uhh...i'm starting to wonder...
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SkylarV217
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Society seems to tell us that we need a boyfriend so most girls that age want one so badly they are depressed if they are without. I say own it girl. This is the best time of your life. Use it to define yourself without a man and then you'll be better for it and eventually meet a man that will be better for you b/c you will be a beautiful confidant women that won't take crap from any old guy =)
SingFrAbsoltion
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Don't worry about it. I have friends that age who've never had a serious boyfriend, because they never want to be tied down to one guy. It's all a matter of preference.
HeavenLeiBlu
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I don't see what's so odd about that.
User93
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Nothing wrong about it at all. Thats about you being happy, your priorities, you living your life, not that people. There is nothing "that odd", and if you wont have any serious relationship in next 5 years even, that gonna be up to you only aswell. I have friends who never had a relationship aswell. IMO thats only up to you whre, with who, and what kind of relationship to have. No one else. People just love to be ignorant for some reason.
Beauty Mark
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No, it isn't. I have friends who are 25 who have yet to be in any kind of serious relationship. People have different priorities in life, and sometimes a SO doesn't mesh with them at the time. If you're happy with how your life is- who cares about other people?
Brittni
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I'm 19 and kind of in the same boat; I've had short relationships and boyfriends but nothing really serious for the past year or so. I could easily have a boyfriend because usually all my guy friends are interested in me (not trying to sound cocky, I don't get it, but w/e), but I choose not to because I'm just super picky about true chemistry...I don't like forcing that kind of stuff and honestly I'm just not happy enough with myself at this point to have a boyfriend. That and let's face it...guys our age are usually not that great because a. guys are naturally more immature and b. college age is just a bad age anyways because a lot of guys don't want to be tied down.
They're probably taken back by it in a good way! That's usually how it is. Don't worry.
I believe that you will find the best things when you aren't looking for them -- including a wonderful bf!
AND HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY!!
They're probably taken back by it in a good way! That's usually how it is. Don't worry.
AND HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY!!
NicksWifey
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Hell no, it's not abnormal in any way, shape, or form. I never had a serious relationship until my fiance and he and I got together when I was 20.
Don't let other people make you feel abnormal, just because you don't have a signficant other. Life is too short to worry about that stuff, you are still young and single and probably still have lots of fun!
When you meet that special someone, you will know
Don't let other people make you feel abnormal, just because you don't have a signficant other. Life is too short to worry about that stuff, you are still young and single and probably still have lots of fun!
When you meet that special someone, you will know
neezer
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No, first of all you can't even legally buy liquor lol why is it abnormal for you to not have a boyfriend??
Secondly, you have many years to come in your life. A boyfriend will be included within those years, trust. Let him come to you, when the time in your life is ready for that
Originally Posted by kimmy
how come everytime i tell somebody that i haven't had an actual boyfriend in almost two years, they're taken aback by it? i'm going to be twenty in two weeks, is it really that abnormal for someone my age to not be involved with someone? |
No, first of all you can't even legally buy liquor lol why is it abnormal for you to not have a boyfriend??
Secondly, you have many years to come in your life. A boyfriend will be included within those years, trust. Let him come to you, when the time in your life is ready for that
CantAffordMAC
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I dont think its weird...
But guys used to tell me that when i was younger. I'm only 19 now but before I met my bf 2 yrs ago, guys would always ask me if I had a boyfriend and when i said no they were like shocked. Or if I told them I never had one before they were shocked...
Uhhhh no. You're young...enjoy being single or doing whatever u want to do. If u dont want a boyfriend or havent found the right one, then thats just the way things are...its ur business
But guys used to tell me that when i was younger. I'm only 19 now but before I met my bf 2 yrs ago, guys would always ask me if I had a boyfriend and when i said no they were like shocked. Or if I told them I never had one before they were shocked...
Uhhhh no. You're young...enjoy being single or doing whatever u want to do. If u dont want a boyfriend or havent found the right one, then thats just the way things are...its ur business
LittleDevil
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I am 23 and havent been in a real relationship for the past 5 years. Don't get me wrong, it's not like I don't welcome the opportunity if it were to rise, but for the most part I am content with my life right now. I am working on schooling and trying to figure out what I want to do for the rest of my life. I have seen to many people throw away school or their careers at such an early age, just for some guy.
kimmy
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that's always how my parents taught me, to just not worry about it and to not have a boyfriend be a priority...which has served me well because if having a boyfriend was high up on my agenda, i wouldn't have the job i have and i honestly wouldn't be happy that way. it just makes me think sometimes because people are so shocked. i'm gonna go with that in a good way, like you said, brittni.
thanks for all the replies chickeees!
iluffyew769769
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That's dumb. You are young! have fun!
pumpkincat210
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Not weird unless you are actively trying to find a boyfriend and desperateness is a turnoff. But it sounds like you are just living your life, so I wouldn't worry about it. Getting a boyfriend usually happens at the most unexpected moment too. I got married at 21 and often wonder how life would have turned out if i'd waited although i wouldn't change it now.
noturavgurl
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lol!! i always took it as a compliment.
blindpassion
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girl you're young! have fun
In my mid teens I was in a serious two and a half year relationship, and for the past three years after that ive been dating lots but never in a relationship. the reason I got out of my serious relationship was because I knew I needed to be young, and live life. dont worry about other peoples reactions or their ideals, just be you, live it and love it
X4biddenxLustX
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Don't let it get to you. I haven't had a real "boyfriend" in OVER 2 years either. I've been in this difficult limbo situtation with this guy whose sorta of like a boyfriend but he's not really for about a year and a half. It's no fun!
Many girls these days have this view that they NEED to have a boyfriend. That they constantly need to be with someone and when there not there always on the look out for someone to be with. I'll admit that I use to be one of those girls and if it wasn't for the strong feelings I have for this guy I'm involved with now I would definitely be completely single for a long long time. No girl needs a guy to make her feel like she's worthy. Theres nothing wrong with being a strong single independent woman who can do what she wants whenever she wants and not worry about what a man will think about her. Just live life and have fun and have your priorities straight and if having a relationship isn't on the list then oh well. As long as your happy its all that matters in life.
Many girls these days have this view that they NEED to have a boyfriend. That they constantly need to be with someone and when there not there always on the look out for someone to be with. I'll admit that I use to be one of those girls and if it wasn't for the strong feelings I have for this guy I'm involved with now I would definitely be completely single for a long long time. No girl needs a guy to make her feel like she's worthy. Theres nothing wrong with being a strong single independent woman who can do what she wants whenever she wants and not worry about what a man will think about her. Just live life and have fun and have your priorities straight and if having a relationship isn't on the list then oh well. As long as your happy its all that matters in life.
