Serious issue ... out of control brother ...

[Beauty Mark]

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I would seriously call like today or tomorrow. If you're planning on talking to your brother about this, I would make sure you have your safety in mind. If he has a temper, who knows how he'll react?

 

[Hawkeye]

The weed may not be the problem but I am going to say it yet again, I am more concerned about Amoona's safety and her mothers safety at this point than I am about whatever the problem is with her brother.

There is absolutely no excuse for this.

 

[amoona]

Thanks everyone so much for all your advice and input. My mother talked to my father last night and he said my brother can't go to Palestine because he's at the perfect target age for Israel and it would be really unsafe for him. BUT my mom talked to his school and they actually have a Scared Straight program. He'd also be put on behavioral probation where he'd have to check in with a probation office and take drug tests and stuff.

I think he still needs to get away from his friends, but I guess this is a step in the right direction.

 

[mzcelaneous]

Right on to your Momma. Those are definitely great steps in the right direction.

 

[giz2000]

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Originally Posted by amoona Thanks everyone so much for all your advice and input. My mother talked to my father last night and he said my brother can't go to Palestine because he's at the perfect target age for Israel and it would be really unsafe for him. BUT my mom talked to his school and they actually have a Scared Straight program. He'd also be put on behavioral probation where he'd have to check in with a probation office and take drug tests and stuff. I think he still needs to get away from his friends, but I guess this is a step in the right direction.

I actually attended a session of Scared Straight when I was in grad school. Let me tell you...if that doesn't scare the crap out of your brother, nothing will. The inmates that participate in the program are super hard-core...they're doing hard time for murder and are in there for life (with no parole) and they LOVE little gangsta wanna-be's....they are very scary looking as well.

They took this one guy (about 17) who thought he was a bad-ass. When the group arrived, he was throwing gang signs and acting all tough, laughing at the inmates and such. I kept thinking to myself "Should I tell him that these guys are going to eat him up for lunch?" I didn't...they immediately picked on him and took him to sit over where the inmates where sitting (on the other side of this very large room), and started telling him that he was going to be their bitch and that they were going to pass him around, and use him up until he couldn't walk.

This wanna-be thug started crying...biiiiiiig mistake. The verbal abuse got worse by the inmates...it got really bad....but we weren't supposed to stop anything, because the whole idea of Scared Straight is to scare the living shit out of these kids. Let me tell you, when it was all over, the inmates put him back with the other kids (he was so pale, he looked like a ghost). They the explained that life in prison was no picnic, and lil home boy got it easy....

No one spoke on the bus on the way back to the school (the bus was super rowdy on the way over)...I wish I knew what eventually happened with those kids, but let me tell you ...it scared the crap out of me.

It might be the best thing to ever happen to your brother...

here's a little clip of the original Scared Straight Documentary....this was tame compared to what I saw:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RaRWQfz_4cs

and here's a website that can give you more information:

http://www.wild-side.com/scared.html

 

[Beauty Mark]

Good for your mother to do that. I hope the programs help him realize that his friends are not the kind of people he wants to be around. Either that or they may screw him over some day. That's what got my brother hanging around a better group.

Those Scared Straight programs (I saw something on TV about one) had me scared straighter than I was. It may just do the trick.

 

[bAbY_cHiCkEn01]

I personally wouldn't go psycho on his ass... or call cops or anything. Be there for him coz He'll need someone at the end of it all and when his frineds have run off to do bigger and better things. Why do I say this? Because I have a 12 year old brother, smoking and selling weed, breaking into skool buses and getting drunk. He live swith my father whose a sexist bastard, who slanders women at any chance and he has nobody else. Talk to him, I learnt this only recently, after I guess it was too late by moving to another country. I talk to him like once a month, but if you talk to him without getting angry he'll eventutually see some light somewhere... Or wait a few years to really get to know him but still be there for him. He's obviously feeling mixed up about something or not feeling loved as the case could be with your mom sorta ignoring him and you always going nuts on him (no offense intended hon). Plus also teenage angst is pretty tough. So talk to him, and if he doesn't want to or can't open up, let him know that you're there for him.

Sorry to get sidetracked a lil'.

 

[bAbY_cHiCkEn01]

Oh and hanging out with that crowd may just be a phase. I hope so for your familys sake!