What do you think of sugar daddies?Can a SD/SB turn intoa serioius relationship?

[Boasorte]

I was just wondering, is having a sugar daddy considered prostitution? And is it possible for an agreement like that to turn into a real relationship?
I had an argument with a couple of people about it, and I would like to hear other's views/thoughts
* Sorry my spelling on the title is EFFEF up *

 

[Licota]

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Originally Posted by MsWestchesterNY I was just wondering, is having a sugar daddy considered prostitution? And is it possible for an agreement like that to turn into a real relationship? I had an argument with a couple of people about it, and I would like to hear other's views/thoughts * Sorry my spelling on the title is EFFEF up *

Well, it depends on what you do for your sugardaddy - do you have sex with him, or is he just buying you stuff?

I personally don't think it's prostitution if he don't have sex with you, just buying you stuff. And I don't think that an agreement like that will turn into a real relationship.

 

[MsChrys79]

I think it depends on the individuals, in my opinion it could turn into a relationship and it's not prostitution to me...it's no different than you having sex with your boyfriend and he's buying you gifts the only difference is you guys have an understanding......if something develops cool if not no hard feelings....

 

[COBI]

I guess I honestly never thought of a "Sugar Daddy/SB" as a title that the people in the relationship apply to it, but more like titles that people viewing it applied to the situation.

If there is a formal arrangement/agreement to be SD/SB and sex is involved and love isn't, then how would that not be bartered prostitution?

As far as turning into a serious relationship, I think it would be unlikely, but not impossible, for it to become a serious relationship because there is such an imbalance of power in the relationship.

Definition found online: Prostitution is defined as the act of engaging in sexual activity in exchange for money or goods.

 

[kariii]

I don't know.. but where can I get one?

 

[TISH1124]

I have one but I am married to him, lol.......But, seriously if you are sleeping with a man just for goods/financial gain and there are no feelings attached nor no hopes of ever moving forward with the relationship then I say it's pretty much the same as arranged prostitution...Now if he is your man and he does things for you because he wants to and because he loves you and vice versa then I say that is called a relationship with benefits....But either way I say to each their own...I just don't think I could be the Miss Right Now for any man...well unless Boris Kodjoe called...I may rethink and change my stance ...

Can it turn serious....Not sure...I would not think he would care to much if he allows it to be just a paid venture...so why would he really care to make it more

My grandma used to say....No man wants to turn a Whore into a Housewife...So ????

 

[LMD84]

i always think of the sex and the city episode where sam has a sugardaddy but can't bring herself to have sex with him (he had a saggy bum!) makes me cringe!

Honestly i think it is a form of prostitution - you're still getting material goods/ money or even holidays and such from it - just because you're not hanging out on a street corner doesn't make it different in my eyes!

each to their own but i personally don't think i could have a sugardaddy! it's really sleazey!

 

[Boasorte]

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Originally Posted by kariii I don't know.. but where can I get one?

LOL they're all over girl

I see there are mixed views, I for one, am on the fence with it.
For example, if a man/female, were in the SD/SB relationship, but they started spending more and more time together besides having sex, and really getting to know each other it's likely for one to develop feelings.
I see it in no difference as to someone who has a f**k buddy, and then they start dating.
But again, on the other hand, they guy may just see the girl as a golddigger, and wouldn't want to take it any further, or maybe they both have someone else, and just doing it for the sake of doing it

I don't think there's anything wrong with having a sugar daddy, why not?

 

[RedRibbon]

I'd feel dirty taking stuff from him because I'd always know that he'd wanted something a bit extra. Thus, it would never develop into a proper relationship for me because the only reason we would be together would be because he was buying me stuff and I was giving him my time. I need a meeting of the minds to happen so often if I'm to consider it to be a proper relationship.

 

[TISH1124]

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Originally Posted by MsWestchesterNY LOL they're all over girl I see there are mixed views, I for one, am on the fence with it. For example, if a man/female, were in the SD/SB relationship, but they started spending more and more time together besides having sex, and really getting to know each other it's likely for one to develop feelings. I see it in no difference as to someone who has a f**k buddy, and then they start dating. But again, on the other hand, they guy may just see the girl as a golddigger, and wouldn't want to take it any further, or maybe they both have someone else, and just doing it for the sake of doing it I don't think there's anything wrong with having a sugar daddy, why not?

Ok but neither of the scenarios you mentioned describe a sugar daddy...

