Resolution "LOW-BUY" 2014! Who wants to play?

[Maris Crane]

Quote:Originally Posted by PixieDancer

Welcome back @janette9687! Looks like you're doing a great job! Good for you! And CONGRATS on the move-in with the BF!! Glad he understands your "little thing!" HeeHee



As for me... Confession time.
Nothing too major, but I'm feeling conflicted.
I have been doing really well with my collection purge and decided to let myself use some of my sale money to get 2 NARS Audacious lipsicks. Problem is, there are just SOOOOOO many shades to choose from. And I tried to be really responsible and research so I wouldn't buy close dupes. Well, THAT led to me buying 4 instead of 2. Now I know the shades I picked are unique to things I already own. And I went with Fall Season shades that I will use right now. Which could potentially help me weed out and purge more things from my currant stash that may not be getting love due to these new additions. And I DO get a discount at NARS, so it wasn't too horrible.
BUT... I hate that I'm making excuses...
I should have stuck to my 2 limit. And I'm disappointed that I hauled two too many lippies. I think I will force myself to part with at least 2 more lipsticks from my stash before the NARS ones arrive. It's probably the only way to get past the nagging feeling of guilt.

Just a word of warning. DON'T "research" the NARS Audacious lipsticks. Just don't. They are expensive. Not a lot of product.
IF you fall victim to them. Just pick a shade you think you'll like. You most likely will. They all got great reviews and look to be nice quality. Just DON'T research swatches. OR you'll end up with more! And in some cases LOTS more. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!!

In my Palette Challenge news:
No new updates since I haven't worn any eyeshadow the last 2 days. Kept things pretty simple.
I did use my Revlon Matte Balm in Elusive, which made me feel good about skipping MAC Hoop. I already had the Revlon one before Hoop came out. And I resisted when they said Elusive was a dupe. The old me would have bought Hoop anyways. But the new me skipped it! And now, everytime I use Elusive I feel good for holding my ground and having a cheaper, just-as-good version of another lippie!



OMG. I read Temptalia's reviews and swatches last night - deciding I'd allow myself ONE Audacious lipstick. Now I can't decide between Anita, Julie or Brigitte. The nude/rose shades are all gorgeous! And thanks for the heads up on Hoop and Elusive. I found Elusive turned a bit brighter on me than I would've like, so I can scratch Hoop of off my potential Back 2 MAC list.

 

[PixieDancer]

Welcome back @janette9687! Looks like you're doing a great job! Good for you! And CONGRATS on the move-in with the BF!! Glad he understands your "little thing!" HeeHee



As for me... Confession time.
Nothing too major, but I'm feeling conflicted.
I have been doing really well with my collection purge and decided to let myself use some of my sale money to get 2 NARS Audacious lipsicks. Problem is, there are just SOOOOOO many shades to choose from. And I tried to be really responsible and research so I wouldn't buy close dupes. Well, THAT led to me buying 4 instead of 2. Now I know the shades I picked are unique to things I already own. And I went with Fall Season shades that I will use right now. Which could potentially help me weed out and purge more things from my currant stash that may not be getting love due to these new additions. And I DO get a discount at NARS, so it wasn't too horrible.
BUT... I hate that I'm making excuses...
I should have stuck to my 2 limit. And I'm disappointed that I hauled two too many lippies. I think I will force myself to part with at least 2 more lipsticks from my stash before the NARS ones arrive. It's probably the only way to get past the nagging feeling of guilt.

Just a word of warning. DON'T "research" the NARS Audacious lipsticks. Just don't. They are expensive. Not a lot of product.
IF you fall victim to them. Just pick a shade you think you'll like. You most likely will. They all got great reviews and look to be nice quality. Just DON'T research swatches. OR you'll end up with more! And in some cases LOTS more. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!!

In my Palette Challenge news:
No new updates since I haven't worn any eyeshadow the last 2 days. Kept things pretty simple.
I did use my Revlon Matte Balm in Elusive, which made me feel good about skipping MAC Hoop. I already had the Revlon one before Hoop came out. And I resisted when they said Elusive was a dupe. The old me would have bought Hoop anyways. But the new me skipped it! And now, everytime I use Elusive I feel good for holding my ground and having a cheaper, just-as-good version of another lippie!



