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[Beauty Mark]

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I don't understand why he doesn't want to see me. He's stressed out from work and school and he takes it all out on me. Maybe when school ends it'll be better. That's why I don't want to break up with him. What if it could get better?

You should probably ask him why he's bothering to hang out with you if he'd rather be somewhere else.

Also, being stressed in life is no excuse for taking it out on someone else, and it could get better, but it could get worse. What happens when he finds himself in a more stressful situation?

 

[bellaconnie80]

Hey sweetie I'm sorry you're going through this because obviously you care about him.. you deserve someone who wants to be with/around you.. If he wanted to be around you he could hang out with you and his friends together especially if he cares about you, he would try to make it work.. I dont know how late he works or what your schedule is like but sometimes he could ask you to come fall asleep with him or study together.. seriously I would ask him if he wants a girlfriend because it doesn't sound like he does

 

[stronqerx]

My boyfriend has no friends, because hes always working and wen hes off he wants to be with ME. If you've been with him for more then a yr im guessing you have strong feelings for him, but the question is does he feel the same? tell him to give up his bro-mance. I mean come on, he has a girl and he wants to be with his boys? kinda odd. Everyone is pretty much going to tell you to dump him, but you don't have to, its up to you. Do you want to be with someone who is always gonna be bitching & moaning and practically saying he doesn't want to spend time with you all the time or if u give in and say fine go with your boys, end up being with someone who you're barely going to see, It's up to you, what are you willing to put up with? Good luck

 

[FiestyFemme]

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Originally Posted by aleksis210 but on a serious note...break up with him immediately, if he is 23 and he acts this way HE WILL NEVERRRRR CHANGE.

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Originally Posted by M.A.C. head. Ditch that bitch!

Dude, I could not agree more!

It took me way longer than it should have to figure it out, so believe me when I say, if he's that old and acting this way, he will never change. Ever. I've been split with my ex for over 3 years. Guess what? He's almost 26 years old, and still the exact same. Thank God, I'm over that because who needs it? I want a man, not a little boy. And no offense, but your BF sounds like a whiny little boy. His priorities are most definitely not in order, and it sounds like he has no business being in a relationship. You deserve SO much more.

 

[lara]

Ditch if him is he's such a dick.

Who has that kind of time for someone who sounds like a crybaby pussy? Dump him.

 

[fafinette21]

You might think it could get better, but what will happen the NEXT time he is stressed out? Do you really want to go through this everytime things aren't going great in his life? I wouldn't. He should WANT to spend time with you not feel like he HAS to.

Also, I don't think I would be proud to call the biggest asshole I've ever met in my life my boyfriend.

Ditch!

 

[Krasevayadancer]

He isn't worth your time, dump his @ss

 

[ClaireAvril]

Females serious..
we need to start empowering ourselves more in our relationships. Don't give a man 3 chances to treat you like shit. It should be 1 mess up and you're done. I'd rather be alone then be with someone who makes me unhappy.

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

If my boyfriend acted like that he wouldn't be my boyfriend anymore, period. Every once in a while we'll have a baby argument about him spending SO much time with his friends or even vice versa, that he's spending too much time with me, and we ultimately recognize that there needs to be a balance. I work and go to school fulltime. He works every day except Sunday, and since I work in retail, I don't ever get Sundays off. So we have to make it work. He has plenty of time to see his friends and we make time to see each other. It's called compromise. If being with his friends is more important than being with you, then he can go fuck his friends and I'm sure you can find someone who'll really appreciate spending time with you.

Don't let a man dictate who you are and what you do, and don't ever expect him to change for you; he chose to take a night shift job, you didn't ask him to, nor did his friends. He should have known how it was going to affect his free time and thought about that before he took the job. Chances are he was a jackass before you got together, so I hope you'll realize this and don't wait for him to change, because I hate to say it, but it probably won't happen.

 

[Mizz Coco Lust]

i know its not easy to just ''dump him'' but he doesn't sound like hes totally commited ur relationship.u need to give him a taste of his own medicine and go out with your friends on a night the two of u were suppose to chill alone.let him feel the hurt that u feel and see how he reacts. then if he gets upset tell him thats how he makes you feel.if he loves u it will effect what hes doing.if not, then maybe u do need to move on.

 

[angeliquea~+]

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Originally Posted by ClaireAvril Females serious.. we need to start empowering ourselves more in our relationships. Don't give a man 3 chances to treat you like shit. It should be 1 mess up and you're done. I'd rather be alone then be with someone who makes me unhappy.

If I could thank you 1000000000000000 times I would, this is spot on.

 

[abbyquack]

Well, there you have it, 30 girls telling you all the same thing: DUMP HIM! It's hard, I know, especially since you've spent 1 1/2 yrs building this friendship and relationship, but believe me, you'll be so much more relieved when he's out of the picture. Perhaps now you think you could never love another person ever again like you love him, but believe me, you will. Yet it doesn't even sound like he's in love with you, as much as he's in love with his friends. Friends that you've only met once. Why is that he's only let you meet them once? That sounds wrong in and of itself. Seriously though, you should NEVER spend a day tolerating feeling unappreciated by a man, because that is actually a form of male dominance over females. It's disrespectful to you, and it's dangerous to your self-confidence. I don't doubt there are plenty of nice guys out there who are MORE than willing to treat you like you deserve!

