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[MissMarley]

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Originally Posted by giz2000 It's very difficult to find a doctor that will perform a tubal ligation on someone Marley's age...they figure that she might change her mind someday (even though she's sure she won't, they won't take that chance).

Yep. Already talked to my doctor about it. I wish they'd believe me. I've felt this way since I was a young teenager. I also have rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia, and that would make it really hard to take care of a child. I would also run the genetic risk of passing it on (my mom has lupus, and they think I developed my autoimmune disease because of hers, and she feels so much guilt because of it). I also don't think I'm emotionally stable enough to be a good mother. So I don't like children, don't think I'm healthy enough to have one, and don't want to pass on any of my conditions to one...but they still say "oh, you'll change your mind when you're older and more maternal". It makes me feel very patronized and devalued. Ugh.

 

[MisStarrlight]

My best friend's husband got his stuff snipped after they had their first kid. The first dr said no, so they kept looking around until they found one that would do it. (He was 22 at the time). They made him freeze some spermies "just incase" though....maybe you could convince a dr to do it if you had some eggs frozen.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by MissMarley Tried it, bled for two months straight (the doctor first said, "Oh, you're probably just spotting", but then examined me and said "Oh, never mind. Let's get you off this NOW")

How did you try it? It only just got FDA approved.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by MissMarley "oh, you'll change your mind when you're older and more maternal". It makes me feel very patronized and devalued. Ugh.

I hate that response from other people. It's like there telling you, "Your not worth anything unless your a mother."

 

[MissMarley]

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Originally Posted by Raerae How did you try it? It only just got FDA approved.

It was the one that you have a period four times a year with. It's been around for at least three years.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by MissMarley It was the one that you have a period four times a year with. It's been around for at least three years.

Oh this is a different one.

This is the 0 period pill. It just got FDA approval. Not sure what the simlarities are between the 4 a year, and the 0 a year pills are in terms of hormones and etc used in them. But just like people have different reactions to different BC, maybe this would be different for you?

As always, ask your OBGYN.