Single on Valentines Day? What to do?

[Goat Goat Etc.]

I'm going to be alone on V-day. Is a bar/club the root way to go? I can't think of any other place to drown out the "lonely, alone, by yourself" in my head. I'm not gonna get drunk but I'd like to think--like Xmas and Thanksgiving night---the singles will be out in full force.

If you have better ideas fire away please.

 

[gildedangel]

On V-Days when I was alone I would make myself a lot of snacks and watch movies on the couch. I thought that it was really fun, I liked having some special time all by myself to relax.

 

[Shadowy Lady]

I don't know why ppl make such a big deal of Valentine's Day. It's a very manufactured day to me, all about selling more cards and teddy bears :/ I'm married and the SO and I never celebrate it. We celebrate our own anniversaries and birthdays. When I was single, to me there was no difference between Valentine's Day or any other day.

I would say do what makes you happy. Maybe go shopping or try hitting a spa with girlfriends

 

[nichollecaren]

I would get dolled up and take myself out for dinner. I wouldnt try to meet anyone either just change up my scene so I wont have time to be depressed.

 

[Boasorte]

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Originally Posted by Goat Goat Etc. I'm going to be alone on V-day. Is a bar/club the root way to go? I can't think of any other place to drown out the "lonely, alone, by yourself" in my head. I'm not gonna get drunk but I'd like to think--like Xmas and Thanksgiving night---the singles will be out in full force. If you have better ideas fire away please.

awww
I personally thing Vday is so friggin overrated.

If I were 21 I'd totally go to a bar or a club, try it, maybe you'll find some guys!!!
GL

Edit: I agree with Shadowy Lady, just another day. Even when I had boyfriends around Vday time, the most I did was wear red/pink, and that's about it.
Not to mention I hate flowers and cards n crap, just give me some Twix and I'm good

Sorry I'm pretty cynical

 

[BEA2LS]

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Originally Posted by Shadowy Lady I don't know why ppl make such a big deal of Valentine's Day. It's a very manufactured day to me, all about selling more cards and teddy bears :/ I'm married and the SO and I never celebrate it. We celebrate our own anniversaries and birthdays. When I was single, to me there was no difference between Valentine's Day or any other day. I would say do what makes you happy. Maybe go shopping or try hitting a spa with girlfriends

I was going to say the same thing.. Valentine's Day was never a big thing for me.. single or not.

 

[blazeno.8]

I would like to think of myself as "free from Valentine's day related obligations".

 

[BeccalovesMAC]

I would try to have a girls night out or even go to dinner with your girl friends. Thats what I did when I was single. I totally agree with Shadowy. V-day is just another day so Victorias secret and Hallmark can make lots of money. Its not Valentines day its Single Awareness day lol JK

 

[Boasorte]

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Originally Posted by BeccalovesMAC I would try to have a girls night out or even go to dinner with your girl friends. Thats what I did when I was single. I totally agree with Shadowy. V-day is just another day so Victorias secret and Hallmark can make lots of money. Its not Valentines day its Single Awareness day lol JK

Word!

 

[LoveMakeup4Real]

Yeah, it's just another day to me as well. I never was one to make a big deal out of Vaentine's Day, whoop-dee-doo lol. I used to let it get to me just b/c I wanted to be like everyone else around getting mushy and all but it's not a big deal to me now @ 25. I think the only time it meant something to me was when I was in Middle school and got a secret admirer card and flower. Whoa was I was gushing with joy ha, then I hated it after because I NEVER found out who gave it to me! It was like a bad joke, what punk of a boy couldn't tell me after that he sent them lol. Anyway, I have celebrated some V-days in the past w/ boyfriends but this year I'm single and don't mind it one bit. I'll pretty up, get dressed and romance myself ha. Do the same. One day I'll be bothered spending it with someone, meanwhile I'll enjoy it all on my own since I can. I won't even bother with friends, clubs (I don't give strange men the opportunity to straddle their junk on me) and bars are just not for me. Blah. DVD and popcorn here I come! If you're still worried, just think my time will come, it just isn't this year

 

[hello_my_apple]

people who say that about Valentines day, dont have men that like to do special things for them lol. i LOVE valentines day. it's not like my sweety doesnt do things for me on a regular basis, i just think it's a great way to go above and beyond, if they love you why not??? but back to you, i know ALOT of places that are having parties in the NY/NJ area. i dont know where you are but since valentines day is on a sunday, you can go get a drink or so at a lounge with a friend/friends, movies, poetry reading. there is tons to do for attached and single people.

 

[sweetbabyblue]

^Yes, its true that my bf doesn't like doing special things, and even his idea of Valentine's day special is significantly less than what some do, but I don't think that affected how I saw V day when I used to be single.

To me it was just like any other day, and this year V day falls on Chinese New Year so families will be out in force, not just couples this year!
For me, CNY trumps V day so I'm spending my day with my family instead

 

[kimmy]

my first "attached valentine's day" was, in retrospect, shitty. the guy was way too grabby and thought he deserved alot more than he really did for a cheap box of dollar store chocolates and a single red rose.

my second, my now boyfriend was in iraq. he was still two weeks away from his homecoming, so he sent me three dozen red roses in this gorgeous red vase. apparently, he paid attention when i said i like red. we weren't even dating then, so i don't know what to expect this year on valentine's day.

i'm kind of neutral on valentine's day. i think if you love someone, special things year round are a given. i guess it's nice to go buy some new makeup and lingerie and get all dolled up then blame it on the holiday.

all my single valentine's days, i just went about my business like it was a regular day. no special parties or anything, usually did some shopping since there weren't alot of people at the malls.

 

[hawaii02]

I'm married and we aren't celebrating. Just going to ditto what the others have said about it just being a consumer's holiday. Do what you ENJOY..but don't feel sorry for yourself. Its JUST a consumer's holiday.

 

[darbywynn318]

I've recently started making an effort to make myself happy with myself before paying attention to anyone else. This year for Valentines Day I decided I'm goin to buy myself a little gift, some chocolates, and write myself a positive lov letter then curl up with some Sex and the City. I can't imagine anything more fulfilling for myself right now.

 

[cindiaz]

I think is just another day,but in Mexico we call this day, "Dia del amor y la amistad" ( Love and friendship day) so,you could go out with friends that are alone too? or have like a Friendship party at your house,like watching movies or playing games,hth.

 

[cupcake_x]

I've never celebrated Valentines Day in a relationship way. It has always been about love in general, whether it's for my family, friends, pet or yes, my partner. Or, it can be about loving and appreciating yourself- treating yourself to your favorite dinner and maybe a new lipglass?

My boyfriend and I might go out that day, but it will most likely be with our families and friends. Maybe you could see those whom you love but aren't "in" love with?

I love the ideas that others gave, like going out with friends or having a mini spa day. I think that would be a lot more fun than going to dinner with a partner, in my opinion.

As for the bar/club root, go with a group of friends. That way, you can have fun and still drink/dance, but you won't be alone and you will be in good company.

 

[LMD84]

like others have said, i don't really celebrate valentines day. this year me and hubby are staying home and will be baking gingerbread men, cupcakes and various other treats

however when i was single on v day me and my girly friends would always go out to the cinema and for a pizza

fun times!

 

[Meisje]

Just go about your business as if it were any other day. It's the silliest "holiday" ever.

 

[Jessica0984]

When I was single I used to just go out to the mall with friends then we would hangout and order a pizza. Now that I am married not that much has changed. My husband likes to get me jewelry and flowers and I normally get him candy and a card and take him out to dinner a few days after Valentine's Day.