So called friend...

[glam8babe]

Ive been soooo pissed off with my so called 'best friend' for the past few months.
We've been friends since school [since Year 10 so about 3 year ago] and she was such a lovely person, very down to earth, very innocent and lovely to get on with. Now shes the opposite. Since the beginning of this year it's been hard to go places because me and my boyfriend had to save up for our holiday in May to the Caribbean so we saw our friends as much as we could. Anyway i was on myspace and i saw a bulletin she left the night before saying something like "whats the point in being friends with someone when they dont make an effort to see you... im fuckin sick of it now" then i asked her about ti and she was like WELL IM RIGHT!! and i told her millions of times how i cant go out much [well places that involve money] because of the holiday. Then after that she sorted herself out.

Ohh and she copies EVERY-fucking-THING i do, say or buy. During spring my mother bought me a nice brown leather jacket and some white skinny jeans... the next week she fucking bought a brown leather jacket and white skinny jeans.
For my birthday [which is new years eve so after xmas] my auntie took me shopping for my xmas and bday stuff off her and bought me tonnes of clothes, shoes and accessories and i got this gorgeous cream silk dress from River Island which i was guna wear on my birthday night out and i saw a red one which i thought would look good on my best friend.. so i told her about it i was like "oohh i got that cream dress from River island [she knew wot i was tlking bout] and theres a gorgeous red one now that would look lovely on you maybe u shud get it" and she was like omg yeh! sounds lovely ill go have a look next week... guess what? She got the fuckin cream dress the week after and i went mad "OMG i told u that i had the cream dress and u shud get the red one.." and she said "omg really? i thought u said u got the red one" .. "errr no i dont suit dark red im blonde so i got the cream and i told u about the red because your really dark and would look nice on you but forget it" so i took the fucking dress back [i was soo pissed off at the time.. i mean it was a present from my auntie and my birthday outfit] .. ohh and she now has a picture of herself on myspace with the cream dress on and i left her a comment "omg remember when i got this dress and u got it the week after" and she replied "u didnt even tell me u had the dress otherwise i wudnt have got it!" fucking bitch

UGG BOOTS! omg i got mine wayyy before they came popular over here... like 2 year ago i got mine and wore them all the time.. she said she didnt like them that they are ugly [i didnt care it didnt stop me from wearing them]. And this year she got some cheap ugly ones n i was like "i thought u didnt like them?" her: "well i do" hmm whatever.

Ohh yeh and as i said that the cream dress was for my birthday i planned a great night out, me, her, my bf, our friends out clubbing round town. a week before that: "ohh i cant wait till friday gunna b amazing!" .. me: "why whats going on?" her: "ur birthday night out durr!!" me: "uhh no i said it was saturday... my actual birthday remember!" her: "omg rlly well im working then and i cant get off coz its gunna b rlly busy" me: "oh great thanks even though i told you months and months ago i was going out for my 'birthday' i never mentioned fucking friday!" she only works in a fuckin shitty lil restaurant she cud have easily got the night off i even said "say its ur best friends birthday for god sake" her: "i cant say that ive said it too many times" me: "oh fuck you then!" i was soo pissed off even my bf went mad at her becoz she tries to act dumb all the time and thinks she can get away with it.

theres millions of things i could tell you.

Ohhh and a few month ago she became buddies with this slut that i fucking hate.. she sleeps with anyone/anything even sleeps with other girls boyfriends and gets away with it. anyway since shes been mates with her shes become so cocky, nasty, tacky and slutty. I really have nothing in common with her no more and my other friends have noticed too.

anyway im starting college next week doing beauty therapy.. its gunna be full of girls who love makeup, beauty like MOI!!! so i know im gunna make some lovely friends and i cant fucking wait to rub it in her face. I really hate her i cant wait to get away from her the stalking bitch. I know i sound evil but really im not.. if you all had a stalker, 'friend' who copied everything u wud b the same as me.

Ohh and she wants me to go out for her birthday which is in November..

no fucking chance!

anyone else have friends or a friend like this? does it piss u off when friends copy off you?
I HATE people copying i dont mind one thing but when it comes to hair style [ohh yeh she grew her hair long like mine], getting nails done [ohh heres a funny story.. i get mine done for free becoz my bf's sister is a nail tech at a salon so obv shes guna do mine for free as im like a sister to her and my friend or 'friend' gets hers done off her too and has to pay and when i told her i get mine done for free she sed "im not going there again then" n me n my bf were like "why? :S obviously ur gunna get charged she doesnt even know u" how silly!] ohh millions of other things she copies. i could be here ALLLL day

ohh yeh and she ALWAYS talks about herself and when she buys new things [and they're seriously nothing nice to buzz over the shit she buys] and when i tell her stuff about me she just says "kool" or "oki" im like ohhhhhhh r u jealous

 

[user79]

 

[Raerae]

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[gigglegirl]

Thats too bad. I know it may be hard, but you could try and think of the positives--that you're her go-to-girl for style, as my mom would say, "ïmitation is the most sincere form of flattery". I know it doesn't help, I'm not sure what I'd do if someone copied me all the time, or didn't listen to me about that dress thing.

