I'm really stressed out....
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elegant-one
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Oh rbella - I heart you! <3
You are such a beautiful woman inside & out!!!!
Losing weight is def. not an easy task. Just take it one step at a time, cause if you don't it seems so overwhelming. I really believe that you will find the strength. You have all the love & support of all of us here...without any judgement!
Since you make me laugh so much, which you'll never know how much that means to me - can I say 1 thing to make you laugh & cheer ya up?
'Pole dancing is a new craze that you could try out as well.' - I would pay to see that
Actually, I tease dh hubby all the time about wanting a pole - of course I'm just kidding...but it makes me laugh at the thought of it
LOVE YOU!!!!
Losing weight is def. not an easy task. Just take it one step at a time, cause if you don't it seems so overwhelming. I really believe that you will find the strength. You have all the love & support of all of us here...without any judgement!
Since you make me laugh so much, which you'll never know how much that means to me - can I say 1 thing to make you laugh & cheer ya up?
'Pole dancing is a new craze that you could try out as well.' - I would pay to see that
Actually, I tease dh hubby all the time about wanting a pole - of course I'm just kidding...but it makes me laugh at the thought of it
LOVE YOU!!!!
Krasevayadancer
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Oh honey, I would never think of you as a freak. If I were to get into my internal ramblings you would probably think we are more alike than you know.
I know how that is too, and how night is the toughest. I try to distract myself and my mouth if i feel like eating just for the sake of it. You know what I love that helps? Sugar Free Ice Pops. They are 5 cals for 2 and if i ate the whole box i would only be out 50 cals. They are sweet and i love chewing on the ice.
I know how that is too, and how night is the toughest. I try to distract myself and my mouth if i feel like eating just for the sake of it. You know what I love that helps? Sugar Free Ice Pops. They are 5 cals for 2 and if i ate the whole box i would only be out 50 cals. They are sweet and i love chewing on the ice.
rbella
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That's a good call. I'm going to the store today, so perhaps I'll get some. Thanks for not thinking I'm a freak. You make Rbella feel special.
Originally Posted by Krasevayadancer
Oh honey, I would never think of you as a freak. If I were to get into my internal ramblings you would probably think we are more alike than you know. I know how that is too, and how night is the toughest. I try to distract myself and my mouth if i feel like eating just for the sake of it. You know what I love that helps? Sugar Free Ice Pops. They are 5 cals for 2 and if i ate the whole box i would only be out 50 cals. They are sweet and i love chewing on the ice. |
That's a good call. I'm going to the store today, so perhaps I'll get some. Thanks for not thinking I'm a freak. You make Rbella feel special.
Krasevayadancer
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As you should lovely lady
These are the pops btw:
Flavor Ice, Lite-Sugar Free, 24 count box of 1.25 oz pops - My Brands
| Originally Posted by rbella
That's a good call. I'm going to the store today, so perhaps I'll get some. Thanks for not thinking I'm a freak. You make Rbella feel special.
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As you should lovely lady
These are the pops btw:
Flavor Ice, Lite-Sugar Free, 24 count box of 1.25 oz pops - My Brands
sharkbytes
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Aw, I'm so sorry to hear that!
Losing weight is such a personal thing...I've been working on it for ages, and I always hate it when people give me tips and tricks because what works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another. And I sometimes find it vaguely insulting whenever someone implies that if I'd just stick to their meal plan, I'd be happier/healthier.
I wish you lots of luck in finding what works for you personally. If I could give ONE recommendation, it's that starting off small really is the best way to go about any sort of healthier lifestyle. The body tends to freak out when it's deprived of everything all at once. Maybe just giving up one thing at a time (and replacing it with something healthier but still tasty) will help. All the best really, and I'm sorry you're feeling so bummed
Losing weight is such a personal thing...I've been working on it for ages, and I always hate it when people give me tips and tricks because what works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another. And I sometimes find it vaguely insulting whenever someone implies that if I'd just stick to their meal plan, I'd be happier/healthier.
I wish you lots of luck in finding what works for you personally. If I could give ONE recommendation, it's that starting off small really is the best way to go about any sort of healthier lifestyle. The body tends to freak out when it's deprived of everything all at once. Maybe just giving up one thing at a time (and replacing it with something healthier but still tasty) will help. All the best really, and I'm sorry you're feeling so bummed
MACLovin
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HAHAHA! This just made me laugh out loud in my quiet office here, my coworkers may just think i'm a lunatic but thats ok, haha.. You are so right though.. I don't know what it is, but I'll have fallen asleep on the recliner or something, wake up at 2am to shuffle my ass to bed, yet make a COMPLETELY unnecessary stop at the fridge to see if there's anything good lying around. WHY? I'm going to sleep! I don't need food/energy while I'm sleeping. It's totally stupid but those chocolate chip cookies just look so tempting in my partial-zombified state. I need a large pimp hand to come out of my fridge after 10pm and slap me when I open it or something.
