Proper etiquette, maybe I was out of line?
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sweetbabyblue
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I would be real pissed too. I hide my food all over my room lol.
But if I were you I would've asked your fiance to ask for the coke and breadrolls because it's easier for family to tell off each other than for you as more of an outsider.
I am very picky about people using my stuff, I left my expensive shampoo out once when I went on holidays and it was gone when I came back a few weeks later. I was not happy at all.
But if I were you I would've asked your fiance to ask for the coke and breadrolls because it's easier for family to tell off each other than for you as more of an outsider.
I am very picky about people using my stuff, I left my expensive shampoo out once when I went on holidays and it was gone when I came back a few weeks later. I was not happy at all.
ratmist
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If you can't reason with the brother, talk to Nick and get him to understand that this is a point of principle, not a point about food. Tell him you feel your brother is being inconsiderate and rude, and you'd like that behaviour to stop and never be repeated. Get Nick on your side first, otherwise I get the feeling that so long as the brother thinks Nick is okay with it, he'll continue doing whatever he wants, regardless of whatever tension or conflict it inflicts in your relationship.
And you end up looking like a petty b*tch, which is really unfair.
And you end up looking like a petty b*tch, which is really unfair.
urbanlilyfairy
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omg i don't mean you silly lolz ../bonk or becca lol z..i mean like some random person ..you not some random person !
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omg i don't mean you silly lolz ../bonk or becca lol z..i mean like some random person ..you not some random person !
Krasevayadancer
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In your situation I would be beyond pissed. If I buy something for myself, I don't care who you are (with the exception of my parents) Freaking ask if you want something! I am always quick to offer my stuff up but if I don't, don't just take it.
laperle
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My mom is very concerned about this grabbing food from other people's fridge thing. She doesn't even open my grandparents fridge if one of them give her permission. The same goes with me.
But I think I'm even worse because I really value MY things, I care.
My brother just goes into family's fridges and help himself (and he eats a lot!). We had the same education! And, believe me: I'm the bitch and he's the good guy in other people's eyes.
I don't care. I just make sure everybody knows how I dislike people messing with my stuff without permission.
Bottom line: I think you'r fiance was upset just because you complained. I'm sure he knows how you are and would replace stuff later for you. Anyway, you have the right to be ULTRA angry about the whole thing. Next time, you give your fiance a list to fill the fridge before his family members come for a visit (and make sure your cokes are hidden!)
But I think I'm even worse because I really value MY things, I care.
My brother just goes into family's fridges and help himself (and he eats a lot!). We had the same education! And, believe me: I'm the bitch and he's the good guy in other people's eyes.
I don't care. I just make sure everybody knows how I dislike people messing with my stuff without permission.
Bottom line: I think you'r fiance was upset just because you complained. I'm sure he knows how you are and would replace stuff later for you. Anyway, you have the right to be ULTRA angry about the whole thing. Next time, you give your fiance a list to fill the fridge before his family members come for a visit (and make sure your cokes are hidden!)
MiCHiE
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I don't blame you for getting upset. However, you know what kind of people you're dealing with. Be prepared. If you can't/won't tell them to stay out of your fridge, you should move your belongings for the time being. I do have one question. What did you prepare for them besides popcorn? You said your fiance and yourself had already eaten, bu what about your guests? I'm not expecting you to feed them a meal, but if you extend an invitation to someone who you're expecting to be at your house for up to an hour or more, you should offer them a drink, IMO. I always think of the worse that could possibly happen and prepare. I've hid my Starbuck's fraps and even streamlined drinks in the fridge because of "help themselvers". Just a thought.
Mabelle
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the only person allowed to go into my fridge without asking is my boyfriend. He's pretty much become to adopted son, so it's ok. But he has sense enough not to drink 3 cokes and eat 10 pizza rolls.
I don't touch anyone's food without asking (aside from my boyfriend's! it's only fair. plus i buy groceries for him too). Not my best friend of 15 years, not my grandmothers, no ones.
I really think you and you're boyfriend need to talk this through. Whether he feels the same as you or not, you need to be on the same page as to what to do when he's over.
I do think you might have been a bit over the top is saying how mcuhe owes you and so on. I think you could have said something a bit more tactful/subtle. how about, wow, you really did help yourself to all of my food didn't you? Looks like i need to go buy more groceries. Imo, that is better than You owe me ten bucks for the pizza rolls and 4 $ for the coke, pay up!
It's a rough situation... family is hard like that especially when it's not you're family. Either way, talk it through with you're man. If you're not on the same page, and this happens again, you're likely to loose you're shit doubly, then you'll look like a crazy woman. thats no good for buisness.
I don't touch anyone's food without asking (aside from my boyfriend's! it's only fair. plus i buy groceries for him too). Not my best friend of 15 years, not my grandmothers, no ones.
I really think you and you're boyfriend need to talk this through. Whether he feels the same as you or not, you need to be on the same page as to what to do when he's over.
I do think you might have been a bit over the top is saying how mcuhe owes you and so on. I think you could have said something a bit more tactful/subtle. how about, wow, you really did help yourself to all of my food didn't you? Looks like i need to go buy more groceries. Imo, that is better than You owe me ten bucks for the pizza rolls and 4 $ for the coke, pay up!
It's a rough situation... family is hard like that especially when it's not you're family. Either way, talk it through with you're man. If you're not on the same page, and this happens again, you're likely to loose you're shit doubly, then you'll look like a crazy woman. thats no good for buisness.
