont like it from guys because its like sexual harassment and they dont like it from older females because its like they are talking down to you.

i try not to look into it so much. like i said i cant let stuff like that bother me or make me feel degraded.

 

[maianne]

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Originally Posted by lah_knee i try not to look into it so much. like i said i cant let stuff like that bother me or make me feel degraded.

True enough... usually it's harmless and the person doesn't mean anything by it. I guess it's just more of an annoyance when it happens repeatedly.

 

[Viva_la_MAC_Girl]

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Originally Posted by lah_knee i try not to look into it so much. like i said i cant let stuff like that bother me or make me feel degraded.

ITA

There are more things in life to worry about..

I confess I say "darlin and hun" not repeatedly but I guess out of habit?

 

[user4]

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Originally Posted by Juneplum what i HATE with the intenstity of 1000 hot suns is when a teenager (read: movie theater cashier, grocery store cashier, insert whatever job young'uns have) call me sweetie! SWEETIE?? i'm like DOOOD! i am so not your sweetie! i mean like u said, it's one thing to do it online, but when u r talking to someone older than you it bugs the crap out of me!

lmao lmao lmao lmao!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA

 

[user3]

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Originally Posted by Juneplum what i HATE with the intenstity of 1000 hot suns is when a teenager (read: movie theater cashier, grocery store cashier, insert whatever job young'uns have) call me sweetie! SWEETIE?? i'm like DOOOD! i am so not your sweetie! i mean like u said, it's one thing to do it online, but when u r talking to someone older than you it bugs the crap out of me!

LMAO! You should have called her Sugarcakes!

 

[user3]

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Originally Posted by maianne Hey sexy (heehee, j/k)... I get that a lot, too... I'm small, so people tend to call me cutesy names and talk to me in that annoying sing-songy voice. It bugs the hell out of me, but I generally let it go since people drop that s*it once they get to know me a little better and find out that it's just not me. I've even had to make a concerted effort to make my voice sound "bigger" that it really is so that I don't get that "Yes, dearie, what can I do for you?" on the phone. Usually, a saccharin-sweet "Please, call me Melissa," clears that right up. One of my coworkers (who's 23-24 y.o., tops) at the hospital where I work as a nurse had this habit of calling her patients 'Honey' or 'Sweetie' until one day this 85-year-old lady finally said, "OK, so good night, slut." When my coworker obviously reacted, shocked, the lady replied, "Oh, you don't like being called that? Listen, kid, I'm old enough to be your grandmother. Don't call me Sweetie because I'm clearly not. It's degrading." And that was the end of that. Eh, to each his own.

Hey baby!

LOL

Oh my goss that story cracked me up! Yes, she was clearly NOT a sweetie!

 

[AlliSwan]

I used to hate it, but growing up in the south you just get used to it! Now I'm one of those people!

 

[Professor Fate]

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Originally Posted by Zap2it I hate when I call someone on the phone and they don't know me and they call me hun or dear or sweetie! Chatting online it's fine and I myself call people hun online. Everytime I call my son's school this one lady that subs in the office from time to time always calls me hun. She even calls me hun after I have told her my name. Usually it is ladies older than me. It makes me feel like I am being talked down to. I have been told several times that I sound very young over the phone but either way I'd like to be called by my name. I have caught myself calling a few young ladies hun or sweetie and I had to stop myself! I don't even know why I did it. It just slipped right out of my mouth. Like I said, online you can call me hun, dear, sweetie, sexy whatever you like. It doesn't even bother me. For some reason the over the phone or in person really bothers me. So I am wondering....Does anyone else not like to be called hun, dear or sweetie? (in person or even online) Does anyone here actually call other people hun, dear or sweetie?

ok,toots!

 

[user3]

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Originally Posted by Professor Fate ok,toots!.

Ian!!!!

 

[jenjunsan]

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Originally Posted by AlliSwan I used to hate it, but growing up in the south you just get used to it! Now I'm one of those people!

I agree, I am from the south too and if you let someone calling you one of those names bother you, you would stay mad your entire life. Around here it is really meant as a friendly comment rather than anyone talking down to someone else. I have the habit of calling everyone "Boo" - it's just a southern thing. I've probably called every one of the children I teach Boo at one time or the other, but another teacher walks into the classroom and I say "Hi! What cha need Boo?".

 

[Hawkeye]

seriously, it never bothers me, only because i work in a situation where i work with guys and they call me sweetie, honey, babe, babygirl, anything. But it doesn't bother me. I call one of my lumber guys my B*tch and I'm his Ho. Yeah we need a life

But I dont look into anything like that too much. It's just something people do and I am guilty of doing that myself.

 

[Juneplum]

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Originally Posted by Professor Fate ok,toots!.

 

[mspixieears]

Yes I hate it too on phone by people I don't know. Used to get the spectrum of terms when working as a market research interviewer. Some even offered me crazy things, on the basis of my voice?! what the hay...

 

[user3]

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Originally Posted by Juneplum

Yes just encourage him June!

 

[user3]

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Originally Posted by mspixieears Some even offered me crazy things, on the basis of my voice?! what the hay...

 

[Juneplum]

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Originally Posted by Zap2it Yes just encourage him June!

lol! his post made me laugh SO hard last night i cried! trust me i am so not trying to encourage ian

he doen't need encouraging