OMG. I read Temptalia's reviews and swatches last night - deciding I'd allow myself ONE Audacious lipstick. Now I can't decide between Anita, Julie or Brigitte. The nude/rose shades are all gorgeous!

And thanks for the heads up on Hoop and Elusive. I found Elusive turned a bit brighter on me than I would've like, so I can scratch Hoop of off my potential Back 2 MAC list.

Yeah... It's hard to decide. That's how I got in trouble. I don't think you can go wrong any way you go. Maybe try to test the nude-ish shades out in person. They would be a costly mistake if you chose the wrong shade of nude. I went for some safe Fall colors. Anita seems to be a popular choice... so maybe try that one!

Hoop was Limited Edition. So I'm glad we don't have to hunt it down and pay inflated prices for it. Elusive will do when I'm thinking of Hoop. HeeHee

 

[shellygrrl]

As for me... Confession time. Nothing too major, but I'm feeling conflicted. I have been doing really well with my collection purge and decided to let myself use some of my sale money to get 2 NARS Audacious lipsicks. Problem is, there are just SOOOOOO many shades to choose from. And I tried to be really responsible and research so I wouldn't buy close dupes. Well, THAT led to me buying 4 instead of 2. Now I know the shades I picked are unique to things I already own. And I went with Fall Season shades that I will use right now. Which could potentially help me weed out and purge more things from my currant stash that may not be getting love due to these new additions. And I DO get a discount at NARS, so it wasn't too horrible. BUT... I hate that I'm making excuses... I should have stuck to my 2 limit. And I'm disappointed that I hauled two too many lippies. I think I will force myself to part with at least 2 more lipsticks from my stash before the NARS ones arrive. It's probably the only way to get past the nagging feeling of guilt.

So you bought four lippies instead of your planned two. Just make sure you use them, and do what you need to do to get back on track. :nods:

OMG. I read Temptalia's reviews and swatches last night - deciding I'd allow myself ONE Audacious lipstick. Now I can't decide between Anita, Julie or Brigitte. The nude/rose shades are all gorgeous!

I've got three that I want now: Julie, Marisa, and Dominique -- all shades not represented in my stash. Since they're perm, I'm not in a huge rush to get them, and I definitely wouldn't buy all three at once! Anyhoo, my top tip would be to go for the one shade that's the most unlike what you've got in your existing stash, as you're going for only one.

 

[charlotte366]

@PixieDancer Stop beating yourself up, consider yourself told off!

The fact that you made sure what you purchased was unique to your collection and in shades that you will use this fall is a massive step forward! Think back to what you might have done a year ago, you wouldn't have put that much consideration into the purchase, you would have made sure you didn't get dupes and you would probably have bought more than 4!

Yes you are purging the collection, but minor slip ups will happen, look at the positives that you can see in your changing behaviour not just the negatives!

I have one Audacious lipstick in my basket - Charlotte, 1 for the namesake and 2 I don't have a colour like this so it will be unique. i am also getting more fussy as I purge about formulas, so I want to try one before I jump in with both feet.

Currently waiting to order till pay day, also in my basket is nars eyeshadow primer replacement which I am desperate for! i am still debating on the blush and may swap it out for a replacement of my HG cleanser. i have a £10 reward to use before 2nd Oct so getting a much needed new primer and something else as my October treat.

I am trying to limit the number of things I bring at the moment and have allocated myself 3 things from the holiday collections, only 1 of these slots is definitely taken up at the moment:

• Hourglass blush palette
• Potentially the guerlain holiday palette, but need to see better swatches first - maybe to warm toned for me.
• Probably something for the NARS holiday gift sets, hoping that the rumours of a dual intensity shadow palette are true!

Works been absolutely crazy at the moment so my purge has taken a back seat again, really need to find some time to finish clearing out!

 

[awickedshape]

[@]PixieDancer[/@] these NARS lipsticks came out of nowhere and are causing endless mischief!

 

[Dolly Snow]

@PixieDancer these NARS lipsticks came out of nowhere and are causing endless mischief!