PS - read the book "he's just not that into you" - totally cliche but totally true.

 

[duckduck]

Gotta say, I know some of the stress might go away at the end of the semester, but what about next semester? Or the next job? Or when he has a big project due? Life is full of stressful times, and someone who just dumps on you every time the going gets tough isn't really worth the effort in my opinion.

 

[user11]

I think he doesn't love u, or at least not enough, cuz if he did, he would like to spend time with you. I think that seeing him once a week it's not enough and it's incredible that he threat you like that and say to u those hurting things. He is not mature enough and he isn't ready to be with anyone, he just tired of being with someone. Do u really want to be with him?? He's the one who's doing your life miserable.
I think that he doesn't want to be with u, he's young and he feels as if he isn't free and maybe he wants to hang out with friends and meet other people, and the fact that he doesn't want to take u with them explains a lot. Break with him before he does, u can do nothing but leave him and forget him. He doesn't deserve u, but don't worry 'cause you'll soon find a person who'll like to spend every moment with u and who will present u to all his friends.
Forget him. Sorry if I've been too honest, but it just what I think.
bye!!

 

[catz1ct]

Lifes too short to stay in a relationship and get treated like crap. I've been there myself and it sucks!

 

[Cinci]

i used to have a shitty boyfriend.. i got some advice once that was really smart.

People will only treat you as poorly as you let them.

in otherwords, if you walk away, he can't treat you badly anymore. if you stay with him when he's treating you bad, you're basically giving him the green light to be a dick.....

 

[omg banana]

OK, I'm breaking up with him tonight. He just told me that he's not hanging out with me on Saturdays anymore, and if I don't like it then too bad. Well, I'll be at his house when he gets out of work tonight to get all of my stuff and tell him exactly what I think of him. He's losing way more than I am, I'm better than him in every single way. He's going to be lonely as hell too, I'm the only person he talks to during the week, his stupid friends make absolutely no effort to see him unless they're going to get drunk. Well he can have fun being all alone, he brought it on himself.

 

[TamiChoi]

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Originally Posted by omg banana OK, I'm breaking up with him tonight. He just told me that he's not hanging out with me on Saturdays anymore, and if I don't like it then too bad. Well, I'll be at his house when he gets out of work tonight to get all of my stuff and tell him exactly what I think of him. He's losing way more than I am, I'm better than him in every single way. He's going to be lonely as hell too, I'm the only person he talks to during the week, his stupid friends make absolutely no effort to see him unless they're going to get drunk. Well he can have fun being all alone, he brought it on himself.

good choice. you'll feel so much better or maybe it'll take some time, but you'll realize life is too damn short to be living an unhappy life with an unhealthy relationship. know your worth. and if he tries to get you back, give him the silent treatment until you get over his ass. that's right, it's HIS lost. obviously he doesn't act his age and from what you're saying his friends are immature dick heads and that could probably be the reason why they don't have girlfriends. they should never encourage him not to spend time with you for no reason. also, you say he's your best friend and bf, "there's plenty of fish in the sea." good luck!

 

[omg banana]

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Originally Posted by TamiChoi good choice. you'll feel so much better or maybe it'll take some time, but you'll realize life is too damn short to be living an unhappy life with an unhealthy relationship. know your worth. and if he tries to get you back, give him the silent treatment until you get over his ass. that's right, it's HIS lost. obviously he doesn't act his age and from what you're saying his friends are immature dick heads and that could probably be the reason why they don't have girlfriends. they should never encourage him not to spend time with you for no reason. also, you say he's your best friend and bf, "there's plenty of fish in the sea." good luck!

Yeah, he told me today that his friends tell him that he's pathetic for hanging out with me instead of going out drinking with them. I don't understand that at all. Why do they think that he can just ditch his girlfriend and never hang out with her? They know he only has two nights off a week. It's ridiculous.

 

[MissChriss]

He is not worth your time. I am stubborn and I know my worth so if my bf ever acted like that with me I would just let him go. Let him be where he wants to be. That doesn't mean that I am going to be sitting at home twiddling my thumbs waiting for him to grace me with a few moments of his time either.

My man works all day gets off late and has to get up early the next morning to do it all again. And even still when he gets home he still wants to take a couple of hours to spend time with me lounging on the couch watching shows we have tivo'd enjoying each others time. He'll be there dozing off and I have to sometimes force him to go to bed just like I have to let him know its okay to go off and spend time with his friends. I will be here when you return.

I couldn't imagine him being this way to me. I say good riddance. And I promise you he will come around and realize what a jerk he was being and if not I'm sorry he must be gay girl