milamonster
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here's my story, a bit long
Hey ladies and gents,
I have a question and thought you guys would be able to help me out hopefully. Ok, so there's this guy (let's call him) Benga. Benga is a friend of a friend that originally sent me a msg in 06 or 05 saying that he was sending me a msg cuz he liked my profile and that I didn't mind going against the grain and that he had seen me on his friend's (let's call him Jorge) top 24. He said that he knew Jorge from school which I didn't believe so I sent JOrge a message and he actually did know him. Jorge and Benga are not necessarily best buds but would be at the sam parties and chat around campus. This basically confirmed that Benga was NOT crazy. I added Benga as a friend and he told me thanks cuz he said he was too shy meaning that he had never really added people on myspace he didn't know in real life. We then started talking on aim alot maybe like a year. He invited me to some concerts through myspace during the summer but I couldn't go because I was broke. He gave me his phone numbr so I texted him letting him know I couldn't go. He then called me. I was quite hesitant to pick up but I did. We talked and I let him know I was too broke etc etc. Since then we have been calling each other on the phone. Not alot but just enough. He's travelled out of the country so hes been quite busy and he's also become the president of the school so I don't get to talk to him as often as I used to. Benga's expressed to me that he would like to meet me still even though we couldn't hit up the concerts. I told him that sounded cool but it was hard because I donot have a car and evrything so it is hard for me to get there.
Benga's quite good looking to me and seems to be a nice guy(emphasis on seems! lol). Quite intelligent and blah blah so I guess I had a bit of a crush on him (I'm known for having many crushes! ahah) but it hasn't been a real big issue because I just thought it was one sided. But now I'm starting to think maybe he likes me? During one of our phone convos he asks me to hold on so he can talk to his Haitian friend (while i can hear the whole convo)who speaks French mostly but speaks only a teensy bit of English. HE was visiting Benga so he had to give him directions in French to his house. After he gets off the phone with his haitian friend he then starts talking to me in French. He starts ramblign off of this stuff though he knows I speak NO french! After he stopped talking I was like can you please translate. He told me that he thought I was really nice n sweet, very pretty and that he really wanted to meet me. I said thanks and whatnot and we kept on talking then got off the phone since his Haitian friend would be there soon. At like 1am that morning I get a text from Benga saying "do you believe what I told you". In my sleepy state I had no clue what he was talking about so I sent back sayin' "umm what part of our convo are you talkin bout?". I didn't get a response all that day so I called him at night and asked him wht he was talking about. He sounded a bit suprised that I called and he said "sorry about that my friend that came to visit sent that". I said ok then we got off the phone after a few more words. THe thing is is that he didn't sound like himself he sounded like he was lying. I know he was because his friend that he claims that wrote it couldn't have composed this perfectly written text in english. I never brought this up but we kept talking whenever and he began calling me names like "nena" which is a term of endearment in Spanish and told me how he has alot of friends that are girls but how he is always just the friend. He even sent me some older hip hop song that related to the issue. To my knowlledge throughtout all this time he has remained single...
Fastforward two days ago I texted him askin him what he was up to n how he was doing. In one of my responses I called him "nene" (male equivalent to nena) and the message I got from him was "so what's up with you and me baby" . That shocked the hell out of me cuz he NEVER talks like this so I wasn't sure what to type. something told me to keep it neutral so I typed " I don't know. That was out of nowhere". HE then replied saying "sorry, my homegirl took my phone, she's silly". Of course I was pissed thinking of all the things I could have typed n how embarassing thar couldve been. I told him that it seems alot of his friends do that. and that when i text him next type i hope that's who im actually talking to and told him to have a good night and id talk to him later. i talked ot him on the phone later that night with basic convo and he told me he still couldn't believe that we hadn't met. I told him I didn't want him to think that I dind't want to meet him just cuz I've never been able to come to his parties. and i had invited him with me and some friends but he said that it would consume too much gas (the location we were going to was about 20 to 30 minutes south of where i live. i already live about 20 to 30 minutes from him. and don't forget the la traaffic). He's confusing since either way it goes either from where i am or where he is it'll be too much gas. Anyways, he has alot of parties so next time I think me and my frineds are goign to drop by for like 20 minutes to meet him etc.
Should I just not bother meeting him? Am I crazy thinking he does he like me? I'm even wondering if it was HIM who sent that message (maybe drunk|) and wanted to see what i would respond with. I'm just confused. Any insight would be great ladies!!!
