Sex the first night.....

Lauren1981

Well-known member
so this topic came up on the radio this morning and i wanted your thoughts on it.

can a relationship last or even be formed if you have sex on the first night?

my personal opinion on the whole subject is that it depends on the situation because every situation is different but speaking for me i would rather wait and feel it out first and see if it has potential. but, there are some ppl who may have had sex on the first night and they're still together. some ppl called into the radio who had been married between 7 & 11 years saying that they slept together on the first date.

so what do you guys think? good idea? bad idea?
 

M.A.C. head.

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My man and I slept together the first HOUR, lmao, 3 years and one child later; we're still happily together. We're not married yet, but we have a great relationship, a beautiful daughter, and a happy family.

So, I guess the point is that:

It depends on the situation, meaning the feelings between those who are sexing LOL Not every two people who have a one night stand or casual quickie are going to live happily ever after.
 

Lauren1981

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Originally Posted by M.A.C. head.
My man and I slept together the first HOUR, lmao

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Lauren1981

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Originally Posted by M.A.C. head.
Ain't shit funny
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Hehehe.


i'm sorry........
hehe. maybe?
okay
not funny
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M.A.C. head.

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Originally Posted by Lauren1981
i'm sorry........
hehe. maybe?
okay
not funny
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Nah I'm kidding, it's hilarious.

I guess the old saying isn't really true.

You CAN turn a ho into a housewife...

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Shadowy Lady

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I voted depends on the situation. My husband and I didn't do it the first night and 6 years later we're happily married. We have a couple friend who did do it the first night and they're also happily married...so I guess it really depends
 

xxAngelxx

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I agree that it depends on the situation. My current boyfriend and I had sex the first night and now we're talking about marriage. On the other hand, a good friend of mine regularly puts out on the first night and rarely gets a call back, or a call back clearly just for sex.
 

luckycharms

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I experienced this at one point and our relationship lasted for 4 years. So I think somehow it worked. I guess it depends on the situation too.
We broke up though because he was a womanizer.
 

Skin*Deep

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every situation is different.....I say why call good sex a failure just because you didn't live happily ever after anyway? so not only does it depend on the situation, but your intentions....I don't think sex on the first night is going to be the deciding factor in whether or not a relationship lasts.......
 

X4biddenxLustX

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I think it def depends on the situation, the chemistry between the two people, and what the two people want out and if there willing to see where things will go afterwards.
 

LineausBH58

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My hubby of almost 7 years we "hooked up" on the first night... no sex but we had some fun! I was 21 he was 22.... i think it depends... we really liked each other at first sight i have to say... so i think it works out sometimes
 

Urbana

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i said 'yes'. i think it depends on the person, it doesnt matter if you sleep with a boy the 1st night or not...
 

lelaelena

Member
In my experience no but I happen to have an eye for dirtbags who just use girls. Sigh, it's my type.

I think it depends on both people's perspectives. I know tons of very traditional "a girl is a whore or a housewife, nothing in between" type guys who instantly write off a girl who does it on the first date, even if they encourage her. I guess it's their litmus test.

However, there are some examples of guys who LOVE that. Case in point, my best friend lives out of town and comes into calgary every long weekend. When she's here she sees a guy who lives here. They randomly met about 6 months ago, she went home with him, they had amazing chemistry and at this point, he is so wildly in love with her that he wants her to move in with him, bought her a trip to the carribean as a date for the two of them and flew her in for new years. She is completely ambivalent about it because she doesn't trust herself not to if she gets into an actual relationship. He calls her his girlfriend, she says he's her fuck buddy. And the thing is, I think her very "Samantha" like behaviour only makes him want her more, like a little puppy.

So I think it 100% depends on the personalities, beliefs of the people involved, and off course whether or not the sex was good.

If it helps, my longest relationship happened when I put out on the second night. Though, in the end I concluded that was all I was useful to him for.
 

Lauren1981

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Originally Posted by lelaelena
And the thing is, I think her very "Samantha" like behaviour only makes him want her more, like a little puppy.

So I think it 100% depends on the personalities, beliefs of the people involved, and off course whether or not the sex was good.

If it helps, my longest relationship happened when I put out on the second night. Though, in the end I concluded that was all I was useful to him for.


i can totally see that (i.e. the "samantha" game) happening because i think some guys like that chase. if there's no chase, there's no interest.
but just like everyone has said on here, it does depend on the situation and i guess what it is both parties want going into it, that is, if they want anything at all. i've noticed that before with guys. if you hook up, even on the first night, and then don't show that much interest afterwards, they want you more. crazy huh??
but even tho i don't necessarily believe in the love at first site, i do think some ppl can have sex on the first night and it lasts. there are some ppl that just have AMAZING chemistry with each other on all levels (not just physically) and it just works, ya know?
 

CantAffordMAC

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I didnt read the thread, just the question (gotta get ready for work)

Me and my boyfriend began talking on myspace (we knew some of the same people) in January/February of 2006. We talked a lot, looooooong convos, etc. We had phone sex, but said if and when we did meet, we were definetly going to wait to have sex. Well we met eachother, he was asking me for a kiss, I ended up kissing him. Then we hung out, just us and his friends and brothers. Then we went to be alone. Ended up having oral (both ways) I thought we were moving too fast, but we both wanted it.....had sex. Then I got ALL kinds of upset about it, because I was so afraid that I ruined something before it even began. And we had agreed not to do it! But we worked through things, he told me he didnt lost any respect for me.....almost 3 years later, here we are. We dont have the perfect relationship, but we have endured many things, and there is more love between the two of us than I've ever felt before. We are young and dumb and make mistakes, but we also stick with eachother and try to work things through and grow together.

So yes. Depending on the situation...it can definetly work out. It depends on what the two people are looking for, or how their feelings are for eachother. Depends on a lot of things.
 

Adee1

New member
I think It can work out. I happend to do this when I was 18 with a 28 year old man.. And next thing you know where together for 3 years now. And expecting out first child July 28th 09' ♥
 

Adee1

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Whats a womanizer? I dont mean too seem dumb, but, I HONESTLY have no clue? Quote:
Originally Posted by luckycharms
I experienced this at one point and our relationship lasted for 4 years. So I think somehow it worked. I guess it depends on the situation too.
We broke up though because he was a womanizer.

 
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