So true @awickedshape

 

[awickedshape]

So true @awickedshape

:sigh:

 

[mel33t]

Alright ladies, need some advice/help/support. Apologies in advance for the long posts. I've been doing really well lately with makeup and other material goods. I'm making sure to use cash with everything (I never use my cc anyway but I wanted more of the feeling of here's $100 for the week. That's it). So far its working and I'm really thinking through my purchases and I've found that sometimes I can just swatch and leave without purchasing. Recently, I've had a bit of a falling out with a friend. We didn't get into a fight or anything like that, honestly we've both just been busy and haven't had time for each other. Completely understandable. We used to date for a few months and agreed it wouldn't work out. This was like two years ago. And it really hurt me, not gonna lie. But I don't have feelings for him in that sense anymore. What hurts me now is that he remained friends with people who hurt me, who I've forgiven and moved on. He's also gotten into the habit of rubbing in how much he makes, where he's going on vacation, how nice his apartment is etc. Its gotten to the point where I've blocked him on social media because I don't want to see the pictures. It even bothers me more because I've literally clawed my way to where I am and he makes significantly more than me and is able to do these things without effort it seems. The last time he talked to me was about a month ago, right before my CPA and he asked me to proofread a paper for him for grad school. No hey, how are you. No how's the CPA studying. Nothing. I called him out and said that I wouldn't help him. He got pissy and whiny about it and we haven't really talked except for a few texts. Again, Nome of which he's asked me about how I'm doing or anything. Its always all about him and advice/favors. Part of me is saying just cut the cord and move on. This kid is seriously an ass hole and I have no clue what I'm holding on to. I'm no longer friends with that group so its not like we are in the same circles. I just don't feel like I deserve this. Bringing this back to makeup, I want to shop. And shop hard. I'm really trying to hold off. I'm doing really well and saving for the holidays and for my own vacation. I've cleaned out my stash again, staying away from Instagram, really playing with all my shadows, etc. But I just feel shitty. How do you guys let go of people? How do you deal with losing a close friend?

 

[Naynadine]

Helloooo Team Low-Buy!

I'm hanging my head in shame for taking a low-buy break for the fall collections and not posting in here for so long. But now it's time to get back on track!

Here's some rambling on what I bought over the last couple of weeks, if anyone's interested...
First, I went a little crazy on evilbay and did some bargin hunting, I bought a couple of things from Clarins, Armani, Shiseido etc. In hindsight I feel a little bad about it, since I didn't really need any of it and the only thing I'm 100% happy with is MAC Uninterrupted. Two of the other itmes arrived with fingerprints in them (a cream blush and a powder blush) even though they were sold as brand new and unused, so that put a little damper on my excitement and I slowed down with my ebay hauling.

Then, MAC fall collections... I bought ALL the blushes, except Pink Sprinkles (and PC which I already have). But I got SY x 2 instead, although I already decided to let the BU go. I also returned Fun Ending, which I didn't like on me, mainly because of the finish. Can't really describe why, but I wasn't feeling it.
Next to Skin I LOVE and wish I had gotten a BU instead of getting Taupe, since that one is very pigmented and I feel like can look muddy on me. I think I'll rather use it as e/s.

I also bought two other items that I ended up returning, which I kinda feel bad about, but they really didn't work for me. One was the Matchmaster concealer which made my skin burn, and a Bare Minerals BB e/s that had glitter particles in it, which I didn't see at all in swatches and it also made my lids feel dry and pretty much like paper.

Adding to that, I bougth the YSL Souffle powder. Had to pay custom fees even though it was from the UK, so that was annyoing since it wasn't cheap to begin with. I also don't like it as much as I hoped I would. Still trying to make it work for me, or else it'll go in my sales/swap thread.

My biggest splurge was my first Tom Ford item, the cheek brush. There was 10€ off and free shipping, so I couldn't resist any longer. It's nice, but to be completely honest, I prefer my Hakuhodos. The TF definitely is great quality, but IMO it's not living up to the hype. I'll rather get more Hakus in the future.
My other purchases were a fragrance, brush cleanser, and I ordered the Lookfantastic Beauty Box. Not a fan of beauty boxes in general, but I was curious about this one, I was hoping for something Nars or some skin care brands I wanted to try anyway. Although none of those brands are in it, I do like it a lot. In case anyone's interested, they have free worldwide shipping and usually some discount codes floating around.

