Tell Us about your Mother-In-Law Drama.

[SkylarV217]

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Originally Posted by M.A.C. head. I hate to be the barer of shitty news, but, don't be surprised if that all changes if/when you get married and/or have children. I had a great relationship with my MIL up until having my daughter. She has 3 sons so she was beside herself when she found out we were having a girl. She tries to play mommy and have her way with my child and I'm not having it. I really don't like her any more, but I try my best to remain respectful.

Completely AGREE!!! Its like a 180 from b/4 marriage/kids

 

[talste]

I'm slowing repairing the strained relationship between me & MIL, For a good year I had nothing to do with the inlaws as I got fed up with her criticizing every thing I did add a few cultural differences to the mix and the situation was volatile for some time.

We had a big heart to heart recently and are both making an effort to "be more accepting" but damn its hard, lol she is kind of kooky & its hard to take her seriously at times.

Thankfully Hubby & I are on the move soon so I wont have to put up with her visits every other weekend.

 

[SparklingWaves]

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[pumpkincat210]

Ahh! i have alot of stories, but the one that bothers me the most is this one:
My mother in law put down a rule...no dirty laundry...especially underwear on the bathroom floor. Okay absolutely no problem, i don' t like leaving my dirty panties on the floor anyway. Well, the dog goes into our room, into the laundry hamper and carries out my underwear, through the house.
I get bitched at and it's already embarrassing that my in laws had to see my undies. Ever since then i make extra sure they are way down in the basket. Sadly my husband can leave his dirty underwear on the bathroom floor...normally i wouldn't really care, but it's unfair he gets to be a slob when I try to be neat and the dog get's me in trouble one time and people look at me like i'm messy. It makes me not want to do anything around their house. Oh, and instead of telling me to my face that i'm not loading the dishwasher correctly (or to their preference), I get to hear it second hand, like its a secret and i messed up. It is so weird living their. So much trouble and feelings of people talking behind your back would be averted if they would just tell me directly what they expect of me. Instead everything is awkward.

 

[Dahlia_Rayn]

I am one of the fortunate ones who has a great MIL. She always thinks of me and gives me little gifts...I love her like she's my second mama! She tries very hard not to interfere in our lives, and will even call before she comes over, even though we only live across the street and drop by their house all the time.
I love her so much that when my husband and I were having a lot of issues a couple of years ago, she was one of the reasons staying in the marriage won out. I realize I'm incredibly lucky and feel for all of you that have to deal with unreasonable MILs.

 

[Shimmer]

I have great in-laws. They're snowbirds, and have a lake place near here. When they're in TX, they come see us every few months, when they're gone, we'll keep in touch via email.
They're really good people, we were slow to warm up to each other but things now are fantastic. I wouldn't change much of anything

 

[rachybloom]

I have great "in laws".. my boyfriend and I aren't married yet, but over the two years that we've been together I've come to love them. At first, his mom was really bitchy to me (my boyfriend's sister had just been cheated on by her boyfriend so I guess his mom had some trust issues).. but his dad always helps me with a lot of my projects and now his mom always invites me when they have "girly" days.

There are some shitty times with them though.. I was raised being a vegetarian, since birth, and my family has ALWAYS taught me to eat well.. So I've eaten a certain way for eighteen years and have learned not to be picky AT ALL with the food I eat because it's hard finding healthy, vegetarian items a lot of the times. In sum, I'm very open to what I eat and never complain because I've learned to live with it. My boyfriend's family is from the south, and most of the time, all they eat is crap. And that's fine.. But they've NEVER made an effort to make food that I can eat. All they eat is meat or food with meat in it. At all family events, the only thing I can eat is bread and lettuce (literally, they just give me lettuce with shredded cheese on top and ranch dressing). UM hello eat more than just that? It pisses me off because my mom is always so excited to cook for my boyfriend.. She goes out of her way and buys ham, chicken, turkey.. WHATEVER he wants and cooks it for him even though NOBODY in my family eats meat. Yet, his parents can't make me a simple pasta or a REAL salad or SOMETHING? On a family trip, his grandpa ended up asking me "Why I couldn't just eat the meat they made? What was my problem" I was so fuming mad.. I ended up just crying in the bathroom and my boyfriend had to calm me down and tell me his family just isn't use to it. I get it, but it's been two years and at all his family events I end up having to bring my own food. My "father in law" is really sweet though.. he always buys be veggie burgers and keeps them in the fridge whenever they do cook outs

 

[abbey_08]

my ex's mother (she was virtually like a mil) was a complete bitch to me, because there was a 6year age gap she would treat me like i was a baby. and she would always let it be known she didnt like me.

when his brother got married she bought him a big present and asked me and my ex if we wanted to put some money in towards it. so i did out of my own pocket. she deliberatly left my name off the tag! when it came to opening presents they made a point of thanking them but not me and i asked why because it was the final straw and my name wasnt there!!!

and his sister or his mother flicked grease up the brand new dress i was wearing to the wedding. i had it hung up in the morning and after i had my makeup done i noticed small grease splotches on it. and they was the only two in the room!!

and she would always treat me like the common sheep of the family and talk down to me like i was dumb. im seriously glad i got out of that one

 

[hello_kitty]

My in laws are fine. They really don't speak English (they're from Russia), so that makes things interesting, heehee. But they're nice, and like me. Can't ask for much else! And my parents and them get along very well as well!

