Resolution "LOW-BUY" 2014! Who wants to play?

[Kaori]

Kitty is okay now - was a bit sick this morning, but still eating a drinking, so that's a good sign. She's been acting pretty normal (not depressed) so that's making me happy too! Thank you for your thoughts and kind words - I do feel helpless, and I can't even explain to her what's wrong of course, so it's a tough one!
Thank you @Naynadine!
I'm loving this idea of a bye box - awesome! That way you can get it out of your stash immediately and see if you want to reach for it again. Love this idea!

@SleepingBeauty - girl, you have my empathy and I'm thinking of you! Such a difficult thing. I truly hope you get those positive results back and your doggie is w/a clean bill of health! Our pets become such a part of our families and it's impossible to imagine life without them. xo

I know what you mean - I haven't put on makeup for a few days and I think it's became I'm feeling very 'not normal'. Ughhhh....

@HerGreyness - you ROCK. I don't even know how to describe your posts. I feel like you are a friend I've known for a long time and we are having a cup of coffee, just chatting away. Your guy Bert sounds like a wonderful man.

I sometimes feel like my expectations of the people around me are constantly not met - and that's probably because my expectations are too high. it's like setting yourself up for disappointment. I have lost so many friends over the years because of this - but do I regret it? The jury is still out on that one. I think having high standards means that you get a 'higher quality' person as a friend, but on the other side of that, high expectations means that many times people will falter below those expectations and disappoint you. Sometimes I look around and all of my friends are gone. It is probably to do with the life stages that we are at - everyone is getting married, having babies, getting into their careers - so friendships take a back seat. I love my friendships where I can pick up right where we left off without skipping a beat, even if I haven't seen them in years or talked to them in ages. Those are fantastic.

So much food for thought!

Don't expect something from other people or from life, you will always be disappointed! Just take them/life as they are/come and you will be sometimes nicely surprised (But that doesn't mean to be friends with bad people either!)

 

[User38]

Yayyyyyy!!!!! I think it's a happy ending (for now) and I'm loving it!!!!! And yes I found BP I have way too many friends at Mac stores and one of them flagged it for me

Ty.

for now!.. I take each day as it comes.. lol. But we (and I say we because he has stuck by me as a friend thru some of the most difficult times in my life - and has not walked out when I got angry at him)..

so happy you got your BP ..

 

[lipstickaddict]

Where are you at in Canada? I'm near Vancouver Everyone was so hopped up on the game yesterday, eh? uhhh Canadian-isms.

In other news, I've used my HG Blush once and I didn't like it. Going to try one more time and if I still don't like it, it's going back!

Fell off the friend-wagon completely with my BFF, so that's a disaster. Also found out today that my kitty has kidney failure/disease at a late stage, so for most of the day I've been crying and feeling really down.

Yesterday was my 30th birthday, so I was convinced things would get better - and then I got that call today, and I'm pretty distraught. Trying to keep my head up and stay positive, as she's not in any visible pain and seems in good spirits. Going to the vet again on Saturday to discuss everything more in depth and to make sure we are doing right by our sweetie. We adopted a senior cat, so I knew the risks involved in loving an 'old lady' cat, but it can't be helped - we just love her so much!

I love reading everyone's upbeat posts - it makes me feel good! Thanks ladies and keep moving forward!

Just wanted to say hello! I'm near Vancouver too--well I live in Burnaby actually. I love that we could be just around the corner from one another and not even know it! And a huge congrats on your birthday! Enjoy your 30's to the fullest---it is a really great time in life! I'm almost into my 40's and not too sure about that--haha!
So glad to hear that your cat is doing better! Our pets are so undeniably important to our lives. I am SO thankful for my two pups and the joy they bring every day. Hoping your kitty makes a speedy recovery

 

[User38]

Kitty is okay now - was a bit sick this morning, but still eating a drinking, so that's a good sign. She's been acting pretty normal (not depressed) so that's making me happy too! Thank you for your thoughts and kind words - I do feel helpless, and I can't even explain to her what's wrong of course, so it's a tough one!
Thank you @Naynadine!
I'm loving this idea of a bye box - awesome! That way you can get it out of your stash immediately and see if you want to reach for it again. Love this idea!

@SleepingBeauty - girl, you have my empathy and I'm thinking of you! Such a difficult thing. I truly hope you get those positive results back and your doggie is w/a clean bill of health! Our pets become such a part of our families and it's impossible to imagine life without them. xo

I know what you mean - I haven't put on makeup for a few days and I think it's became I'm feeling very 'not normal'. Ughhhh....

@HerGreyness - you ROCK. I don't even know how to describe your posts. I feel like you are a friend I've known for a long time and we are having a cup of coffee, just chatting away. Your guy Bert sounds like a wonderful man.

