Is love possible to find online? Am I crazy? or desperate?

[kaliraksha]

I know plenty of my girlfriends who have met their bf's online. It's not geeky or "desperate" anymore... there is a huge social network online and it's hard to ignore that it works at networking people.

I think if you're both honest with each other it can definitely work... and sometimes the anticipation makes it hotter. Although I knew my bf in real life most of our beginning relationship developed on AIM and it really let both us open up. As a matter of fact it was because of AIM that I knew he was into me... we use to say "love you" as friends at the end of the night... and one night he typed it and sent it twice... and it was too deliberate for me not to think anything of it... and that's when I knew he liked me.

I hope all works well for you and give us an update after you finally meet him!

 

[snowflakelashes]

I think it can work out. Its harder cross continentally though. If you meet and you are both truely in love you'll find a way to make it work. And if you aren't then at least you have a interesting story to add to your life. I've only ever met just-friends off the net but have had all good experiences. I have friends who met each other on Bulliten Boards (pre internet days) friends who met online in chat rooms, friends who met in World of Warcraft, and were happy at least for a time. Some relationships end as do those that start in the real world and some are going strong.

I think something to keep in mind is to not over invest yourself until you have actually met. Its great to be interested in getting to know each other but until you know if the chemistry is there IRL I wouldn't pin all your hopes on each other or make any comitments.

 

[abbyquack]

I dated a lot of guys from online when I was younger, and most of them were pretty cool, didn't misrepresent themselves *too* much (although I actually read today that 80% of people exaggerate in online profiles). Then I dated a guy for about a year and a half who I met on Hotornot.com - yes, laugh all you want, it's pretty embarrassing!

He actually ended up being quite a liar-- told me he made 80k when he actually was broke as a joke, and there were a bunch of other things but I won't get in to it all...so maybe my experience didn't become a "success" story, but there are many people in my extended family, including my mother-in-law who have met their new spouses online (here was a woman who said she's never marry again after her 70 y.o. husband left her for a 26 y.o. and now she is getting married next month!).

So yea for sure it can happen. I think your biggest obstacle, if this were to pan out, would be the long distance thing.

 

[Boasorte]

keep these stories coming ladies, who knew there would be so many people FOR online dating, and actual people on here that participated in it.

 

[krijsten]

I met my boyfriend off the internet

Uhm, we talked for 4 months, and then i FLEW to go spend my spring break with him. It was the most amazing time ever.

Its kinda hard, because he tried to come see me at the beginning of august, and got deported for a DUI a few years ago.. Its really frustrating.

But we love eachother, and we're trying to make it work. Even though he cant even get in canada.. (>

)

I'm going to visit for 2 weeks at the end of september.


But it most def is possible, and lots of people do meet people online!

Goodluck!

 

[Boasorte]

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Originally Posted by krijsten I met my boyfriend off the internet Uhm, we talked for 4 months, and then i FLEW to go spend my spring break with him. It was the most amazing time ever. Its kinda hard, because he tried to come see me at the beginning of august, and got deported for a DUI a few years ago.. Its really frustrating. But we love eachother, and we're trying to make it work. Even though he cant even get in canada.. (> ) I'm going to visit for 2 weeks at the end of september. But it most def is possible, and lots of people do meet people online! Goodluck!

I was actually thinking of spending my upcoming spring break with him, or something. Where does ur BF live?

 

[JULIA]

Social net-working's entire purpose is to connect people. The connection made shouldn't be restricted to friendship. Finding love is possible online (I'd say more-so than in person!) because you are exposed to so many different people. Have fun, and who knows where this may go

GL!

 

[hello_my_apple]

i'd say go for it, he might be telling the truth about who he is. besides you can live with someone and still have no idea who they are, trust me i know. *sorry random semi rant*

 

[User93]

TISH that's SWEET!!! Thanks for sharing

Now back to the subject.. I met my man in the internet too, long story short (cause I mentined it enough of times here

) we were talking for about a year and then he took 3 planes to come see me all around the globe

And then I went to spend my vacations with his family (in Brazil btw, I noticed your signature

). We are away from each other now which sucks, but yes, internet aswell!

 

[Boasorte]

OMG Alibi, that's really sweet of him, and these stories are so inspiring.

OT, but sooo jealous u went to Brazil, I've never been, but I speak Portuguese lol

 

[Paramnesia]

Oh wow I so feel I can relate to you MsWestchesterNY, I've meet a guy from England myself and just trying to figure it all out.

I really love your story Alibi, it's really great to read other peoples experiences and kind of takes away a bit of the stress.

My guy is coming here (Australia) in december, taking 3 planes too, gunna take like 27hr and he's sooooooooo petrified of flying but is gunna do it for me. The guy I know online is sweet, lovely, caring, kind, passionate, funny and so silly lol I just hope he's the same in person.

