My heart is breaking my chest feels like shrinking =(
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Kalico
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Listen very closely to everything that has been said here. Everyone is telling you to get the hell out of this relationship and you NEED to do it. This relationship will just bring you down and destroy your self esteem if you stay in it. Scum men ALWAYS try to talk you out of leaving them and fuck with your head so hard, they can actually convince you that it isn't "that bad." I suggest you break up with him in such a way that you DO NOT give him the chance to talk you out of it. There should be no discussion. It's over, and that's it. And make sure you leave no room for him to contact you.
I guarantee this guy is just going to mess with your head and you will oh so regret it later on if you stay. It's pretty bad news if even his friends were laughing. Get the hell out of that relationship.
You are too good for that crap.
I guarantee this guy is just going to mess with your head and you will oh so regret it later on if you stay. It's pretty bad news if even his friends were laughing. Get the hell out of that relationship.
You are too good for that crap.
PolyphonicLove
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what? did he REALLY say that all he did was try to kiss her, and that although it was wrong, it wasn't cheating? is he serious?
if the rest wasn't a dead giveaway, this was...I know that you're trying very hard to leave him, but he's manipulating you with ignorance and trying to make you think that his MANY huge mistakes were minuscule. I know you can do it...just make it quick, before I pop him in the mouth.
Originally Posted by miszjenny
we were talking last night for 6 hours on the phone and i was breaking up with him. he wouldn't break up with. he's making me feel that he's human being and he messes up. he told me that he didn't cheat on me all he did was he wrapped his arms around her and tried to kiss her and the only thing that the kiss didn't happen was because the girl said "you have a gf." omg wow the girl was the one reminding him he has a gf. i don't know anymore... all i know is i want to get out of this relationship but i have no guts to say it so. well i tried but he convinced me that he just does stupid things when he drinks too much...okay he was drunk but still could you forget that you have a gf just because you're drunk? how many times could you do that to me? and he's like he won't do it again. and what made me really mad last night was when he said i think kissing is not cheating. it's wrong but it's not cheating. ha so what does that comment leave me? im not stupid. i told him if i kiss another guy in front of him if he would be mad at me and he said he wont. wtf? and then he changed what he said...he said he was just mad that's why hhe said that. hmmm really? i just really hope i was stronger enough to stood up for myself and leave this guy alone coz honestly i will never forgive what he did to me. i really appreciate all your advices. i feel so much better whenever i read them. huggs |
what? did he REALLY say that all he did was try to kiss her, and that although it was wrong, it wasn't cheating? is he serious?
if the rest wasn't a dead giveaway, this was...I know that you're trying very hard to leave him, but he's manipulating you with ignorance and trying to make you think that his MANY huge mistakes were minuscule. I know you can do it...just make it quick, before I pop him in the mouth.
VeXedPiNk
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That really sucks, but you need to move on without him.
What counts as cheating can differ from one couple to another, but both need to agree on the definition. You don't want him kissing other girls, than it's not acceptable whether he agrees or not. He should respect you enough to keep it in his pants.
He says the only reason the kiss didn't happen is because the other girl stopped him? Then what happens when he tries to kiss another girl that doesn't stop him?
Being drunk is no excuse. This sounds like a very unhealthy relationship.
Good luck hun *hugs*
What counts as cheating can differ from one couple to another, but both need to agree on the definition. You don't want him kissing other girls, than it's not acceptable whether he agrees or not. He should respect you enough to keep it in his pants.
He says the only reason the kiss didn't happen is because the other girl stopped him? Then what happens when he tries to kiss another girl that doesn't stop him?
Being drunk is no excuse. This sounds like a very unhealthy relationship.