A sugar daddy is a man you sleep with ONLY for financial gain in most cases...that has nothing to do with the examples you gave...there is nothing wrong with sleeping with a guy if you enjoy sleeping with each other ....It's when he gives you a bundle of cash at the end everytime is when it crosses over to something else.... But if you want to ask is there anything wrong with a casual sex buddy then no...totally diff scenario

 

[frocher]

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[TISH1124]

Not to mention...I can't sleep with someone that I don't care a lot for...So I am probably biased on this subject. it takes a lot to get to this cookie....it is not a quick fix by any means..I have to be sexually attracted, have some deep emotional feelings for the guy before I can just have sex....I'm so sappy I know

 

[frocher]

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[cyan]

I always think of relationships in general just as prostitution (well, depending on what definition ) You're having sex for money -- just you don't get it then, and sometimes in different forms such as dates or housing. However, when you get into SD/SM, it looks like they give you expensive gifts for friendship / intimacy. Sounds familiar if your SO is older than you and has more money...

 

[TISH1124]

Really.....thats would be pretty sad if every woman felt like that about their relationship....I have sex with my dh because I love him not because he just happens to have a lot of money and provides for me...And he is quite a but younger than I am...hummm interesting...NOT

I say you get out what you put in...Make better choices for yourself....Unless you like being a Prostitute then all is good!

 

[cyan]

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Originally Posted by TISH1124 Really.....thats would be pretty sad if every woman felt like that about their relationship....I have sex with my dh because I love him not because he just happens to have a lot of money and provides for me...And he is quite a but younger than I am...hummm interesting...NOT I say you get out what you put in...Make better choices for yourself....Unless you like being a Prostitute then all is good!

Look, no need to be negative. Guess my opinion is sad, huh?

I don't even understand what your last statement has any concern to.

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I also don't see why the word "prostitute" is such a dirty word to some people. Isn't it true? A prostitute exchanges sex for money. You give and take in a relationship. Don't see why there has to be an absence of love. Errrrm, maybe we just have an interesting way of thinking about relationships.

 

[COBI]

I think the difference is do you have sex and the relationship *for* the money?

I don't mean to be negative, either, but yes, I agree with Tish on this one, if you consider every relationship to be prostitution, then it is kind of sad. In a prostituting relationship, the primary basis of the relationship is sex for money/goods. Is that the primary basis of every relationship? Not IMHO.

My personal guess would be that anyone who considers their current relationship to be a form of prostitution probably (I say probably because maybe we are just applying words differently) isn't in a balanced, healthy, and respectful relationship based first on mutual love.

 

[frocher]

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[TISH1124]

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Originally Posted by COBI I think the difference is do you have sex and the relationship *for* the money? I don't mean to be negative, either, but yes, I agree with Tish on this one, if you consider every relationship to be prostitution, then it is kind of sad. In a prostituting relationship, the primary basis of the relationship is sex for money/goods. Is that the primary basis of every relationship? Not IMHO. My personal guess would be that anyone who considers their current relationship to be a form of prostitution probably (I say probably because maybe we are just applying words differently) isn't in a balanced, healthy, and respectful relationship based first on mutual love.

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Originally Posted by frocher A relationship built on mutual support and love is different than one based on money in exchange for sex. The latter is a case by case relationship, where goods are brought to the table and exchanged, and each walks away no strings attached. A real relationship has strings all over the place. You are there if they are rich and prosperous, or if they are sick and jobless. Their family is your family. Your troubles become their troubles. Your children, mortgage, cars, etc. are joint responsibilities. You love them and they love you. It's apples and oranges.

Exactly what you ladies said........I would never consider myself a prostitute nor would my husband see me as one...we both contribute and we both give and we share in all the day to day responsibilities of a marriage....I don't just lay and he pays....which = Prostitution.

My meaning by my last statement....If both people put in what it takes... love, time, compassion, understanding etc...what you get out of it is a Successful Loving Relationship or marriage...Not an arrangement.

So if I am taking it as Negative being called a Prostitute...then yeah I am Negative as hell and I will not apologize for it.

 

[ForgetRegret]

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Originally Posted by TISH1124 So if I am taking it as Negative being called a Prostitute...then yeah I am Negative as hell and I will not apologize for it.

Sorry, I don't understand how being called a prostitute could be taken in any manner BUT a negative one. I can't see how or why someone would think being called a prostitute would be a positive thing.

BTW, in case what I'm saying here is being misconstrued at all, I'm agreeing with Tish...