Hang in there, hope things get better. and have tons of fun in your beauty therapy classes, and definitely make new friends with common interests!

 

[tsukiyomi]

Imitation is the best form of flattery. Take it as a compliment no matter how annoying.

 

[jenii]

I'm sorry if I offend you with this, but it just seems like typical high school drama to me, and you don't seem to be doing much to put a stop to it-- in fact, it seems like your behavior is stirring it up even more. If you really wanted it to stop, you'd sit her down and talk with her. TALK, not fight, not list all the things you think SHE does wrong... Just talk about why things are like this now, and whether or not they can be fixed.

And if they can't, you should both just walk away instead of trying to one-up each other, or piss each other off. You're an adult now, you should handle this in an adult way.

 

[glam8babe]

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Originally Posted by jenii I'm sorry if I offend you with this, but it just seems like typical high school drama to me, and you don't seem to be doing much to put a stop to it-- in fact, it seems like your behavior is stirring it up even more. If you really wanted it to stop, you'd sit her down and talk with her. TALK, not fight, not list all the things you think SHE does wrong... Just talk about why things are like this now, and whether or not they can be fixed. And if they can't, you should both just walk away instead of trying to one-up each other, or piss each other off. You're an adult now, you should handle this in an adult way.

well we aint in high school we go to college [we leave school at 16 here] and i cant talk to her because shes always with that SLUT who probably has aids. seriously, she used to be innocent and girly, now she acts manly and she goes around sticking her tongue down girls throats and takes pics of it all puts them on her myspace and shes like "ohh comment my new pics!" wtf am i meant to say? i fucking hate her new friend so yeh. and im not the DRAMATIC person .. well u wud find that like 99% of people in the UK dont do drama because we arent into it it looks unclassy

When i am with her though shes sweet and lovely but always talks about herself which i dont mind i just switch myself off half way thru coz i dont wanna b rude to her. She invites me, my bf and our friend to her house and watch movies n stuff n shes lovely then but when shes around her new hoe friend shes a completely new person

 

[user79]

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Originally Posted by glam8babe well u wud find that like 99% of people in the UK dont do drama because we arent into it it looks unclassy

What a silly statement. I didn't know one's penchant to engaging in drama has anything to do with their nationality.


I agree with what jenii said as well, it sounds like you're both just competing with each other. If you really can't stand her, why do you still hang out with her? If the friendship is not worth salvaging, just cut ties and move on.

 

[StArCaNdY]

This is so funny because my "best friend" is the same exact way. Ever since we've been friends she's copied everything about me and she's "slutty" and very hypocritical. To tell you the truth I don't consider those qualities our "friends" have to be friend qualities. I basically just stay away from her and people like that. I'll talk to them maybe say hi, how u been, but I don't get close anymore. You shouldn't have people that bring you down like that around you. You're better than that and I say you should still be cool with her like as an acquaintance but if she really is as bad as you say she's not really a friend at all.

 

[Beauty Mark]

Some of the fashion stuff you mention makes it sound like she likes copying trends. Until she starts going Single White Female on you, a lot of it doesn't matter. Some of my friends I own a handful of identical pieces. We don't wear them out together, but it's not a big deal IMO. It's not like she copied your custom made wedding dress and wore the design before you did.

About the going out stuff, I'd just explain that you don't have the money but there are plenty of cheap/free things to do. Grab a cup of coffee and chat is a favorite of mine, and it doesn't have to be much money.

BTW, high school drama mentality stays with some people, no matter how old or where they're from. You'll see 80 year olds still pulling the same stuff that 15 year olds do.

 

[Kiseki]

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Originally Posted by glam8babe well we aint in high school we go to college [we leave school at 16 here] and i cant talk to her because shes always with that SLUT who probably has aids.

Despite our age (and cultural) differences, I decided to reply to this and give you my honest opinion.

Saying someone is a slut and probably has aids, like in the above quote kind of troubles me, not everyone that has AIDS is/was sexually promiscuous and it's not the best statement you can make. Also, the fact that someone has AIDS isn't reason for social exclusion. There are many ways of catching AIDS, not all of them through sexual practices.