| Originally Posted by rbella I'm a sweets craver as well and I used to HATE sweets. But my issue is at night, right before I go to sleep. That way it can lie in my body and fester into a ton of lard. |
HAHAHA! This just made me laugh out loud in my quiet office here, my coworkers may just think i'm a lunatic but thats ok, haha.. You are so right though.. I don't know what it is, but I'll have fallen asleep on the recliner or something, wake up at 2am to shuffle my ass to bed, yet make a COMPLETELY unnecessary stop at the fridge to see if there's anything good lying around. WHY? I'm going to sleep! I don't need food/energy while I'm sleeping. It's totally stupid but those chocolate chip cookies just look so tempting in my partial-zombified state. I need a large pimp hand to come out of my fridge after 10pm and slap me when I open it or something.
x.DOLLYMiX.x
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Iam sorry to here you are feeling like this
, I to cant get food out of my head! I have stayed the same clothes size for 3 year but I have gained about 2 stone. I think about my weight constantly I even think about making myself sick but I know thats not the answer. Ive realised that to lose weight I have to set myself targets, I cant just throw myself into it straight away. Good luck and Iam sorry to here you are feeling like this.
rbella
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Thanks for your support, it really does help. I think this is a great idea. For instance, today my goal is to try to go the entire day without a DP. If I can do that, I will try again tomorrow. You are right, I've tried so many times to stop everything at once and then I feel deprived and go on a 2 month binge, it's ridiculous. Good advice, thanks.
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I love it!! You just cracked me up now!! I would love it if someone would pimp slap me every time I was about to eat. Now that would be a great way to lose weight!!!!
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Thanks, Dolly. I'm sorry you're feeling the same way. Please don't make yourself sick, it's just not the answer. All that will do is open up a whole new group of issues that you will have to conquer. It's not worth it. It will be more difficult to stop purging than it will be to lose the weight. Good luck to you and {{{Hugs}}}. Please feel free to pm me anytime. I'll be thinking about you.
| Originally Posted by sharkbytes
I wish you lots of luck in finding what works for you personally. If I could give ONE recommendation, it's that starting off small really is the best way to go about any sort of healthier lifestyle. The body tends to freak out when it's deprived of everything all at once. Maybe just giving up one thing at a time (and replacing it with something healthier but still tasty) will help. All the best really, and I'm sorry you're feeling so bummed
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Thanks for your support, it really does help. I think this is a great idea. For instance, today my goal is to try to go the entire day without a DP. If I can do that, I will try again tomorrow. You are right, I've tried so many times to stop everything at once and then I feel deprived and go on a 2 month binge, it's ridiculous. Good advice, thanks.
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| Originally Posted by MACLovin
HAHAHA! This just made me laugh out loud in my quiet office here, my coworkers may just think i'm a lunatic but thats ok, haha.. You are so right though.. I don't know what it is, but I'll have fallen asleep on the recliner or something, wake up at 2am to shuffle my ass to bed, yet make a COMPLETELY unnecessary stop at the fridge to see if there's anything good lying around. WHY? I'm going to sleep! I don't need food/energy while I'm sleeping. It's totally stupid but those chocolate chip cookies just look so tempting in my partial-zombified state. I need a large pimp hand to come out of my fridge after 10pm and slap me when I open it or something.
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| Originally Posted by x.DOLLYMiX.x
Iam sorry to here you are feeling like this
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Thanks, Dolly. I'm sorry you're feeling the same way. Please don't make yourself sick, it's just not the answer. All that will do is open up a whole new group of issues that you will have to conquer. It's not worth it. It will be more difficult to stop purging than it will be to lose the weight. Good luck to you and {{{Hugs}}}. Please feel free to pm me anytime. I'll be thinking about you.
Luceuk
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I'm exactly the same
I always think about food. It's even worse when I try to cut down on the rubbish, its all I want. I did loose some weight a few months ago but Ive pt it back on now. I am healthy weight, I just don't feel comfortable with my body at all I've put so much weight on the past few years.
TDoll
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I was going to suggest the same thing. I love food too. I eat all the freaking time. My mom tries to convince me it will catch up to me when I hit 30, but I'm not listening..lol.
Honestly, you can definitely have a healthy appetite and eat foods that are healthy. You don't need to feel guilty about having a healthy appetite, but you just can't eat large amounts of junk when you feel an emotion that triggers your hunger. It's hard, but when you go grocery shopping, don't buy junk. Get some graham crackers and oatmeal cookies for when you crave sweet stuff. They are not bad for you and are strangely satisfying. Also, get some sweet fruits to munch on like red grapes and strawberries. Switch to whole wheat bread and for breakfast, try to eat toast and eggs (you can do just egg-whites too, I like them better). No sweet rolls or goodies such as that. You can eat fruit with it too. And try to cut out soda. Thats a foreign concept for me, so I've recently started drinking Diet Coke with Splenda. It's really good, and better than the bad junk in regular Diet drinks. Just try to drink no more than one or two a day and drink them only at home. If you eat at a restaurant or fast food, get water. I like to drink water with a lot of lime. I'm a water-hater, so this makes it tolerable. You can also make a pitcher of it to keep in your fridge.
