I'm really stressed out....
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SkylarV217
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Honey I know EXACTLY how you feel .... It seems like I have an Insatiable appetite. I have gained over 35 #'s in the last year and a 1/2. I've gone from a size 2 to a size 8 .... I know that is still small to most people. But to me it is not . I can't wear any of my clothes and have resorted to buying clothes that drape or hang off of me ... so not to show my bulging belly. It's devestating to feel to terrible about your body... I know how out of shape I am b/c I try to exercise but I get soo winded . It seems like no mater how hard I try I CAN'T lose the weight ... I lost 10 pounds but couldn't tell a bit ... so I gained it back .... I'm so ill with myself and unhappy .... DH is supportive and wants me to lose weight to be happier with myself ... I can't bare to look at myself in pictures or the mirror b/c it's so obvious. I refuse to allow people to take pictures of me at this point and I hate that too .... I'm hoping to get my eating under control and hoping that will help with a good deal of my extra weight....
Maybe we should become accountability partners .... I'd Love to lose weight with you Rbella =).
Maybe we should become accountability partners .... I'd Love to lose weight with you Rbella =).
kobri
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I hear ya. I worked really hard to lose 20 lbs last winter only to have it come back too easily (and I think it brought a couple of friends). I think that not believing you can do it will cause you not to do it, self fulfilling prophecy and whatnot. I'm sending you my positive energy, and resolving to get back on that treadmill tomorrow myself. I can't encourage other people to do it if I don't drag my own ass out of bed!
blindpassion
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awee rbella. I definitely relate to how you're feeling. I have never been a skinny girl, I'm not large, but I'm definitely curvy. For years I was very uncomfortable with the way I looked and constantly insecure. It took me a very long time to realize how hard I was on myself, and that the people who met me saw a beautiful girl, even though I was having a hard time accepting myself for who I was. I don't have an answer to your problem, but I do have a few suggestions.
Start telling yourself everyday "I'm beautiful". It might seem stupid and you might have a hard time believing it, but you are a beautiful person! You have a stellar personality, a good career, from what I've heard you have a good family as well. You are blessed and you are definitely beautiful! In this society we end up being so hard on ourselves, but you have to know, when people interact with you they see a beautiful personality and a beautiful woman
I know that considering I haven't met you, it would be easy to discount what I say, but we post a lot here and I feel like I know you enough to say that and mean it!
I definitely have the same issue as you do as far as wanting to eat all the time, but I've definitely learned to cope with it... I pay close attention to when I'm full and then stop eating. If I need to eat between meals I always try to eat something that is protein. Protein is your friend!!
If your like me and you just like to eat a lot, then do that, but substitute any bad food for healthy food. If you want to eat between meals, eat an apple instead of a chocolate bar, eat crackers and cheese with carrots instead of chips.
Sure, it wont fix everything, but its a start, and sometimes starts are the best we can do.
Stay strong, believe in yourself, and know you're beautiful!
Start telling yourself everyday "I'm beautiful". It might seem stupid and you might have a hard time believing it, but you are a beautiful person! You have a stellar personality, a good career, from what I've heard you have a good family as well. You are blessed and you are definitely beautiful! In this society we end up being so hard on ourselves, but you have to know, when people interact with you they see a beautiful personality and a beautiful woman
I definitely have the same issue as you do as far as wanting to eat all the time, but I've definitely learned to cope with it... I pay close attention to when I'm full and then stop eating. If I need to eat between meals I always try to eat something that is protein. Protein is your friend!!
If your like me and you just like to eat a lot, then do that, but substitute any bad food for healthy food. If you want to eat between meals, eat an apple instead of a chocolate bar, eat crackers and cheese with carrots instead of chips.
Sure, it wont fix everything, but its a start, and sometimes starts are the best we can do.
Stay strong, believe in yourself, and know you're beautiful!
Corvs Queen
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Ditto on everything you said in your posts rbella. I am in the same boat as you and I HATE it. Not the company of course. The pounds and the fact that I eat myself silly and then feel guilty until I stuff more food down my trap. I eat and eat and EAT! I crave sweets in the morning and am a salt-a-holic the rest of the day. I eat almost anything and everything. Even things that I don't want. I have gained about 40 pounds in 4 years. I used to be a size 8 in American Eagle Jeans and now I wear a 16.