 

[Almost black.]

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Originally Posted by MsWestchesterNY OKay so here's the thing, I've been talking to this guy online for a few months, coming to a year in Feburary We actaully 'met' on a random thread on a Facebook group, sharing our love ( insert sarcastic tone here) of customer service jobs, he friend requested me, then we started emailing, then IMing, then SKyping. Thing is, he doesn't live in this country, he live in England. We talk and Skype almost every day, and he's planning a trip to come see me soon. He's super nice, fun to talk to, and we have similar personalities. I know this sounds crazy but I'm like super crushing on someone I haven't even met yet. Is this even possible? Or am I too much in love with the idea of being in love?

Why it shouldn't be possible? I mean, you talk to him *every* day, I suppose you tell him al kinds of stuff, and that goes for him too which means you know a lot about each other. You don't have to actually *see* someone to fall for him.

That's actually how I met my boyfriend and that's why I think it's possible.

The difference is that we're in the same country but still 300km apart, but still, we had our 2nd anniversary recently and in October I'm moving to his city so we'll start a life together (finally).

I must tell you that thank's to ICQ and Skype I got to know him much better than I probably would get to know him if we actually met somewhere outside. The thing is that with online chatting you don't have other choice than to chat which means that you talk about each other and that way you get to know each other and then you fall for his character instead of looks (which is how usually is happening).

Good luck dear!

 

[Makeup Emporium]

You are certainly not crazy or desperate! Love can come anytime, anywhere, you just never know. If you are happy and it feels right then who cares what people say or think. You have to live your life for you and be as happy as you can...you only get one shot!

I found love @ 17 at a part-time job. I never knew walking in there that I would meet the person I would spend the rest of my life with (been together ever since and are married now still going strong after many years!). You just have to be open to the possibilites life brings...

 

[Boasorte]

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Originally Posted by Paramnesia Oh wow I so feel I can relate to you MsWestchesterNY, I've meet a guy from England myself and just trying to figure it all out. I really love your story Alibi, it's really great to read other peoples experiences and kind of takes away a bit of the stress. My guy is coming here (Australia) in december, taking 3 planes too, gunna take like 27hr and he's sooooooooo petrified of flying but is gunna do it for me. The guy I know online is sweet, lovely, caring, kind, passionate, funny and so silly lol I just hope he's the same in person.

These English guys sure are something huh? LOL
Wow 3 planes? I can't even work the nerve to get one ONE

But I hope u guys have the time of ur lives when u meet him

 

[Boasorte]

OMG I'm having a little dillema(sp?) right now with him
Appartnly he's told his friends about me, and they're trying HARD to talk him out of coming here to visit me.
This is understandable, I mean we DID meet online, but I mean, to express caution is one thing, but to tell him straight up not to come? I feel offended.
THey're telling him all these things about how I may " break his heart" I might be "crazy" and all this riff raff, like come on we have been talking since FEB! Jeez

Not to mention his brother, calling me nasty names ( fat n****r, stupid American etc) and telling him to stick with Polish girls
So now my friend , hmmm, I don't want to say having second thoughts, but he's really angry that people are trying to talk him out of it, is this normal ? Has anyone went thru something similar when meeting someone online?
HELP!!!! Me ajudam por favor <3 <3

 

[Almost black.]

Some people are really narrow minded when it comes to something like this but in the end it's up to him to decide. The only thing you can do is to tell him that if he has any doubts about it that it's normal but the thing is that he can get hurt anywhere and meet crazy chicks anywhere. You don't have to go to America to find that.

But the most important thing of all - he should listen to himself and not to those other people. They don't know you, they can talk whatever they want. Thank God not all people are so narrow minded about something like this.

 

[krijsten]

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Originally Posted by MsWestchesterNY I was actually thinking of spending my upcoming spring break with him, or something. Where does ur BF live?

Sorry i take 5 years to reply.. Lol

But Denver, Colorado!

Was my first time EVER going to the states, but its so pretty there!

 

[User93]

I think it's even normal people are telling him such things. Yes his brother sucks but thats a way to be protective for him, obviously such long-distance online relationship take so much of nerves, it's really hard... You know, if he thinks about it and relises he doesnt want to hag with you it's better to be now, until things went too far! But you guys gotta support each other.

 

[Boasorte]

yea, ur right, we do support each other a lot, but we've talked about it, he's still wanting to come

 

[Boasorte]

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Originally Posted by krijsten Sorry i take 5 years to reply.. Lol But Denver, Colorado! Was my first time EVER going to the states, but its so pretty there!

Glad u love the States, I would kill to live in Canada!