Don't label yourself as having a problem or needing help just yet. Get on a healthy eating kick. You don't have to stop eating, just cut out the junk. When you get used to eating healthier, you'll stop craving the bad stuff if you're consistent.
| Originally Posted by kristina ftw!
I agree with the people who said to eat healthy foods instead! Eating many small (HEALTHY) meals a day will actually speed up your metabolism, as opposed to eating a couple of large ones
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I was going to suggest the same thing. I love food too. I eat all the freaking time. My mom tries to convince me it will catch up to me when I hit 30, but I'm not listening..lol.
Honestly, you can definitely have a healthy appetite and eat foods that are healthy. You don't need to feel guilty about having a healthy appetite, but you just can't eat large amounts of junk when you feel an emotion that triggers your hunger. It's hard, but when you go grocery shopping, don't buy junk. Get some graham crackers and oatmeal cookies for when you crave sweet stuff. They are not bad for you and are strangely satisfying. Also, get some sweet fruits to munch on like red grapes and strawberries. Switch to whole wheat bread and for breakfast, try to eat toast and eggs (you can do just egg-whites too, I like them better). No sweet rolls or goodies such as that. You can eat fruit with it too. And try to cut out soda. Thats a foreign concept for me, so I've recently started drinking Diet Coke with Splenda. It's really good, and better than the bad junk in regular Diet drinks. Just try to drink no more than one or two a day and drink them only at home. If you eat at a restaurant or fast food, get water. I like to drink water with a lot of lime. I'm a water-hater, so this makes it tolerable. You can also make a pitcher of it to keep in your fridge.
Don't label yourself as having a problem or needing help just yet. Get on a healthy eating kick. You don't have to stop eating, just cut out the junk. When you get used to eating healthier, you'll stop craving the bad stuff if you're consistent.
rbella
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I have the same problem. I always want what I can't have. If I cut something out, It is ALL I think about. It sucks. I'm sorry, I hope you feel more comfortable in your own skin. I know what that is like and it sucks.
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Trust me when I tell you, TDoll, you do not want to be around me if I start drinking diet cokes. They reek serious havok on my insides. It is just plain nasty and I'll leave it at that!!
I am still worried about all the fruit suggestions. I am really concerned because I'm afraid I'll just think "Oh, it's fruit, it's fine" and eat a shit ton of it. The sugar in it will still screw me. I don't know what to do. I guess I just have to be a friggin' adult and realize that I can't be a baby and whine b/c I can't have what I want all the time. I just have to do it.
God, I really do hate this.
| Originally Posted by Luceuk
I'm exactly the same
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I have the same problem. I always want what I can't have. If I cut something out, It is ALL I think about. It sucks. I'm sorry, I hope you feel more comfortable in your own skin. I know what that is like and it sucks.
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| Originally Posted by TDoll
I was going to suggest the same thing. I love food too. I eat all the freaking time. My mom tries to convince me it will catch up to me when I hit 30, but I'm not listening..lol. Honestly, you can definitely have a healthy appetite and eat foods that are healthy. You don't need to feel guilty about having a healthy appetite, but you just can't eat large amounts of junk when you feel an emotion that triggers your hunger. It's hard, but when you go grocery shopping, don't buy junk. Get some graham crackers and oatmeal cookies for when you crave sweet stuff. They are not bad for you and are strangely satisfying. Also, get some sweet fruits to munch on like red grapes and strawberries. Switch to whole wheat bread and for breakfast, try to eat toast and eggs (you can do just egg-whites too, I like them better). No sweet rolls or goodies such as that. You can eat fruit with it too. And try to cut out soda. Thats a foreign concept for me, so I've recently started drinking Diet Coke with Splenda. It's really good, and better than the bad junk in regular Diet drinks. Just try to drink no more than one or two a day and drink them only at home. If you eat at a restaurant or fast food, get water. I like to drink water with a lot of lime. I'm a water-hater, so this makes it tolerable. You can also make a pitcher of it to keep in your fridge. Don't label yourself as having a problem or needing help just yet. Get on a healthy eating kick. You don't have to stop eating, just cut out the junk. When you get used to eating healthier, you'll stop craving the bad stuff if you're consistent.
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Trust me when I tell you, TDoll, you do not want to be around me if I start drinking diet cokes. They reek serious havok on my insides. It is just plain nasty and I'll leave it at that!!