Hey ladies and gents,
I have a question and thought you guys would be able to help me out hopefully. Ok, so there's this guy (let's call him) Benga. Benga is a friend of a friend that originally sent me a msg in 06 or 05 saying that he was sending me a msg cuz he liked my profile and that I didn't mind going against the grain and that he had seen me on his friend's (let's call him Jorge) top 24. He said that he knew Jorge from school which I didn't believe so I sent JOrge a message and he actually did know him. Jorge and Benga are not necessarily best buds but would be at the sam parties and chat around campus. This basically confirmed that Benga was NOT crazy. I added Benga as a friend and he told me thanks cuz he said he was too shy meaning that he had never really added people on myspace he didn't know in real life. We then started talking on aim alot maybe like a year. He invited me to some concerts through myspace during the summer but I couldn't go because I was broke. He gave me his phone numbr so I texted him letting him know I couldn't go. He then called me. I was quite hesitant to pick up but I did. We talked and I let him know I was too broke etc etc. Since then we have been calling each other on the phone. Not alot but just enough. He's travelled out of the country so hes been quite busy and he's also become the president of the school so I don't get to talk to him as often as I used to. Benga's expressed to me that he would like to meet me still even though we couldn't hit up the concerts. I told him that sounded cool but it was hard because I donot have a car and evrything so it is hard for me to get there.
Benga's quite good looking to me and seems to be a nice guy(emphasis on seems! lol). Quite intelligent and blah blah so I guess I had a bit of a crush on him (I'm known for having many crushes! ahah) but it hasn't been a real big issue because I just thought it was one sided. But now I'm starting to think maybe he likes me? During one of our phone convos he asks me to hold on so he can talk to his Haitian friend (while i can hear the whole convo)who speaks French mostly but speaks only a teensy bit of English. HE was visiting Benga so he had to give him directions in French to his house. After he gets off the phone with his haitian friend he then starts talking to me in French. He starts ramblign off of this stuff though he knows I speak NO french! After he stopped talking I was like can you please translate. He told me that he thought I was really nice n sweet, very pretty and that he really wanted to meet me. I said thanks and whatnot and we kept on talking then got off the phone since his Haitian friend would be there soon. At like 1am that morning I get a text from Benga saying "do you believe what I told you". In my sleepy state I had no clue what he was talking about so I sent back sayin' "umm what part of our convo are you talkin bout?". I didn't get a response all that day so I called him at night and asked him wht he was talking about. He sounded a bit suprised that I called and he said "sorry about that my friend that came to visit sent that". I said ok then we got off the phone after a few more words. THe thing is is that he didn't sound like himself he sounded like he was lying. I know he was because his friend that he claims that wrote it couldn't have composed this perfectly written text in english. I never brought this up but we kept talking whenever and he began calling me names like "nena" which is a term of endearment in Spanish and told me how he has alot of friends that are girls but how he is always just the friend. He even sent me some older hip hop song that related to the issue. To my knowlledge throughtout all this time he has remained single...
Fastforward two days ago I texted him askin him what he was up to n how he was doing. In one of my responses I called him "nene" (male equivalent to nena) and the message I got from him was "so what's up with you and me baby" . That shocked the hell out of me cuz he NEVER talks like this so I wasn't sure what to type. something told me to keep it neutral so I typed " I don't know. That was out of nowhere". HE then replied saying "sorry, my homegirl took my phone, she's silly". Of course I was pissed thinking of all the things I could have typed n how embarassing thar couldve been. I told him that it seems alot of his friends do that. and that when i text him next type i hope that's who im actually talking to and told him to have a good night and id talk to him later. i talked ot him on the phone later that night with basic convo and he told me he still couldn't believe that we hadn't met. I told him I didn't want him to think that I dind't want to meet him just cuz I've never been able to come to his parties. and i had invited him with me and some friends but he said that it would consume too much gas (the location we were going to was about 20 to 30 minutes south of where i live. i already live about 20 to 30 minutes from him. and don't forget the la traaffic). He's confusing since either way it goes either from where i am or where he is it'll be too much gas. Anyways, he has alot of parties so next time I think me and my frineds are goign to drop by for like 20 minutes to meet him etc.
Should I just not bother meeting him? Am I crazy thinking he does he like me? I'm even wondering if it was HIM who sent that message (maybe drunk|) and wanted to see what i would respond with. I'm just confused. Any insight would be great ladies!!!