I sometimes feel like my expectations of the people around me are constantly not met - and that's probably because my expectations are too high. it's like setting yourself up for disappointment. I have lost so many friends over the years because of this - but do I regret it? The jury is still out on that one. I think having high standards means that you get a 'higher quality' person as a friend, but on the other side of that, high expectations means that many times people will falter below those expectations and disappoint you. Sometimes I look around and all of my friends are gone. It is probably to do with the life stages that we are at - everyone is getting married, having babies, getting into their careers - so friendships take a back seat. I love my friendships where I can pick up right where we left off without skipping a beat, even if I haven't seen them in years or talked to them in ages. Those are fantastic.

So much food for thought!

thank you so much Glittery.. If the only thing I can do here is share my life experiences -- even more than makeup, I will feel like I did something right for some really wonderful ladies.

who have been kind and wonderful to me when I most needed it.

I am sorry to hear about your kitty -- it's so hard to deal with any kind of illness, whether it's our pets or humans...it breaks our hearts. My big boy Konan died a year ago tomorrow.. but he was sick for awhile from serious heart disease (he was about 14). I still miss both my puppies.

In life we have to learn to slip on the slippery slopes and get up with some grace -- and if we happen to break our legs or our hearts, deal with that too.

best of luck

xoxox

 

[lipstickaddict]

thank you so much Glittery.. If the only thing I can do here is share my life experiences -- even more than makeup, I will feel like I did something right for some really wonderful ladies.

who have been kind and wonderful to me when I most needed it.

I am sorry to hear about your kitty -- it's so hard to deal with any kind of illness, whether it's our pets or humans...it breaks our hearts. My big boy Konan died a year ago tomorrow.. but he was sick for awhile from serious heart disease (he was about 14). I still miss both my puppies.

In life we have to learn to slip on the slippery slopes and get up with some grace -- and if we happen to break our legs or our hearts, deal with that too.

best of luck

xoxox

So very well said HerGreyness, and undeniably true. I just want to thank you so much for sharing your life experiences and for all of your wisdom and encouragement. It means a lot to so many of us---even those who don't openly share the pain we are going through. I was deeply moved by your post. Thank you.

 

[Audrey C]

I sometimes feel like my expectations of the people around me are constantly not met - and that's probably because my expectations are too high. it's like setting yourself up for disappointment. I have lost so many friends over the years because of this - but do I regret it? The jury is still out on that one. I think having high standards means that you get a 'higher quality' person as a friend, but on the other side of that, high expectations means that many times people will falter below those expectations and disappoint you. Sometimes I look around and all of my friends are gone. It is probably to do with the life stages that we are at - everyone is getting married, having babies, getting into their careers - so friendships take a back seat. I love my friendships where I can pick up right where we left off without skipping a beat, even if I haven't seen them in years or talked to them in ages. Those are fantastic.

So much food for thought!

This was an issue for me when I was younger, but it isn't now. I can remember being hurt whenever people failed to do something for me that I would have done for them. I felt let down a lot. I've come to realize that people display love and friendship in different ones (see 'love languages') and that just because someone doesn't respond the way I expected or wanted them to doesn't mean that they don't care. It's usually about them and what they're facing in their own lives, not about me.

Now I'm the one who is crazy busy (senior role that causes me to work very long hours, three kids, a husband, a resident parent) and I'm the one who neglects far too many of the people I love in my life. I just found out yesterday that my best friend (forty-year friendship - since kindergarten) had three tumours removed from her breast at the end of January and I didn't even know since I hadn't spoken to her since Christmas.

She could have felt betrayed and let down, but she's also consumed by her life and knows that we don't touch base nearly as often as we both wish we could. When we do, it's like no time has passed and we can always finish each other's sentences and know what the other is thinking. I love her to death - she's the closest thing to a sister I have. She was my maid of honour and is my first-borns Godmother, but sometimes 2-3 months go by without us talking because we live in different cities and just get so wrapped up in the pace of our own lives that we don't always take the time to reach out. If I called her every time I think about her we'd be back to chatting constantly.

When we were teens we lived in each other's houses and were both inconsolable when I left the city of my birth to be with my now husband. Over the years (decades) our friendship has evolved. I can't walk to her house for tea every night before I go to bed now like I could from my first apartment, but I'll always love her and consider my best friend. It was hard when she got married first and had a child because her son became her all consuming focus and while I understood intellectually, I didn't really get it. Not until I had my own. We've disappointed each other more times over the years than I could count (without either of us meaning any harm), but it's gotten to the point that we no longer really have expectations of each other but just enjoy the time we do share. I've made other friendships over the years, but I'll never be able to replace that one and I wouldn't even want to try.