I had a baby in December so some of that is still hanging around. And I do mean hanging. I need a swift kick in the ass. I hate it. I feel that a lot of mine is coming from depression. I miss America like nobody's business. I also have no friends here and I suppose I am trying to fill a void with food. And like you said I eat every emotion. I need help and I know it but in all honest I am probably too lazy to seek it out. A big thanks for posting this.
fafinette21
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I'm so sorry you are going through this! It is definitely hard to make yourself eat healthy and exercise when it is so much easier to do nothing. But I feel if you are unhappy with yourself, you must find motivation somehow to reach your goals. Exercise doesn't always have to be a chore, you can try and find something you like doing that is good for you. Dance is always a great way to get in shape and it's fun, I'm sure there are places around you that have adult classes. Pole dancing is a new craze that you could try out as well. In the meantime you could try and shop for one new outfit that makes you feel great when you look in the mirror.
Try and not be so hard on yourself, I'm sure everyone here thinks you look great
Try and not be so hard on yourself, I'm sure everyone here thinks you look great
GlossyAbby
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I am in the same boat as you....the last yr I have gained a lot I am even bigger than after I had my second baby! Do we need to start a support group?
Krasevayadancer
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Emotional eating is unfortunately very common and it is sad when it takes over your life as it has seemed to do here.
First of all Rbella, i want to say I <3 you! You are so funny, and I always find your posts so entertaining!
As someone who is no stranger to eating disorders, it sounds like you are crossing into dangerous territory. I find that most food issues stem from feelings of unease. A lot of the times we eat because eating brings us pleasure and simplifies what can be a tumultuous inner dialogue. It helps to get to the root of the problem and for that therapy helps.
Have you considered anti-depressants? I know they are no quick fix, but if your thoughts are truly obsessive, than they may help.
Also, what do you actually eat in a day? Do you binge, eat large portions, snack too much, eat unhealthfully etc. If you feel like you must eat, sometimes it helps to just stock the healthy stuff and replace bad foods with good ones. If you are all about quantity over quality, go with the good stuff.
I am here if you need someone to talk to, and I never judge.
Please pm me if you ever want to talk
First of all Rbella, i want to say I <3 you! You are so funny, and I always find your posts so entertaining!
As someone who is no stranger to eating disorders, it sounds like you are crossing into dangerous territory. I find that most food issues stem from feelings of unease. A lot of the times we eat because eating brings us pleasure and simplifies what can be a tumultuous inner dialogue. It helps to get to the root of the problem and for that therapy helps.
Have you considered anti-depressants? I know they are no quick fix, but if your thoughts are truly obsessive, than they may help.
Also, what do you actually eat in a day? Do you binge, eat large portions, snack too much, eat unhealthfully etc. If you feel like you must eat, sometimes it helps to just stock the healthy stuff and replace bad foods with good ones. If you are all about quantity over quality, go with the good stuff.
I am here if you need someone to talk to, and I never judge.
Please pm me if you ever want to talk
MACLovin
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Argh, I know all too well what you're going through, rbella.
My best friend did as well and she totally overcame it, lost about 70 lbs and now has a MUCH healthier attitude about her body and eating habits. I'm gonna find out the name of this book she read that really helped her transform her thinking when it comes to food and emotional eating, etc.
I find that taking some time out to pamper myself.. a long bath, shave, exfoliate, moisturize, face masks, hair treatments, etc. makes me feel SO much better and a bit more motivated to get healthier and eat right. I know it kind of sounds cliché but it really does make me want to look as good as I feel. And blindpassion is right, if you eat all the time except its healthy food, then you won't be gaining weight, you'll be doing yourself a favor. In fact, it's better to eat a bunch of smaller meals throughout the day just not fatty, sweet, or greasy ones.
I try to always ask myself before eating something.. "Is this worth the calories?" "Is this benefitting my body in ANY way, or am I just shoving food in my mouth because I feel like it?" ..I think something else that helps me is that I eat reeeally slow, always have. I'm always the last one picking at my plate at dinner, but it helps you digest better and your body can recognize when you are full easier.
Don't worry, darling, we're all here to support each other
It will get better, I know it's hard though, but you'll get past this funk I promise! *MUCHO LOVE*
I find that taking some time out to pamper myself.. a long bath, shave, exfoliate, moisturize, face masks, hair treatments, etc. makes me feel SO much better and a bit more motivated to get healthier and eat right. I know it kind of sounds cliché but it really does make me want to look as good as I feel. And blindpassion is right, if you eat all the time except its healthy food, then you won't be gaining weight, you'll be doing yourself a favor. In fact, it's better to eat a bunch of smaller meals throughout the day just not fatty, sweet, or greasy ones.
I try to always ask myself before eating something.. "Is this worth the calories?" "Is this benefitting my body in ANY way, or am I just shoving food in my mouth because I feel like it?" ..I think something else that helps me is that I eat reeeally slow, always have. I'm always the last one picking at my plate at dinner, but it helps you digest better and your body can recognize when you are full easier.
Don't worry, darling, we're all here to support each other
kristina ftw!
