Re: How to be single and love it...I need advice please :/
I don't agree with the suggestions of "love yourself and everything will be ok" or "when you're truly happy with yourself, life will fall into place and magic will happen". I think things like this are very easy to say when you're in a relationship, or are/have been in multiple relationships throughout your life. I think we should all learn to be comfortable with ourselves, single or not. But unless you know what it's like to be single for a very long time, advice like that is a bit wide of the mark.
It's possible to be comfortable, confident, self-fulfilled, love yourself and enjoy life, yet still feel "lonely" when you're experiencing protracted singleness. When you reach a stage in life when all your contemporaries are with somebody, and you are yet to experience that. When you go on dates that don't materialise. When you wonder whether your time will ever come. I don't think there is anybody, comfortable, self-loving, confident or not, who wouldn't have such feelings if they had been single for so long.
Some people have not been single for long enough to know what that feels like; some people feel lonely 1 month after a break-up and jump into another relationship with someone else just because they don't want to be alone. That's not cool.
I think OP that you're perfectly justified in feeling the way you do. We were created for community and relationship, there is nothing abnormal about wanting to have "somebody". You don't have to totally love being single. I do believe however, that you shouldn't let it get you down. Remain optimistic. Find new ways of meeting new people. Don't compare yourselves to others: you never know what compromises, struggles or challenges they have had to endure for the sake of their relationships, possibly things which you aren't willing to. Don't berate yourself: treat every date you've been on as a success, in that you were approached, asked, and you agreed because there was something interesting enough for you in it. It only takes one....to get it right and go the distance. And when you have that one (right date, right person, right time, right opportunity), then that's the end of your dating story. So don't give up!