I am distinctly cool toned so my recs may not translate immediately to your skin but I thought I'd still add my tuppence worth incase it helps anyone reading this thread. I wear Sleek Natural Look foundation in Sepia (equivalent to MAC NW43/45).
Funnily enough I use my everyday concealer (NYX concealer in a jar Nutmeg) when defining my brows and that is perfect as a natural 'lift' to that area without adding shimmer, light or 'glow'. A shade or two lighter would be just too porntastic for my taste. I truly fear the highlighter glow.
If you really want to use shadows I recommend Max Factor Earth Spirits eyeshadow in Almond. This is a wonderful matte, sheer but buildable soft almond beige/brown. I think the MAC equivalent of this is Bisque (though I haven't had an opportunity to compare them as yet). MAC Blanc-type maybe a better option for your colouring though.
On the rare occasions that I do want a subtle gleam on my browbone, but still not enough to compete with the shimmer or colour on my eyelids I reach for MAC Grain. This is a subtle sleeper love for me. When I first bought it I thought I was crazy cause it didn't show up like Shroom or Ricepaper on me (Ricepaper is a little too yellow on me, though it does pop!).
Anyway, I rediscovered it recently and love how perfectly understated it is. I can wear it day or night without looking like a wannabe pornstar at an audition. It provides a subtle, supportive glow to my brow bone completing my eye looks whilst allowing the main eye colours to shine.
Hope that helps a little. Do let us know if and when you do find one you love.