Good luck hun *hugs*
macface
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Get out hes lying to you and your lying to yourself if you say you can't live without him.You know you will be better of yourself. You will find somebody who appreciates who you are. Realize hes not the one be strong.
| Originally Posted by miszjenny
we were talking last night for 6 hours on the phone and i was breaking up with him. he wouldn't break up with. he's making me feel that he's human being and he messes up. he told me that he didn't cheat on me all he did was he wrapped his arms around her and tried to kiss her and the only thing that the kiss didn't happen was because the girl said "you have a gf." omg wow the girl was the one reminding him he has a gf. i don't know anymore... all i know is i want to get out of this relationship but i have no guts to say it so. well i tried but he convinced me that he just does stupid things when he drinks too much...okay he was drunk but still could you forget that you have a gf just because you're drunk? how many times could you do that to me? and he's like he won't do it again. and what made me really mad last night was when he said i think kissing is not cheating. it's wrong but it's not cheating. ha so what does that comment leave me? im not stupid. i told him if i kiss another guy in front of him if he would be mad at me and he said he wont. wtf? and then he changed what he said...he said he was just mad that's why hhe said that. hmmm really? i just really hope i was stronger enough to stood up for myself and leave this guy alone coz honestly i will never forgive what he did to me. i really appreciate all your advices. i feel so much better whenever i read them. huggs |
Get out hes lying to you and your lying to yourself if you say you can't live without him.You know you will be better of yourself. You will find somebody who appreciates who you are. Realize hes not the one be strong.
NutMeg
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I wouldn't get too worried about that. I find that when I'm emotionally overwhelmed I tend to get numb. Think of it as your heart/emotions not being able to deal with all of it at once, so you get numb when it's too much to handle to give yourself a break. Just don't ignore the situation because you aren't feeling the pain at this moment.
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The fact that you're feeling vulnerable means that you need to take care of yourself right now. If you know deep down that you want to break up, you should do it. Your wellbeing is more important than the relationship. Based on the pattern thus far, I think it's just going to keep getting worse. It's not easy to do something like this even when you know it's the right thing to do (believe me, we've all been there). I send you lots of hugs and support.
| Originally Posted by miszjenny
im so tired of crying already that i can't feel anything anymore. i don't feel no pain, nothing and it scares me. |
I wouldn't get too worried about that. I find that when I'm emotionally overwhelmed I tend to get numb. Think of it as your heart/emotions not being able to deal with all of it at once, so you get numb when it's too much to handle to give yourself a break. Just don't ignore the situation because you aren't feeling the pain at this moment.
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| i feel so vulnerable right now i dont really know what i want to do anymore. i know all of you guys said i should just let go of him. i know deep inside of me i want to break up coz the pain will eventually come back and i might be hating him...and i dont want to come to the point hating him. im really confused. maybe i should really take a break from all of these and think things thru. |
The fact that you're feeling vulnerable means that you need to take care of yourself right now. If you know deep down that you want to break up, you should do it. Your wellbeing is more important than the relationship. Based on the pattern thus far, I think it's just going to keep getting worse. It's not easy to do something like this even when you know it's the right thing to do (believe me, we've all been there). I send you lots of hugs and support.
Mizz.Yasmine
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move on!
and honestly if u want better then the parties/drinking will have to end!
trust me i learned this the hard way! u cant trust a man like that.
save it for holidays/bdays.
and honestly if u want better then the parties/drinking will have to end!
save it for holidays/bdays.
User93
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Girl, i can relate, and i can imagine how hard is it for you, i bet you do understand that this relationship is nothing good the way it is, but well, of course after 1 year 8 months you feel attached to him and dont wanna lose him.. We tend to find excuses for people and blame ourselves for their faults.. I think you should get out of this, but well, i know how hard can it feel. I hope everything will be good for you. Listen to NutMeg, she always makes sense in such tricky questions
kaliraksha
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Just based on the he might do stupid things (like cheat on you) when he's drunk is enough for me to leave someone. What happens if you do get married? Are you going to be with him 24/7? What if he goes on a business trip or you go out of town? Are you going to be able to trust him?
Relationships are built on trust. I don't think you do and I don't think you can trust him.
Leaving someone you really love and saw a future with is hard. But spending years trying to fix and convince yourself to be in a relationship is worse- it screws with your self esteem.
Relationships are built on trust. I don't think you do and I don't think you can trust him.
Leaving someone you really love and saw a future with is hard. But spending years trying to fix and convince yourself to be in a relationship is worse- it screws with your self esteem.