Sorry for writing a book, but your comment really resonated with me. If you're feeling like you're constantly disappointed by people then yes; maybe your expectations are too high (assuming that you're not just hanging around with train wrecks, but I doubt it). We're human and we're all flawed and there's no question that we all disappoint those who love us sometimes. I am grateful that the people in my life love me despite my flaws, because if they didn't I'd be very alone.

 

[Bcteagirl]

Amazing stories everybody, hang in there.

Also, who knew there would be so many Canadians in this thread! Used to be from Northern BC, recently moved to Toronto and began accumulating cosmetics at too fast a pace lol.

 

[User38]

I think that's what this thread is about.. hanging on and giving each other a helping word of advice or to just listen to each other.

I wish this thread had existed when I lost my husband four years ago.. I posted about his sudden death in a MAC thread -- but the ladies were so wonderful -- I got about 200 letters from them individually and in the form of a thread. It helped me so much to know there were people, who were almost strangers to me, who held out their virtual arms to me when I most needed it.

I am so grateful to the girls from Specktra.

love all of you,

 

[Glitteryvegas]

Amazing stories everybody, hang in there.

Also, who knew there would be so many Canadians in this thread! Used to be from Northern BC, recently moved to Toronto and began accumulating cosmetics at too fast a pace lol.

Hey! Where in N. BC? My brother lives near 100 Mile

 

[veronikawithak]

@Audrey C and @HerGreyness, thank you for such thoughtful and inspirational posts. Always a pleasure to read your views on life as well as makeup.

My philosophy on friendships and relationships is that in the end you are the only person who can make yourself truly happy. When you allow other people to become your source of happiness, it's simply inevitable that you'll be let down at some point. I don't mean that in a cynical way, but as beautiful as humans are sometimes we can also be careless, forgetful, inconsiderate.. even when we don't mean to be. I think it's important to have confidence and strength in yourself so you are able to weather the storms without relying on others. If you do have positive people around you to help you board up the windows, even better.

I have one friend who is particularly sensitive to how others perceive him. He needs constant reassurance from others and so he lacks the emotional foundation to be able to contribute back into his relationships as much as he takes out of them. As a result, he drains his partners emotionally until they are forced to leave him to get their needs met. He's always texting me about how he misses this or that woman.. But he doesn't miss the woman, he misses how being with her madehim feel.. Two very different things. It really consumes his life in a negative way to the point that he has a lot of anxiety over it. He's one of those people who I think will always be unsatisfied with being alone..

I place a lot of value on my relationship and my friendships, but I also think it's important to limit the amount of negativity in life. If there are people who aren't contributing as much as they're taking out, sometimes it's better to let them go. I don't ever want to be dragged kicking and screaming from someone's life.. If someone really values you, you'll know because they'll reciprocate your efforts to keep the friendship. Since I deleted Facebook last year I've been able to keep in touch with my closest friends that much better.. and I no longer feel the constant need for the approval of my acquaintances. Funny how that works..

One of my favorite sayings is this: "In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you." All things I'm still working towards.. but I especially love the last one!

 

[PixieDancer]

I have been swamped with work and home life "stuff" but I make sure to "like" every post to let you all know that I've read every single one! There are WAY too many posts to quote because there are just so many I would want to respond to... but above all the things I'd want to say... I am so happy we all have this place to come and be a support system for each other. It's amazing to see the support go far beyond makeup and surface complaints. It goes much deeper, and I think that's what makes this such a special place. Even though we may be separated by miles or even continents, even though we will most likely never meet face to face... we are all connected. And for many of us, this is the place we go everyday... just to feel a part of something bigger than ourselves. A place we know we share a common bond. My heart, thoughts, and prayers go out to you all. Those celebrating victories, those going through transitions, and those suffering through pain and hardships. Know you are cared about, even if I can't give you a hug in person!

 

[Beautybuyer]

I'm also currently swamped. Both my toddlers are sick the hubby has had extreme dental work on and once again I'm steps from the looney bin... Anyhow. I'm sorry some of you ladies are having a hard time!! And [@]Spanky[/@] it's always nice to see your presence! Hang in there. [@]HerGreyness[/@] I agree. You're definitely one cool woman. I'm still young, still in my twenties. But it seems like my life experiences are starting to happen. You know Those ones that change your outlook and mindset on things. I've learned in the past few years age is certainly JUST a number. My husband and I are ten years apart and I swear you'd think our ages were reversed MOST of the time. We've won a few work trips and we're always the youngest people and I've partied and hung out with people old enough to be my parents. They were super cool the main difference I felt between us was just life experiences and wisdom. I certainly don't look at older people the same. I realize most of them are just older on the outside, maybe even more mature, but still that same 20-30 year old inside. I now have friends of ALL ages! It also really helped my relationship with my mom. I definitely understand her crazy personality a lot better! Lol Only your outlook on life can truly bring you happiness, as it is a state of mind. But I feel forgiveness and friendship are also beautiful things to have in life. I sure wish I would have taken better care of ones lost along the way.

