Devoted2MAC
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I would say that as long as you are both on the same emotional and maturity level and both want the same things out of life then it's fine. Just make sure he's good and healthy and will be around for a long time. LOL!
Older Man?
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radarlove
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Don't sweat it! 15 years is nothing. Age is just a number, you can't help who you hit it off with and are attracted to. It would be a shame to pass up on a wonderful and loving relationship just because you're worried about what other people would think. Don't let society's standards get to you - and in this day and age, they matter less and less! You're in your 30s, he's in his 40s, it's not a big deal at all!
My partner is 20 years older than me. And I'm only 20, so many people consider this very strange. I've thought seriously about all the potential repercussions of my relationship and issues I might face in the future, but my boyfriend is such a wonderful person and we have a healthy, loving relationship. There are sacrifices that I'm willing to make in order to be in the relationship - one of them is having people judge me based on it. It sucks but you can't let other people get you down! You have to make the right choices for you!
My partner is 20 years older than me. And I'm only 20, so many people consider this very strange. I've thought seriously about all the potential repercussions of my relationship and issues I might face in the future, but my boyfriend is such a wonderful person and we have a healthy, loving relationship. There are sacrifices that I'm willing to make in order to be in the relationship - one of them is having people judge me based on it. It sucks but you can't let other people get you down! You have to make the right choices for you!
Septemba
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That's the only thing that bothers me about the age difference with my relationship, I think about that if we both die of old age I will be without him for so long and I don't know how I could be. I make him promise he will never die.
Originally Posted by Devoted2MAC
Just make sure he's good and healthy and will be around for a long time. LOL! |
That's the only thing that bothers me about the age difference with my relationship, I think about that if we both die of old age I will be without him for so long and I don't know how I could be. I make him promise he will never die.
kabuki_KILLER
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I'm 22 and I like older guys. Anywhere from a year older than me to 35 is fine. Yeah, I know, to a lot of people, 35 is pretty young. The man I'm in love with is 33, I think. Ahhh a girl can dream, right?
I think there are things that matter more than age, but at the same time, if he was too much older, I would question if he was after my characteristics or something else. Haha.
I think there are things that matter more than age, but at the same time, if he was too much older, I would question if he was after my characteristics or something else. Haha.
JULIA
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Is his age a problem to you or others? You are the only two people in this could-be-relationship and what other people think should not affect how you feel about this man. If you two eventually do get together and are truly happy with each other, how could someone judge that? How could someone get upset over the difference in age? That's all so trivial; just follow your heart
x_ladydanger
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I don't think there's anything wrong with an age gap. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 35 but we're so happy and the age difference isn't an issue at all.
I've been in a spring/winter (is that what it's called?) relationship before and it ultimately came down to me realizing that maybe not today, and maybe not tomorrow, but one day that age difference would make a difference, no matter how youthful he acts. Now I find myself in a (new) happy relationship with my "old man" who is only 1 year older 
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I guess ultimately if you have the same (or at least similar) interests and goals the difference wont make a difference. Now, if you wanted to club all weekend long and all he wanted to do was watch golf and drink Metamucil, that would be something altogether different
. I guess ultimately if you have the same (or at least similar) interests and goals the difference wont make a difference. Now, if you wanted to club all weekend long and all he wanted to do was watch golf and drink Metamucil, that would be something altogether different
snkatha
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My fiancee is 13yrs older than me. I love him very much and he's the best thing in my life. We mesh very well, share the same ideals all the important stuff! Plus, i've never dated anyone my age or younger. I've always been attracted to guys who're older than me. Imo if you two connect then age is a non issue. Ps i'd totally jump george clooney's bones!
nettiepoo
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I believe this,
If he is a good person and not totaly fugly, on drugs or a rapist, give it a shot imean like others have already said age aint nothing but a number. Men usually takes more time to mature so he may be older but still be on your level, does that make sense?
If he is a good person and not totaly fugly, on drugs or a rapist, give it a shot imean like others have already said age aint nothing but a number. Men usually takes more time to mature so he may be older but still be on your level, does that make sense?
greengoesmoo
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Older men know more.
hello_kitty
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I always thought older men would be creepy, but I have changed my opinion... I am currently having this "thing" with a good friend of mine... I'm 26, he's 41. And I'm absolutely amazed by how things are so much different than they were with a guy my age (I was married for almost 2 years to a guy right around my age... talk about immature, haha). First off, he knows how to clean his own house, do laundry...maintain a house on his own - big plus when my ex-husband didn't even know how to work a washer! And definitely things are better in other departments, if you get my drift.
So I have definitely changed my opinion on older men... not saying that they're all perfect, but so far in my experience, I definitely dig it! I still get my moments where I feel incredibly young, but there's awkward moments in every relationship
So I have definitely changed my opinion on older men... not saying that they're all perfect, but so far in my experience, I definitely dig it! I still get my moments where I feel incredibly young, but there's awkward moments in every relationship
Flaminbird
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I can speak from experience and that....it didnt work any of the 3 times!! LOL!! Lets see I dated someone....30 yrs older then me...yep 30 yrs older..... when I was 25. It didnt last long. I soon got disgusted and thought "what the hell was I thinking...he could be my grandfather!" I then got married to someone just 6 yrs older then me but that didnt work either....he was an ass. I left him and met someone 17 yrs older them me. We had alot in common oddly enough...photography, cars.....didnt want kids....etc. Well he was insanely jealous and then I started also noticing differences. I was only 32 yet he wanted me to dress like some 50 yr old...like he was! I started seeing him as "old" too as things got worse in the relationship. I started getting embarrassed to be seen with him thinking people are gonna think he's my dad! More and more it bothered me. So add that together with the horrible jealousy and controlling behavior and it was a recipe for disaster. I dont think I could ever date someone that much older then me. My b/f now is 1.5 yrs younger then me
. But anyway....the age thing really did get to me. It may not be as bad when you're older though....say 40 like I am now and dating someone 17 yrs older or so. Uggh...now I'm old! LOL
DILLIGAF
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I've dated men that were older then me and I've dated men my own age. The results have all been different. In the end it boils down to how compatable your personalities are. When I was 26 I dated a guy that was in his 40s. He was sweet and we had tons in common. However his 24 yr old daughter wasn't as fond of me. I think people should date whom ever they feel comfortable with, age be damned. That said I'd feel creepy dating younger men. Like the 20 yr old at work that will not leave me alone!
