Never had an orgasm

[mymakeuproom]

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Originally Posted by marreyes38 me before sex: him before sex: me during sex: him during sex: me after sex: him after sex: ITS JUST NOT FAIR!!!

Married 3 years and I feel the same way lol. We used to focus on getting me to orgasm but over time we just enjoy the moment (some of us more then the other lol).

My ex once stopped um...mid booty and said you don't orgasm do you? LOL I didn't know how to respond, but we stopped all together and had a long talk about it.

Anyhoo, you're not alone.

 

[kaexbabey]

i've only had 3 from my husband and the second one was the best. lol. for me, i knew it was coming when my whole body felt hot and tingly, and then i felt numb in my vajayjay. in the past when i couldn't get one, i'd get all stiff as soon as i felt numb, but when i just let go and relaxed my whole body, that's when it came

 

[xxManBeaterxx]

I think it all depends on the guy and how they put the motion in the ocean, hah. And if your hubby can get you extremely turned on before intercourse its a done deal >.< ..

 

[user79]

I really think faking orgasms is one of the worst things you can do as a woman. I mean, no wonder you never get an orgasm! The guy thinks what he's doing is getting you off, when really you're ready to go to sleep! lol

Women have to be vocal during sex and sometimes let the guy know exactly what they want, and how to do it. I think a lot of women just expect that they can lie there, let the guy do all the work, not say a word during sex, and magically arrive at a body convulsing orgasm. If that's what's going on, you'll be waiting forever...An orgasm is something you have to work hard at, yourself. Yes, the guy can help, but honestly in most situations, the woman is going to have to put in some muscle on her own behalf to reach her climax point. I think a lot of women just expect that the guy will make it happen for her. Don't think of it as, "I need this man to make me come," rather, think of it as, "I'm going to use this man to help me get to where I need to be to have an orgasm." You have to put in the effort yourself.

I think to have an orgasm with a partner, you have to really know your body and mastrubate on your own to see what it is that your body reacts too. Don't be afraid to try out different toys, crayz positions, even different places than just the bed...by yourself. Then you will know what exactly feels good to you, and yeah, a big part of it is just letting go. Also, you need to get into a rhythm. I don't know if it's with all women, but I can feel when the O is going to come like maybe 20 or 30 seconds before it actually does...it's weird.

I would never fake an orgasm, I never have either. If my guy comes and I haven't, oh well - next time. But I'm not going to fake an orgasm and make him think what he was doing was great, because otherwise he'll just keep doing that same thing again and again! lol You're really only shooting yourself in the foot...

 

[jenee.sum]

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Originally Posted by MissChievous I don't know if it's with all women, but I can feel when the O is going to come like maybe 20 or 30 seconds before it actually does...it's weird.

ur not alone!

 

[TISH1124]

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Originally Posted by MissChievous
I don't know if it's with all women, but I can feel when the O is going to come like maybe 20 or 30 seconds before it actually does...it's weird.

I think that is how it is with both men and women...At least I thought it was

 

[Patricia]

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Originally Posted by jenee.sum georgi: have u ever tried doing some kegel exercises while masturbating? i give it 2 tumbs up! "With regular kegel exercise many women report being able to experience vaginal orgasm for the first time. Women also report more intense and more frequent multiple and g-spot orgasms."

so the vaginal orgasm actually exists??

i always tought it was a myth, and i think i've read it somewhere

i've never experienced it

perhaps should i get myself a vibrator and practise?

 

[jenee.sum]

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Originally Posted by Patricia so the vaginal orgasm actually exists?? i always tought it was a myth, and i think i've read it somewhere i've never experienced it perhaps should i get myself a vibrator and practise?

it's called a G-Spot orgasm. never had one though. g-spot orgasms make you squirt (looks like pee...but it's clear and doesn't stink). u'll be throwing in a load of towels in the washer after

 

[georgi]

well in a cruel twist of fate i went to play and try some of the excellent tips in this thread out....and my vibe batteries were flat!
so bought some more today....and the whole thing is broken?!?!

sigh

 

[abbyquack]

^^ Sadness! lol.

But to add to some of the comments, I have had sex with a number of men and I never got off, mostly because I was too focused on making sure they were enjoying it, and of course if you're not comfortable with the person, it's hard to take over and do it your way, lol. I knew what an orgasm was as I had had them a couple times on my own, but it wasn't until I met my husband, that he will not come til I have gotten off. He is so patient and accommodating, especially since I'm not one of those people who gets off easily. You and I are not the only ones as is witnessed in this thread, but also my two best friends have had similar experiences- it was the man, not them that was wrong.

Another note, if you are using a vibrator and it is too harsh, that's not a big surprise because that area is definitely sensitive, so try wearing a layer, such as underwear- that might help. Get to know yourself, as others have mentioned, your G-spot can be different from anyone else's.

Also, the sneeze analogy is totally spot on! You know how you feel euphoric sort of when you sneeze? It feels good? That's *kind* of the sensation you get when you orgasm, just a lot of snot doesn't come spewing out everywhere. lol. But it is kind of a euphoric feeling.

HTH!