Self esteem

[NutMeg]

Honey there is no way your boyfriend would leave you for someone prettier. You know that when you're in the kind of relationship that the two of you are in that he is crazy about you. I don't even know a whole lot about it aside from the fact that you're so far away from each other, but look if he wanted to be with someone else then he would be. He doesn't and he isn't. He sees something amazing in you, so even if you can't necessarily see it all the time, you know that it has to be there.

 

[quandolak]

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[Beauty Mark]

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I think they will soon try to convince woman that having the wrong shaped eyelid is an imperfection

It happens in the US (I assume you're referring to East Asian countries), though mostly among Asian community and not terribly strong. However, I do see it discussed and know there are surgeons in this country who'll perform it. Magazines already subtly hint that there are more desirable types of eyes already when discussing how to apply makeup.

The problem is with all this is that the ideal body always changes, according to the whims of several industries. I think it's always based upon whatever they think a handful of people can achieve naturally, while the rest of us have to use alternative means to get the same look.

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

That's true... but I guess no one finds legs with cellulite very desirable...

I've been thinking about mesotherapy but it's extremely expensive, and my boyfriend doesn't like the idea of me doing it...

 

[Bianca]

I feel like that too...even when I look at your pictures! Can you imagine that lol! You are very pretty and I think your bf loves you the way you are. I'm not very slim and feel insecure too (so insecure that I got depressed and have to take pills for it) but I know that my bf loves me the way I am and he is not perfect either. I'm going through a difficult time but he is there for me. I am sure that your bf loves you the way you are and that he is there if you need him. Keep your chin up honey, you are beautiful!

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

Thank you!

Seriously girls you have no reason AT ALL to feel like that when you look at me, it's not like I'm a model or something! My face is ok, and I guess when wearing clothes I look fine, the problem is when I take off my clothes and I have to be in underwear/naked...

I don't turn off the lights when I'm intimate with my boyfriend or anything like that, but going to the beach with friends for example is something that I don't think will happen at any time soon...
He's the only one I feel confident around when showing my legs.

And even with him I get scared and start thinking "I'm sure his previous girlfriends looked better and they were thin and didn't have cellulite" and sometimes these thoughts torture me so much.

I hate feeling like this but I don't know what to do to get over it. Someone said I should try and focus in what I like about myself, and that's what I'm going to try to do... But there's only a couple things I like, and they are more talent-wise than physical.

 

[Beauty Mark]

Most of us aren't going to be head-turningly beautiful when we age, at least according the standards today. Skin will sag and wrinkle. Hair will thin and go grey. However, your talent will be with you always.

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

That's a good way of looking at it... I still feel crappy physically though...

 

[Beauty Mark]

I don't know what else to say, hun. Working on liking who you are on the outside is hard, but I think you have enough going for you inside and out that you shouldn't be so negative about yourself

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

Thank you doll! All your words are helping me to try and accept myself, I hope I will get there eventually

 

[giz2000]

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Originally Posted by Miss Pumpkin Thank you! Seriously girls you have no reason AT ALL to feel like that when you look at me, it's not like I'm a model or something! My face is ok, and I guess when wearing clothes I look fine, the problem is when I take off my clothes and I have to be in underwear/naked... I don't turn off the lights when I'm intimate with my boyfriend or anything like that, but going to the beach with friends for example is something that I don't think will happen at any time soon... He's the only one I feel confident around when showing my legs. And even with him I get scared and start thinking "I'm sure his previous girlfriends looked better and they were thin and didn't have cellulite" and sometimes these thoughts torture me so much. I hate feeling like this but I don't know what to do to get over it. Someone said I should try and focus in what I like about myself, and that's what I'm going to try to do... But there's only a couple things I like, and they are more talent-wise than physical.

I asked my husband if men really noticed things like cellulite and the size of your thighs when they are being intimate...his answer: "That's the LAST thing on most men's minds...."

Don't worry about feeling bad about your legs...chances are, no one notices anything about your legs, and you don't have to let life pass you by worrying about anyone looking for flaws...enjoy life, girl!

 

[Pascal]

oh girl this feeling is right up my alley. There are times 75% out of 100% that I feel that way. I feel like I have no self esteem at all and I don't believe in myself. And it's all because of me comparing myself to other girls. I want to be everyone but myself.I'm so satisfied with the way everyone else looks but hate what staring back at me.
It's like my girl P!NK sang it.

I can't take the person staring back at me I'm a hazard to myself. I'm my own worst enemy. It's bad when you annoy yourself.Doctor Doctor won't you please prescribe me something, a day in the life of some one else. Don't wanna be my friend no more I wanna be somebody else.

and like Chester sang it for Linkin Park - Against my will I stang beside my own reflection.

Don't be so hard on yourself.

 

[Pei]

Everyone is imperfect.
Do something u like when u are feeling down and scold urself for having such silly moments again!

You're seriously gorgeous & sexy in my opinion.
You have no reason to be upset.

I believe ur BF loves u for what u are.
It's YOU he loves, not ur looks!
They way u were thinking is bad for ur relationship too.

So.....don't dwell too much on it and....Keep ur chin up!

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

Here's a pic of that girl I did makeup for and brought me into this self esteem crisis, I have only gotten this one so far... Not sure whether I even want to see the rest or not, actually...

 

[giz2000]

I'm sorry....she's cute, but has nothing on you...nothing at all...

 

[aquarius11]

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Originally Posted by giz2000 I'm sorry....she's cute, but has nothing on you...nothing at all...

Agreed X's 1000000000...you have that something "special" that radiates from you, whereas Miss Green Gloves is "cute and very average" IMHO...so what that her ass has no cellulite...to be honest, I look at her and I see an average person with a slim body, but when I look at your pics, I see an exotic beauty that is strikingly beautiful...who cares if you have dimples on your behind and/or legs...I'm sure your Mr. Wonderful does NOT care about that, because with one look in your eyes, I bet you transport him to another planet! So don't be silly. You are BEAUTIFUL, really. I promise.