You definitely need to mature a little bit yourself. Judging from the quote above. At this age, people go through different stages where they make weird choices of friends and the term "best friend" is used loosely at best.

Besides, if both of you want to get together and talk privately, then both of you will find a way, without having that other girl present.

From what you've described, she doesn't seem like she's your friend. Best case scenario, she's insecure and emulates your look in order to feel better about yourself at least.

As for her choice of friends, I don't necessarily like all my friends' friends... (how redundant of me), but it just means that I don't interact or socialize with them.

You should reconsider how you feel towards this girl and if it's worth any further effort on your part, maybe it really isn't and your future will hopefully bring you other (and better) friends.


If you feel that this is preachy or that I have no idea what I'm talking about, then ignore me, I probably went way above and beyond the call of duty.

 

[M.A.C_Addiction]

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Originally Posted by MissChievous If you really can't stand her, why do you still hang out with her? If the friendship is not worth salvaging, just cut ties and move on.

You took the words out of my mouth.

 

[Willa]

It really sounds like a story from the time I was in high school.

I never understood why people still talk to ''friends'' they don't like. When I dont like something about someone close to me, I tell them (politely) and if it doesnt change I just go on with my life and don't bother about this person anymore.

You don't need that negative energy around you, and by coming back to her with your ''i cant fucking wait to rub it in her face'', I think it wouldnt not be a good idea.

Just do your own stuff and don't mind.
Don't waste your time and energy like that, just keep on moving with your life, when you'll get older things like that will seem childish to you... lolll

 

[xsnowwhite]

haha do we have the same best friend?

I know everyone is saying immitation is the best form of flattering,ect ect but it IS insanely annoying to have a bestfriend that copies EVERYTHING. Mines the same way! I hate it and everyones like omg youre overreacting but whatever its freaking annoying! I dont want to be with myself, i have the friend for who she was but now shes just like me!!

 

[glam8babe]

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Originally Posted by xsnowwhite haha do we have the same best friend? I know everyone is saying immitation is the best form of flattering,ect ect but it IS insanely annoying to have a bestfriend that copies EVERYTHING. Mines the same way! I hate it and everyones like omg youre overreacting but whatever its freaking annoying! I dont want to be with myself, i have the friend for who she was but now shes just like me!!

EXACTLY! glad im not the only one

 

[glam8babe]

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Originally Posted by M.A.C_Addiction You took the words out of my mouth.

hmm i dont hang with her.. she basically STALKS ME!!! when i do see her though she doesnt act like all slutty and weird but she has changed... and people have said "god she acts so different when shes not with you... well with every person she acts different" its like shes split personality. And i cant wait to go to college BECAUSE i will meet new friends and hang out with them more and when she goes to her college she can hang out with her friends then i wont have her stalking me

 

[kimmy]

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Originally Posted by glam8babe well we aint in high school we go to college [we leave school at 16 here] and i cant talk to her because shes always with that SLUT who probably has aids. seriously, she used to be innocent and girly, now she acts manly and she goes around sticking her tongue down girls throats and takes pics of it all puts them on her myspace and shes like "ohh comment my new pics!" wtf am i meant to say? i fucking hate her new friend so yeh. and im not the DRAMATIC person .. well u wud find that like 99% of people in the UK dont do drama because we arent into it it looks unclassy

maybe i'm being too blunt...but that was the most immature thing i've heard/read in a long time. the term "high school drama" suggests immaturity, not age. so though you may not be in high school, the drama you have found yourself caught up in is very immature (ie. very high school)

being an adult, this really shouldn't be a problem for you. and if it is, you have a little growing up to do. which is fine, i'm not meaning to offend you...if i remember correctly, you're 17? it's normal to be a little dramatic about things like this at that age.

however, you could save yourself all this drama (since, you know...it isn't "classy") by just telling her to leave you alone. tell her that you no longer enjoy or want her company and be done with it rather than blaming it on her new friend who isn't really your cup of tea.

 

[Shimmer]

I'm not going to lie, I wouldn't, based on the account presented, want to put up with either of you.

 

[Beauty Mark]

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Originally Posted by glam8babe hmm i dont hang with her.. she basically STALKS ME!!! when i do see her though she doesnt act like all slutty and weird but she has changed... and people have said "god she acts so different when shes not with you... well with every person she acts different" its like shes split personality. And i cant wait to go to college BECAUSE i will meet new friends and hang out with them more and when she goes to her college she can hang out with her friends then i wont have her stalking me

Then your solution is simple. Tell her that you don't want to be friends anymore.

ANd while I sincerely doubt she is actually stalking you, tell her to stop following you. If she is truly stalking you, get authoritative help

 

[lipstickandhate]

I LOL'd at the British people don't do drama comment. That is all.