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I agree with the people who said to eat healthy foods instead!
Eating many small (HEALTHY) meals a day will actually speed up your metabolism, as opposed to eating a couple of large ones
I eat a lot as well, even though you can't tell by looking at me. I've always been this way, I love food, but what I do is I eat little at the time, but often.
I would say I probably eat around ten times a day on average, but 6 of these are fruit "meals", and the rest are as healthy as possible.
Do you like fruit? My favorite fruit ever is pineapple, but mango is REALLY good too! Then there's berries. Mmmm, berries. Give me some strawberries, and I am in munchie heaven!
I also love strawberry/raspberry/blueberry smoothies. Blueberries are ridiculously good for you by the way.
Another thing that I love is avocado. Now, these are "fatty", but it's the good kind (I don't know the English word for it). I don't know if you need to limit your intake of avocados, I need to find out. But I love to put them in salads, or just eat them with a spoon. Haha.
Sorry for rambling, but I hope I gave you some small ideas about healthy and delicious foods to eat when you're craving food
Eating many small (HEALTHY) meals a day will actually speed up your metabolism, as opposed to eating a couple of large ones
I eat a lot as well, even though you can't tell by looking at me. I've always been this way, I love food, but what I do is I eat little at the time, but often.
I would say I probably eat around ten times a day on average, but 6 of these are fruit "meals", and the rest are as healthy as possible.
Do you like fruit? My favorite fruit ever is pineapple, but mango is REALLY good too! Then there's berries. Mmmm, berries. Give me some strawberries, and I am in munchie heaven!
I also love strawberry/raspberry/blueberry smoothies. Blueberries are ridiculously good for you by the way.
Another thing that I love is avocado. Now, these are "fatty", but it's the good kind (I don't know the English word for it). I don't know if you need to limit your intake of avocados, I need to find out. But I love to put them in salads, or just eat them with a spoon. Haha.
Sorry for rambling, but I hope I gave you some small ideas about healthy and delicious foods to eat when you're craving food
concertina
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I understand where you are and I've been there. And the things that have helped me like nothing else:
A caring, understanding therapist
A good antidepressant
A nutritionist that practices intuitive eating counseling and wants me to understand and take control of *why* I eat.
If it is at all possible for you to afford any of the two above things, I would highly recommend it. I'm still heavy, but I'm getting to a place now where food is *NOT* the enemy and does *NOT* have inherent 'good' or 'bad' qualities. I don't binge and I stop when I'm full and some 'cheat' foods don't even look *good* to me anymore. Its possible to break this addiction; I promise.
I wish peace for you.
A caring, understanding therapist
A good antidepressant
A nutritionist that practices intuitive eating counseling and wants me to understand and take control of *why* I eat.
If it is at all possible for you to afford any of the two above things, I would highly recommend it. I'm still heavy, but I'm getting to a place now where food is *NOT* the enemy and does *NOT* have inherent 'good' or 'bad' qualities. I don't binge and I stop when I'm full and some 'cheat' foods don't even look *good* to me anymore. Its possible to break this addiction; I promise.
I wish peace for you.
rbella
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Thanks so much for all the suggestions and kind comments, ladies. For some reason, I can't multi-quote all of you so I will have to answer with about 4 or 5 posts, sorry. I'm going to get a cup of coffee and then start with my long list of thank yous and responses! I love all of you, you are so sweet!
kristina ftw!
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Just wanted to let you know that I completely believe and understand you on this! I don't have this problem myself, but both my parents are addicted to Pepsi Max. They, like you, are also at the point where they will get migraines if they do not drink it. It's a very real problem.
I'm guessing it has something to do with the caffeine, but I don't know, I'm by no means an expert.
Good luck with everything! Sorry I can't be of more help.
-BIG HUG-
Originally Posted by rbella
Also, I am heavily addicted to Dr. Pepper. I am not trying to make a joke with that. It is like crack. I've tried to stop so many times and I can't. They even started having to stock it at my office b/c I'd have to leave to go get it. I get massive migraines when I stop drinking it and I swear, I'm not lying, my body goes into a withdrawal similar to what I would consider to be a heroin withdrawal. Just for the record, I've never used heroin. However, I used to be a chain smoker for years and quit about 10 years ago. That was easier than dieting and trying to quit the DP's. Sorry for the ramble. |
Just wanted to let you know that I completely believe and understand you on this! I don't have this problem myself, but both my parents are addicted to Pepsi Max. They, like you, are also at the point where they will get migraines if they do not drink it. It's a very real problem.
I'm guessing it has something to do with the caffeine, but I don't know, I'm by no means an expert.
Good luck with everything! Sorry I can't be of more help.
-BIG HUG-