I am still worried about all the fruit suggestions. I am really concerned because I'm afraid I'll just think "Oh, it's fruit, it's fine" and eat a shit ton of it. The sugar in it will still screw me. I don't know what to do. I guess I just have to be a friggin' adult and realize that I can't be a baby and whine b/c I can't have what I want all the time. I just have to do it.
God, I really do hate this.
SkylarV217
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http://specktra.net/f235/weight-loss...6/#post1259777
I Added this thread for anyone that wants to join in accountability for eating/workouts/weight loss .
I Added this thread for anyone that wants to join in accountability for eating/workouts/weight loss .
MzzRach
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Wow, after reading this thread I feel like some of you are living inside my head. Seriously. Emotional eating SUCKS and I have been dealing with it for years, with varying levels of success.
We all have to keep on keeping on. It's hard, but we can do it.
rbella - thank you for posting in the first place. It's a very brave thing to talk about this and I think the more we talk about this, it can only help.
User93
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I get you so good here! I LOVE food! I eat when im sad, when im happy, when im bored.. Im sitting at work thinking i will skip the supper today, but as soon as i reach home, i run to the kitchen. If i dont eat i feel miserable and angry. Then, after i ate, i feel really sad and guilty about it.
2 years ago i've some weight beaing on a diet, so i gotta tell you - its really hard 1st week only. Its really hard to start, i couldnt now. But once you do, and start to see progress, you get on this train!
You should think how much you want it. When im able to eat less, i feel proud of myself the next day. Body image is not a thing which should make a wonderful person like you sad. If you're feeling you gotta lose some weight, do it hun! Im here for you always too (((hugs))))
Try just eating less. Dont skip food, just eat something light - a salad, a vegetable soup, some boiled meat. Dont be like me, secretly eating a pack of cookies in the kitchen like a kung-fu panda!
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i hearts Rbella!
2 years ago i've some weight beaing on a diet, so i gotta tell you - its really hard 1st week only. Its really hard to start, i couldnt now. But once you do, and start to see progress, you get on this train!
You should think how much you want it. When im able to eat less, i feel proud of myself the next day. Body image is not a thing which should make a wonderful person like you sad. If you're feeling you gotta lose some weight, do it hun! Im here for you always too (((hugs))))
Try just eating less. Dont skip food, just eat something light - a salad, a vegetable soup, some boiled meat. Dont be like me, secretly eating a pack of cookies in the kitchen like a kung-fu panda!
i hearts Rbella!
Growing Wings
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I totally understand you on this one, and I really do feel for you. I swear all I do is eat. I'm hungry all the time. And not for healthy stuff. Hell, even whilst reading this thread I was thinking about baking a chocolate cake (why? If I bake a whole chocolate cake, I'm gonna have to eat a whole chocolate cake, and I'm sure that's not gonna do me any favours).
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I had a friend who had a similar problem with an addiction to Iron Bru. He used to go through bottles of the stuff every day, and when he tried to come off it he got the shakes and everything
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I'm pretty sure my brother's diet consists of only pizza, chocolate, cake, and coke. And lots of each. Which is no good for me when I go rummaging in the cupboards for a snack. There's all my healthy stuff, and then all his unhealthy stuff. I'm sure you can guess which I usually go for. He's about as skinny as they come too, which just isn't fair!
I think that just getting all this stuff out in the open is a huge first step. Hopefully the weight loss group will help you, and any others in a similar situation. These things are so much easier to stick to when you have others to support you. I love reading your posts, and it's such a shame to hear that you're so unhappy.
I might even join you guys on the weight loss thing. Once I pluck up the courage to get on the scales....
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| Originally Posted by rbella
Also, I am heavily addicted to Dr. Pepper. I am not trying to make a joke with that. It is like crack. I've tried to stop so many times and I can't. They even started having to stock it at my office b/c I'd have to leave to go get it. I get massive migraines when I stop drinking it and I swear, I'm not lying, my body goes into a withdrawal similar to what I would consider to be a heroin withdrawal. |
I had a friend who had a similar problem with an addiction to Iron Bru. He used to go through bottles of the stuff every day, and when he tried to come off it he got the shakes and everything
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| Originally Posted by rbella
My husband has the same problem I do, which doesn't help. |
I'm pretty sure my brother's diet consists of only pizza, chocolate, cake, and coke. And lots of each. Which is no good for me when I go rummaging in the cupboards for a snack. There's all my healthy stuff, and then all his unhealthy stuff. I'm sure you can guess which I usually go for. He's about as skinny as they come too, which just isn't fair!
I think that just getting all this stuff out in the open is a huge first step. Hopefully the weight loss group will help you, and any others in a similar situation. These things are so much easier to stick to when you have others to support you. I love reading your posts, and it's such a shame to hear that you're so unhappy.
I might even join you guys on the weight loss thing. Once I pluck up the courage to get on the scales....