 

[Naynadine]

oh kids.. I wish I could say something magical to all of you. It makes me sad that you are so young -- yes, 30 is young. You are beginning your maturity as women and should not feel that any man, illness or lack of "having done" or not done something in life is going to determine what happens in the future.

I have survived to this ripe old age.. I will be 54 next year. I have buried husbands, sisters, aunts, my two dogs and many many friends and relatives. It seems the older I get the less people I have around me or near me. It's quite lonely. I made friends with a lovely lady -- and because I was going through my "I hate the world and I hate everybody" phase after my little pup died, she never wrote me back -- ever to this day. It hurt me a great deal and the more I analyzed it, the more I realized that true friends can get mad at each other (in this case there was none of that just a walking away with no explanation), but that FORGIVENESS is an essential element of human beings. If any person is not capable of forgiving and moving forward, they are not worth the effort. So, I moved on, and forgot her totally. I met "Bert" 2 years ago -- he was a consulting MD on my sister's cancer and he became a good friend and gave me much consolation. When she passed, he was always there for me but he is quite goodlooking and women give him the eyeball constantly. I guess I felt that if I got into any relationship with him I would have a broken heart. And at that time, I probably would have. So I left him and went back to Europe and my work, my exercise, my life -- and MORE MAKEUP! I too survived a serious double spinal chord surgery in which I was left in a wheel chair for almost a year in 2008 -- and only because my late husband was so supportive was I able to overcome the physical pain of rehabilitation. I joined Specktra when I was still in recovery from my surgeries.

so, young ladies -- while you are going through your thirties, think you could be 60 (like me) someday, and you will be grateful for every day you are alive -- and that you have your health, loved ones, and your hopes for the future which will surely be amazing. Never ever give up.

this is a great group, and a great thread for support.

hang on, hang tough, and plod.

HerGreyness, I absolutely love reading your posts. They always motivate me and make me feel better. Thank you so much for sharing!

 

[SleepingBeauty]

Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers, ladies!

They help me a lot not to give up too quickly. We'll get the results in about a week but he's good for now. We had a quiet night and the vet said that he recovered quickly from the surgery. He's going to be the most spoiled pup ever in the next few months.

HerGreyness - You are truly a beautiful woman - inside and outside (I saw your picture in one of the other threads - think it was the one about the CC collection). It is amazing that you're so strong even though you've suffered so many hardships in your life. You are an inspiration!

 

[Bcteagirl]

Quote: Originally Posted by Glitteryvegas
Hey! Where in N. BC? My brother lives near 100 Mile

I used to live in PG!

 

[veronikawithak]

I used to live in PG!

Same!

 

[User38]

@Bcteagirl thank you so much for your sweet words.. they are much appreciated. I send you good thoughts and hope that the pup gets well and is spoiled rotten. Life has a way of teaching us.. hard lessons, but it's all in what we do learn and how we handle it that we can be happy.

big hugs

 

[josephine90]

We decided to go to disneyworld in December! Yes, it will be my first time lol. I'm going on a super low buy till then , I need all the support I can get! Oh and if you have any tips for disney, let me know, I'm trying to plan it but there's a lot of stuff!

 

[LouGarner]

We decided to go to disneyworld in December! Yes, it will be my first time lol. I'm going on a super low buy till then , I need all the support I can get! Oh and if you have any tips for disney, let me know, I'm trying to plan it but there's a lot of stuff!

that is awesome. I haven't been to Disney but my children have. I heard it is so much fun.

 

[Audrey C]

We decided to go to disneyworld in December! Yes, it will be my first time lol. I'm going on a super low buy till then , I need all the support I can get! Oh and if you have any tips for disney, let me know, I'm trying to plan it but there's a lot of stuff!

That's exciting! My tips are to stay on site at inexpensive All Star properties and to take advantage of early entry. You can often hit most of the big rides in that hour if you power through. Also, make sure to Fastpass! We like the meal plan and book lots of special or character dinners with the plan. Makes it worth buying. Reserve the dinners as early as possible since they can book out weeks in advance. I just booked our flights for a two week trip to the UK this summer. Not many lipsticks are more important to me than enjoying dinner at a pub with my 17 year-old son while he has his first beer (legal to boot)! I'll buy memories over stuff any day.