Is your baby gay?

[macslut]

I think just like everything about the human condition, homosexuality is both nature and nurture.

I personally concur with the United Methodist Church's stance on homosexuality. I also believe in civil unions..not marriage but then again I think heterosexual marriage should not be a given right either.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by macslut I think just like everything about the human condition, homosexuality is both nature and nurture.

I agree with this.

 

[saniyairshad]

I completely agree with macslut. homosexuality can be both be something u can be born with or something that comes out in the course of life.

 

[Dizzy]

Quite frankly, I don't care if someone is gay, if someone is lesbian, if someone is straight, etc. Hell, if you're purple, you're still a-ok in my book.

I'm not religious, per se, but the way that I see it is if God wanted that baby to be Gay/Lesbian/Straight/A Muppet they're suppose to be that way for a reason. So who are we to judge their prefrences? Last time I checked I'm not playing God, so I don't care to have an issue with it.

 

[angi]

I completely agree with macslut. I think that homosexuality can be a product of both nature and nurture. I think that the idea that it is something that needs to be 'cured' or prevented is completely outdated. Homosexuality was considered a mental disorder that needed treatment up until about 60 years ago, but it has now long since been removed from the DSM, and IMO this can only be a good thing.

Unless people are my close friends, then I don't expect to be questionned about my sex life, and I try my best to give others that same respect, regardless of their choices.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by angi Unless people are my close friends, then I don't expect to be questionned about my sex life, and I try my best to give others that same respect, regardless of their choices.

I think part of the confusion people have with this though, is that homosexuality is both a sexual orientation, and a lifestyle. However it's up to the individual to decide if they keep their sexual preference seperate from the lifestyle, or combine them.

Overall I think most people are completely fine with people who are discrete about their sexual preference. Since other than their choice of life partner, they are completely normal. Some gay men are typical guys, into guy things, sports, cars, drinking, etc. Their only difference is the fact that they are gay. Then you have your queens. You know, the steriotypical gay male, like Jack, from Will and Grace. Some take it even farther. I think these are the type of gays that people generaly have issues with, because being gay isn't just a preference, it shapes who they are. And it's very obvious. Same is true for women, you have your, "lipstick" lesbians who are totally girly, but like women. And then you have your more androgenous, or butch lesbians, who make being a lesbian, more than just being a women. And take on a more male persona.

If your gay, and not into the gay/lesbian lifestyle, chances are, your not going to get wierd stares, odd questions, or whatever, because like most people, your sex life is private. It's into when the lifestyle choice puts in in everyone face that trouble starts. But this is just like all minority groups who go against the mainstream grain. If you choose to be different, and it's obvious your different, your conchiously making yourself more vulnerable. Some groups are just more vulnerable than others.

 

[Beauty Mark]

That isn't exactly true. Non-stereotypical gay people can have difficulties within the gay community, because to some people, by liking things that are considered "heterosexual" you're not really gay. It isn't common, but it does happen.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark That isn't exactly true. Non-stereotypical gay people can have difficulties within the gay community, because to some people, by liking things that are considered "heterosexual" you're not really gay. It isn't common, but it does happen.

To be fair I wasn't really talking about how those w/in the gay community treat each other. But you do have a valid point. But that happens with every group, you have people who think you have to be X,Y,Z and only X,Y,Z not Z,Y,X or A,B,C in order to be included.

But that also brings up another point, does being "gay" automatically make you a member of the "gay community" ? Or can you be part of the mainstream, independent of your sexual orientation?