Back into Low-Buy mode I go. All of those latest hauls made me realize that in most cases it's better for me to stick with what I know, brand and product wise. Too often I end up not liking something and going back to my old faves.
My next planned purchase is the Hourglass blush palette which I really want, and then the Nars Audacious l/s in Barbara, but I guess I can take my time with that one. Then I will try to skip everything until MAC's holiday collection (1-2 blushes) and that gorgeous mineralize collection with the knit pattern. Hopefully that one won't release before next year.

The Gucci makeup line is a temptation as well, not gonna lie... Other than that, I think I'll be able to skip all high end holiday collections this year. Woot!

I wanted to get more of the Muji organizers I got some months ago, the smaller ones I want to use for blushes, MES, etc, but they seem to be discontinued / not available online anymore. So that sucks since I only have one of those. :-/

Hope everyone is doing well! Hugs to all. I will try to better keep up with this thread again.

 

[awickedshape]

Alright ladies, need some advice/help/support. Apologies in advance for the long posts. I've been doing really well lately with makeup and other material goods. I'm making sure to use cash with everything (I never use my cc anyway but I wanted more of the feeling of here's $100 for the week. That's it). So far its working and I'm really thinking through my purchases and I've found that sometimes I can just swatch and leave without purchasing. Recently, I've had a bit of a falling out with a friend. We didn't get into a fight or anything like that, honestly we've both just been busy and haven't had time for each other. Completely understandable. We used to date for a few months and agreed it wouldn't work out. This was like two years ago. And it really hurt me, not gonna lie. But I don't have feelings for him in that sense anymore. What hurts me now is that he remained friends with people who hurt me, who I've forgiven and moved on. He's also gotten into the habit of rubbing in how much he makes, where he's going on vacation, how nice his apartment is etc. Its gotten to the point where I've blocked him on social media because I don't want to see the pictures. It even bothers me more because I've literally clawed my way to where I am and he makes significantly more than me and is able to do these things without effort it seems. The last time he talked to me was about a month ago, right before my CPA and he asked me to proofread a paper for him for grad school. No hey, how are you. No how's the CPA studying. Nothing. I called him out and said that I wouldn't help him. He got pissy and whiny about it and we haven't really talked except for a few texts. Again, Nome of which he's asked me about how I'm doing or anything. Its always all about him and advice/favors. Part of me is saying just cut the cord and move on. This kid is seriously an ass hole and I have no clue what I'm holding on to. I'm no longer friends with that group so its not like we are in the same circles. I just don't feel like I deserve this. Bringing this back to makeup, I want to shop. And shop hard. I'm really trying to hold off. I'm doing really well and saving for the holidays and for my own vacation. I've cleaned out my stash again, staying away from Instagram, really playing with all my shadows, etc. But I just feel shitty. How do you guys let go of people? How do you deal with losing a close friend?

Hi I don't mean to meddle. Has he been being a good friend to you?

 

[veronikawithak]

[@]PixieDancer[/@] I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes it's not the amount you went over, it's the fact that you broke a promise to yourself. You should be so proud of how far you've come though! If it makes you feel better, let go of a couple less loved items to make room for the new ones. It's great that you were able to fill in gaps too! Those lipsticks have sucked a lot of people in and they look very worth the hype IMO. But now that you've had a chance to reflect on what happened, don't forget to ENJOY them! Makeup should be something that makes you happy above all.

 

[mel33t]

@awickedshape please meddle! I need help letting this go. He used to be. We used to be very close and would hang out often. I would say around February things started to go south and he would only text me if he needed something. I'm not sure what happened, but at this point I'm sick of it and hurt.

 

[awickedshape]

@awickedshape please meddle! I need help letting this go. He used to be. We used to be very close and would hang out often. I would say around February things started to go south and he would only text me if he needed something. I'm not sure what happened, but at this point I'm sick of it and hurt.

