Laverne
Member
I'm in a three-year relationship and I just do not know what to do. Here's a short story of what happened so far:
We met when I was 21. I had finished college and I had a job that I loved. I just got my own appartment and everything was going really well. We got along really wel and he moved in with me after 4 months. So far so good..
Two months later he told me he had to move for his work. He has his own company and it was located in another city, 3 hours from where we lived. He asked me to come with him, which I did.
So I gave up my dream job and apartment for him, and we bought a house in the other city. (I had only been there twice, and really didn't know what I was getting into). I had six months to find another job there, and ended up getting a job which I didn't like and was way below my level. I hated it and ended up at home with a burnout.
When I finally recovered from the burnout I went back to college. I wanted to get a higher education so I could get a better job. He was really nice about it and he said that he would support me.
I'm almost done now with my first year, and I realized that this just wasn't working for me. I wanted to study something completely different, and that's where the trouble started.
The University I want to go to is in another city, 3,5 hours from where we live. That means I would have to get a space to live there, and we would only see each other in the weekends.
For me, the sacrifice is worth it, but he sees it as taking a step back in our relationship, and wants to talk me out of it. We had a few fights about this because I really think it is unfair of him to not support me after everything I've given up to be with him.
I just don't know what to do. I really want to go to university, but I don't want to risk losing our relationship..
(Sorry if this doesn't make any sense, I'm just not good at putting this sort of thing on paper.. )
We met when I was 21. I had finished college and I had a job that I loved. I just got my own appartment and everything was going really well. We got along really wel and he moved in with me after 4 months. So far so good..
Two months later he told me he had to move for his work. He has his own company and it was located in another city, 3 hours from where we lived. He asked me to come with him, which I did.
So I gave up my dream job and apartment for him, and we bought a house in the other city. (I had only been there twice, and really didn't know what I was getting into). I had six months to find another job there, and ended up getting a job which I didn't like and was way below my level. I hated it and ended up at home with a burnout.
When I finally recovered from the burnout I went back to college. I wanted to get a higher education so I could get a better job. He was really nice about it and he said that he would support me.
I'm almost done now with my first year, and I realized that this just wasn't working for me. I wanted to study something completely different, and that's where the trouble started.
The University I want to go to is in another city, 3,5 hours from where we live. That means I would have to get a space to live there, and we would only see each other in the weekends.
For me, the sacrifice is worth it, but he sees it as taking a step back in our relationship, and wants to talk me out of it. We had a few fights about this because I really think it is unfair of him to not support me after everything I've given up to be with him.
I just don't know what to do. I really want to go to university, but I don't want to risk losing our relationship..
(Sorry if this doesn't make any sense, I'm just not good at putting this sort of thing on paper.. )
