baghdad81
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Shadowaddict: Am so sorry for your situation. While not the same, my brother happens to be very sensitive and can also get extremely angry and say hurtful things and go on for months on end without talking to me. He really destroyed our relationship with each other about 3 years ago and it took me such a long time to be able to get past it. It took me energy, lots of crying, bouts of depression and I felt I was wrong when I wasn't. At the end of this, due to the extreme levels of stress he placed on me and the fact that almost no one sympathized with me "oh....you should be the bigger person....you are more mature...etc" it took a toll on my health and that was when I decided that I come first and if he wants a relationship he is going to have to work on it. I still see him occasionally and am usually non-confrontational and just treat him more as an acquaintance now to avoid further conflict. I try to leave it at that. The problems were made 100X worse when he got married and a part of me regrets all the times I stood up for his wife when he was angry at her or having one of his moods or they were fighting. I wish I could take back all the presents and the help and advice I offered and that I had just leave them to solve their own issues. I guess what I am trying to say is I hope he gets help soon and that your problems are resolved and that your DIL will grow up but I fully understand that you don't want to get involved as much anymore especially if you are at the receiving end of hateful behaviour!