Hi Well I'm sorry to hear that. Do you think you'll want to speak to him about it? It would be good to know if he wants to try to keep you as a friend as opposed to having this distance between you. Relationships between people, romantic, platonic or otherwise, go through these lulls sometimes but if this is a permanent change you might have to let it evolve and be what it will be. Whether you just have to keep it as nodding acquaintances or a work contact etc I hope you can get lots more input. Take your time and think about it, take care of yourself and choose wisely with your shopping list

 

[mel33t]

@awickedshape that is for the advice. I'm not sure if this is a permanent lull or not. I was trying to stay involved and he just didn't seem interested in remaining friends. I'm not sure of talking will do anything at this point, but I could try.

 

[awickedshape]

@awickedshape that is for the advice. I'm not sure if this is a permanent lull or not. I was trying to stay involved and he just didn't seem interested in remaining friends. I'm not sure of talking will do anything at this point, but I could try.

I do hope you have a good resolution!

 

[dodotheextinct]

@mel33t I hope I don't sound condescending but if he is only talks to you because he wants something from you I think you should cut ties or just become as @awickedshape states "nodding acquaintances". I personally believe that friendship is a two-way street where both people support each other even if you aren't in constant contact. I say if you are willing talk to him how you are feeling and if he is still selfish it might be better to just become acquaintances.

In regarding what he posts about how awesome his life is ignore that. You are in a better place and a happier place than he is. Happiness does not equal a high pay cheque, what vacations you took and where you stay. Plus social media is skewed to make anything you do look awesome.

I know how you feel with the negative feelings making you want to go shopping but please know that the feeling will be gone once the storm has passed. Perhaps doing something more productive/enjoyable will help such as studying even more for your CPA exams, reading a good book, a walk in the local park or what else makes you happy.

I hope this helps feel free to PM me if you feel a need to rant/vent.

 

[lyseD]

My AMAZING husband just made me a list of all of MAC's lipsticks that are currently listed on their site. I plan to use it for inventory purposes.

172, I believe.

Let me know if you'd like me to post it.

 

[veronikawithak]

[@]mel33t[/@] My advice, based on my experience and that of several friends of mine (so take this with a grain of salt) is to mention it to him and if things don't change, let it go! At the risk of sounding cliche, life's too short. The people you surround yourself with have a huge impact on your mental health and well-being and you owe it to yourself to make sure that it's a positive impact. You seem like a great person and you so deserve people that will add value to your life! Relationships are priorities in a sense.. if someone isn't making you a priority and isn't adding things into the "relationship box" but still taking things out all the time.. you're just going to get burnt out (sounds like where you're at now). That can really mess with your emotions.. leading to imbalance in other areas (like the urge to shop). All the time you spend trying to make this work means you could be closed off to new relationships.. you could be missing out on a great friendship or romance with someone that will really make you a priority. To make it easier to let go, I try to look at relationships like any other experience.. appreciate it for what it added to your life and personal growth, but resist the impulse to hold onto how it used to be or how you'd like it to be now. Anyway.. just my two cents. I hope it helped, and that you can figure things out soon!

 

[veronikawithak]

For anyone who's interested, Pinksofoxy posted "15 Shopping Tips for the Shopaholic" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1-Kx9ZKIrUw Great tips for low buy!!

@Naynadine welcome back.. missed seeing you in here! It was interesting to read through what you purchased and what your thoughts were.. It's frustrating when things don't work out. I've been trying to stick to things I know I'll love as well. Usually when I get something because everyone's raving about it I tend to not like it or use it as much as I thought I would. My next purchase will be the Hourglass palette as well. Going to pass on pretty much everything else until the sale and then I'll try to pick out my top few things.

 

[PixieDancer]

So you bought four lippies instead of your planned two. Just make sure you use them, and do what you need to do to get back on track. :nods: I've got three that I want now: Julie, Marisa, and Dominique -- all shades not represented in my stash. Since they're perm, I'm not in a huge rush to get them, and I definitely wouldn't buy all three at once! Anyhoo, my top tip would be to go for the one shade that's the most unlike what you've got in your existing stash, as you're going for only one.

I plan to use these a ton.. One of the reasons I stuck to Fall shades rather than ones I know will sit til Spring. I'm letting 2-4 more lipsticks go when these arrive to justify them even more. And I agree w your rec to start w 1. That's exactly what I should've done. But I picked 2 I wanted & when 1 of them wasn't available I didn't walk away with just the remaining 1. Which is where the trouble started. Hopefully I like them as much as everyone else. As always, good advice my girl!