 

[leenybeeny]

My MIL gave us a set of fish plates for Christmas that she bought from our garage sale the summer before. She *forgot* she bought them from us.. she is a very thoughtful gift giver apparently. Kind of like the time she gave my 300lb hubby and my 150lb BIL the same "Ford Motor Company" ski jacket (where FIL works) in the same size. Can you say freebies? *sigh*

 

[Blushbaby]

My boyfs parents are really nice to me. I love his parents, they're so funny. They've always made me feel very welcome. I have no 'drama' to tell of.

 

[abbyquack]

Just wanted to say I'm so glad to see this forum! I have a hot & cold m-i-l that has been rather icy lately. She is not a warm fuzzy kind of person to anyone really, but like when I was engaged to my now husband, she wouldn't converse with me. Once we brought over two female friends to her house to visit really quickly and she had full on convos with them asking them everything about them but never once did she even ask me about myself the whole time we were dating! Never asked me about school or work or anything, she just like said "hi" and that's it. Then we got married and she slowly started warming up to me, which I was told was how she rolls (she has 9 kids that are all married and their spouses pretty much confirmed that).
But now lately I feel like she is a bit cool with me, mostly b/c recently one of my hubby's brothers and wife moved in with her and she now could care less about us, LOL. Which is like whatever, but she's so distant she calls me "hon" in kind of a condescending way. Ok. Plus I get annoyed at the meddling..it's just all too much for me.

But telling from this forum, what I'm experiencing isn't anything too unusual. I know my husband thinks my mom is whacked out too, so I guess it comes with the territory. But yea I have qualms w/ his family, b/c the 9 kids were not given the kind of attention i feel kids need. They were just kind of set loose. And their parents enstilled in the kids that to be successful in life they needed to have a really impressive career as a lawyer or doctor! So that kind of messes w/ my hubby b/c he is the youngest and all his bros are lawyers or dentists or whatever, and he doesn't really want to do any of that but he feels pressured to follow suit. And at sunday dinner it's constantly a battle of the brains...who can prove their smarts the best? Like even if you present a fact they argue argue argue---argh! cant you tell I'm a little frustrated right now?

 

[jenee.sum]

ohhhh dear. i didn't read the thread, but just from the title alone, i can tell this will be a dangerous place for me to go...

 

[Fataliya]

I'm one of the lucky ones, too. I get along awesome with my MIL, I really love her to death, and hubby gets along super with my Mom too.

My EX MIL however...never really liked me, and the feeling was completely mutual.

 

[FiestyFemme]

After reading all these stories, I'm a little scared!
I'm getting married in a couple of months, and I really like my future MIL. She is a little outspoken and definitely more aggressive than me, but she's always been nice to me. Granted I have figured things out pretty quickly, like she's always going to be on his side, but I guess that's to be expected. Still, I hope things don't change after we get married or have kids. Not cool.

 

[NutMeg]

I have a love-hate relationship with my partner's mom. Like earlier this year when his parents shipped out a trunk of things from his childhood (he calls it the junk trunk), and she decided to go through it and throw out everything she deemed junk. Like newspaper clippings of him winning things when he was a kid, or crafts he made with his dad's shop equipment when he was little. When she pulls stuff like that it infuriates me.

The relationship between the two of us is great, I love her to bits. She's a potter, and she makes me tons of stuff for my kitchen. It's just when she pulls some stunt like that on my bf that I get really mad.

 

[*Stargazer*]

Mine is the devil. End of story.

 

[leenybeeny]

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Originally Posted by *Stargazer* Mine is the devil. End of story.

That made me laugh out loud in the office!

 

[Mizz.Coppertone]

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Originally Posted by *Stargazer* Mine is the devil. End of story.

Mine must be your's evil twin!

 

[LadyMakeup1]

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Originally Posted by TUPRNUT Oh, Mother-in-Laws. What fun.... A few weeks after our honeymoon we went to visit the in-laws. My hubby was going through some mail over there and came across a credit card bill. Long story short, his mother opened a card up in my husband's name and transferred debt from one of his brother's credit cards onto this new card. She denied doing it althogether at first, then said that my husband told her she could do it. I'm a pretty calm person normally, but this was it for me and I freaked out... I told her how were we trying to be financially responsible, living within our means, staying out of debt, and then she does this behind our back. She just kept offering excuses. Then, while I was pregnant she kept telling me not to get ultrasounds because it would hurt the baby. Over and over again, she kept nagging me about this. I was a parnoid pregnant woman anyway, so this didn't help in the least. And then in the middle of labor she calls my hospital room. She asks to talk to my husband and then goes on to tell him that she had a "dream" that the ulbilical cord was wrapped around our baby's neck. In the middle of labor!!!! Not like I have enough to freak me out as it was... All in all, in the 5 years we've been married, his mother has been the center of many "discussions". I'm fortunate, in that my hubby always sides with me, but it's still a matter of trying to love a family member even when they're more than difficult to love. I could go on, but I can feel myself getting angry all over again... and well, I'm trying my best to learn patience and compassion these days

OMG! poor you dear,
...and I though my MIL was a witch. I have been married 5 years as well but thank to God, my husband and I live far away from her, I think that has helped us a lot. Anyway hang in there, try to be patience, and if you can, move to another city!!! Lol, that's the best advice I can give you.