@PixieDancer  Stop beating yourself up, consider yourself told off! The fact that you made sure what you purchased was unique to your collection and in shades that you will use this fall is a massive step forward! Think back to what you might have done a year ago, you wouldn't have put that much consideration into the purchase, you would have made sure you didn't get dupes and you would probably have bought more than 4! Yes you are purging the collection, but minor slip ups will happen, look at the positives that you can see in your changing behaviour not just the negatives! I have one Audacious lipstick in my basket - Charlotte, 1 for the namesake and 2 I don't have a colour like this so it will be unique. i am also getting more fussy as I purge about formulas, so I want to try one before I jump in with both feet. Currently waiting to order till pay day, also in my basket is nars eyeshadow primer replacement which I am desperate for! i am still debating on the blush and may swap it out for a replacement of my HG cleanser. i have a £10 reward to use before 2nd Oct so getting a much needed new primer and something else as my October treat. I am trying to limit the number of things I bring at the moment and have allocated myself 3 things from the holiday collections, only 1 of these slots is definitely taken up at the moment:

• Hourglass blush palette
• Potentially the guerlain holiday palette, but need to see better swatches first - maybe to warm toned for me.
• Probably something for the NARS holiday gift sets, hoping that the rumours of a dual intensity shadow palette are true!

Works been absolutely crazy at the moment so my purge has taken a back seat again, really need to find some time to finish clearing out!

You're right! I am doing a lot better & I'm going to clear 2-4 more lippies out to make room. And every shade I chose was unique & Fall appropriate for wear time NOW instead of storing & hoarding. Charlotte looks beautiful... Let me know how you like it when it arrives! I will most likely end up w the HG blush palette as well. I only have 1 shade in it, and have already decided I'll give it to my mom if I get the palette. Good luck finding time to purge. It always makes me feel better & I know it's helped me learn to let go of things. Thanks for helping me feel better! Moving forward!!

[@]PixieDancer[/@] these NARS lipsticks came out of nowhere and are causing endless mischief!

They sure did! I certainly was blindsided! Heehee

[@]PixieDancer[/@] I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes it's not the amount you went over, it's the fact that you broke a promise to yourself. You should be so proud of how far you've come though! If it makes you feel better, let go of a couple less loved items to make room for the new ones. It's great that you were able to fill in gaps too! Those lipsticks have sucked a lot of people in and they look very worth the hype IMO. But now that you've had a chance to reflect on what happened, don't forget to ENJOY them! Makeup should be something that makes you happy above all.

So true! I promise to wear them a ton! And I've already purged 80% of my lipstick backups but will clear 2-4 from my current stash to make room for these bad boys. Thanks for the reassurance that I'm doing well. And I will not let this minor set back spiral out of control. I've already vowed to not get anymore of them (regardless of how much I may love them) until after the New Year. So, hold me to that!! Thanks babe!

@awickedshape please meddle! I need help letting this go. He used to be. We used to be very close and would hang out often. I would say around February things started to go south and he would only text me if he needed something. I'm not sure what happened, but at this point I'm sick of it and hurt.

I agree w V. Life's way too short to allow yourself to be brought down by the inconsideration of others. Remember you can't control what others do and say... Only how YOU decide to react. I also agree it may help you to move on if you do have that open dialogue w him about how you feel. Obviously if he's a real friend, he'll care about your feelings and adjust his behavior to keep you as a friend. If he doesn't... The message is clear and you can move on with no remorse. Sometimes people aren't in your life forever. That's just the way things are. Take the good and reflect on it. And try to learn from the other things. You seem like a lovely young lady with much to offer your friends and loved ones. Focus on those that make you feel uplifted and good about yourself. Maybe your "friend" will come to his senses and realize what he's lost. And if he doesn't, that's ok too. That's his life to live and you're busy living yours... One of happiness & all the good things life has to offer. The things money can't buy! Feel free to PM me if you need someone. I'm a good listener... And I know everyone needs a safe place to chat things out. Smile sweetie!